Don't Get Yucky

[sparkles143]

So after 4 days he bought wine and said don't get yucky. I ordered food shared the wine and opened a bottle of champagne . I'm not yucky but wish that would not even be an issue. For anyone.
I hate that.
I want that to go away.
Who would ever want to be yucky ? Why an he drink a bottle of wine eat and stop?
Looking for answers.

[available]

Don't Get Yucky

Sparkles he is a normal drinker, we are not! I just wanted a sip of my mums cocktail last night but i know where that will lead and therefore i had to stop the "pity party" for one and accept that i cannot drink. Once you accept that you can never drink it gets easier. I would love to be normal and drink but i am an alcoholic and it took me a long time to admit that and once i did it also became easier.

You know the answer Sparkles and only you can not drink. I can only imagine how hard it is to be with a normal drinker. Be grateful for every af day you have. It would be great if he could fully support you and not drink himself for awhile. have you tried to talk to him about this?

[SoberSoul]

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I was at a sushi dinner and was asked to order the wine last night (must be my reputation as the wine connoisseur). They had me taste it and I put it to my lips and said it was fine. That's as far as it got. I did not want to be teased so I went along with it and discreetly poured my wine into my husband's glass. It is NOT easy being with drinkers and drink pushers. It takes much more strength and commitment when it's all around us. Stay strong.

[NotHappyHourHappyLife]

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Sparkles, I read some of your posts, are you trying to moderate or go alcohol free?
Whether the voice saying, "don't get yucky" is from your husband or from an imaginary devil perched on your shoulder. ... We have all been chastised before by those around us when we are sooner and theoretically mature enough to heed the warning.

I too wish I could behave normal where the lure of alcohol did not pull on my heartstrings! I wish it would not undermine my dream to be a better person. .. But it does, so I cannot afford to let it be in my system anymore.
:hug: Patty

[sparkles143]

Don't Get Yucky

I don't know if it's moderate or abstain. No drinking around kids.
He poured a small glass of JD tonight I don't drink liquor so no issue. No wine in the house. It's an AF free night. ))

[available]

Don't Get Yucky

good on you Sparkles, keep it going. Most of us on MWO cannot moderate as it just leads us to drink more than we did previously. Try for 30 days af and see how you feel, i felt so good after 30 and knew in my heart i could not moderate so kept it up and its great waking up sober everyday.

[sparkles143]

Don't Get Yucky

30 days would be amazing!

[available]

Don't Get Yucky

It feels pretty damn good Sparkles, the oldies on the nest recommend 30 days af to get the al out of your system and then decide to moderate or not. It gets so much easier as time goes on but those al thoughts come to the fore occasionally but they are easily denied as time goes on.

[briseus]

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I agree with Ava, Sparkles...at least try 30 days...see how you feel and if you decide to mod then go from there.
I am just curious if you feel like your husband enables you? When he brings liquor into the house is there some small part of you that wishes that he didn't? Do you immediately get upset with yourself because you know that your resolve will break and you will want to drink all that alcohol? I know, I have been in that boat before...my partner never bought alcohol...but if I sat there and said "do you want to go and get some wine?" and he said "sure" (before he realized how serious of an issue I had with alcohol), I would get upset myself...at him...just at everything.

I guess what I am trying to say is to sit with those feelings...if you have any frustrated feelings regarding alcohol...
And yes, if you want to mod, try the 30 days...you may decide that you feel way better without having any alcohol at all...ever again...

[sparkles143]

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Hi thanks everyone for posting..... Yes I have an enabler but again I am not blaming him at all...yesterday as I was driving home I was hoping no wine was purchased and it wasnt and therefore I had no temptation. Today again nothing to tempt me because he is having his glass of JD. I am fluttering around the house and paying close attention to my daughter who isnt feeling great. Im keeping busy and making a plan, I cant commit to exactly what I am doing at this point. But I feel good, I feel no guilt for giving in and I am happy that guilt did not dominate my mind today. Thank you to all who posted ))

[sparkles143]

Don't Get Yucky

Hey all just want to touch base... Total cravings but I have been exercising every night... Running jogging walking... Distracting. Then if it's 8 pm I have so many endorphins I'm relaxed showered and ready to go! A glass of wine or two does not turn into a bender. Exercise helps... Whole foods. A thought that I want to feel up to running or jogging again tomorrow. I think it's key.