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**meshellrn** · May 13, 2014, 12:37 PM

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Im with ya!!! Lets do it day by day!!!! thanks,

**j-vo** · May 13, 2014, 03:48 PM

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Daisy and Mishel,
Having a partner in crime is the best idea! So glad you both are ready to tackle this beast.

**daisy45** · May 13, 2014, 03:57 PM

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Thanks J-vo. Your post in the Newbies Nest hit home with me tonight. Thanks

**j-vo** · May 13, 2014, 05:02 PM

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Daisy...

**SoberSoul** · May 13, 2014, 06:24 PM

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Daisy, I hope you feel the positive energy I am sending you now. I have a feeling you will end up being a mentor around here. You will beat this. We have to keep coming here relentlessly even if we have a hiccup. No more disappearing act for either of us. This message is for you too MishellRN. You can beat this.

**available** · May 13, 2014, 07:14 PM

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Daisy everyone can beat this with hard work and dedication and saying daily, i will not drink and posting on here. We can only have so many hiccups, commonly called fuck ups before realising that it is time to make a concerted effort to stop. You will get hard love and tough love from the oldies on here but believe me they have done the hard yards, they know the drill and they have succeeded. i for one did not want pats on the head saying "oh its okay you drank", time and time again or else i would still be drinking. I needed to be told in no uncertain terms that i needed to look at my plan, i needed strategies, i needed an end goal to strive for and this is why i am am at 5 months. I consistently listened to the mwoers with years up their sleeve, they failed at the beginning too and look where they are now.

**daisy45** · May 13, 2014, 07:34 PM

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Thanks Sobersoul - feeling the vibes��.
Ava, I am at a point where I don't want any bullshitting - if you are looking at me, still on here after all this time, and you wanna tell me straight, just go ahead! I need that. Time to get my head out of my arse!
I am listening.......thanks

**j-vo** · May 13, 2014, 07:36 PM

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I agree, that it takes a lot of work, hard work, a good plan, and tough love. Addiction is tough, therefore requires a tough-like attitude to put it in its place, but then again, to know that it could try and attack you any time, and if you're not in the right place with a sharp focus, it'll eat you up. Addiction is a disease. Alcoholism is a disease of the mind. It's not that we're trying to strengthen our abs. If we miss a day of sit ups, so what. But if we miss an AF day, then we're back at square one, and consecutive days is the most important thing when trying to beat an addiction. It's where the success lies. After getting a strong platform, then confidence, and building on that. Addiction is a serious matter, and requires a serious plan.

**daisy45** · May 13, 2014, 07:44 PM

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I feel I am, maybe only now, owning the fact that I am addicted. Somewhere in my head there was always a wee doubt.......that doubt is why I am where I am after coming here in October 2010!
And all I had to do was admit it........what a waste!
Do not intend to be looking back at any more wasted time.....

**available** · May 13, 2014, 07:53 PM

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the hardest thing to do is to admit you are an alcoholic but we all come in different forms. we are not bums, we function, so how can we be alcoholics? Because we drink too much, we are not normal, no normal drinker guzzles like we do and drinks daily the al we do. My brother was an alcoholic and died from it but i was never that bad. he had no job and just drank, god i had a job, a husband, 4 children and yet i drank daily. I am that bad in my own way just like you are. I have wasted way too many years drinking and now i dont. Dont regret the past just look forward to the future and post and post. You will not get away from me daisy if you commit to seriously getting rid of al. You can run but you cant hide ha ha! There was no hiding for me when i first started and my cyber buddies knew i was committed. i had to be accountable everyday, rain, hail or shine. If they put in the time and effort for me then the least i could do was repay them back. But in saying that if you do drink (which you wont) dont run and hide, admit defeat and start again but be dedicated to stopping. Half arsed thoughts will take you back to drinking. Pure grit and determination will help you keep sober. I hate al now, i hate what it has done to me, my children, my life but now i have a life.

**mauritiusdodo** · May 28, 2014, 11:49 AM

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HI there Daisy

I am back too, on day three today, hope you are keeping well

x

**daisy45** · May 28, 2014, 01:16 PM

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Hi Mauri; great to see you back! I was AWOL for a long time too! As you can see from this thread started on May 13th, I got so much support - I really did not feel ready, you know, was gonna have 'one more night', but by hanging out here that day, all day, I got my start......today is my day 16 and in that short time everything is changing in a good way......I am behind you all the way oul mate!

**mauritiusdodo** · May 28, 2014, 02:54 PM

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daisy45;1665632 wrote: Hi Mauri; great to see you back! I was AWOL for a long time too! As you can see from this thread started on May 13th, I got so much support - I really did not feel ready, you know, was gonna have 'one more night', but by hanging out here that day, all day, I got my start......today is my day 16 and in that short time everything is changing in a good way......I am behind you all the way oul mate!

Thanks

yeah in a way I don't feel ready either - but then I never will be, wine just calls to me in a way nothing else does, I just need to find a way to ignore it! congrats on 16 days that is brilliant!!

**daisy45** · August 14, 2014, 10:34 AM

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Page 4955 and the next few pages in Newbies Nest.....contains all the posts that contributed to helping me on my day 1 on May 13th......have just read through all of them and also great posts on this thread....keeping this as a record for my final quit....because I will not be fecking it up again!
Just going to post here for a while until I get my act together for sure.....
I haven't gone away....reading anything and everything I can......

**lifechange** · August 14, 2014, 11:35 AM

Time to get real!

Daisy, I don't have any great wisdom for you, as I've also been struggling to find My Way for quite a long time. But I won't give up and you won't give up and I truly believe that each person has what it takes to have a happy, sober life. To find peace within ourselves. What I'm thinking about a lot now is the ACCEPTANCE part of addiction and I think I'm getting closer and closer to accepting this in a positive way-- Before, even after not having had a drink for almost 4 months, there was a small part of me that hadn't fully accepted that alcohol would never again be a part of my life. And that it's is a GOOD thing to be rid of alcohol and all the misery that goes with it. Those 4 months were the best I'd felt in I don't know how many years. And I want that FOREVER.

I am so happy you are here-- and when you feel like it, if you haven't already, maybe you could write about why you drank again? What do you think was missing from your plan not to drink? You know you have so much support here, so many people who love you and care about you. :h

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