Time to get real!

[lifechange]

Time to get real!

I love this quote from Pav today """"Expectations about the likelihood of eventual success determine the amount of effort people are willing to put in. -Moss Kanter That is why, in spite of relapse being part of the disease, I have to believe that I will not relapse. I expect that I won't drink and set my life up accordingly.""

[frances]

Time to get real!

Lifechange - I too have struggled with acceptance - can't say I've overcome that problem completely but I'm much much better as I stay here and continue to see reinforced that moderation rarely (if ever) works and I don't want to wind up back where I was so I have to accept that I won't drink - and Pav is right on track with that thinking! I benefit a lot from taking it one day at a time - much less overwhelming for me that way - for me the long term concept (NEVER) is hard - but any given day is not a problem. So it's one day at a time for me!

[Byrdlady]

Time to get real!

Hey Daisy!
I struggled with the acceptance thing too and the forever aspect was hard to face. Time will go a long way in changing your perspective. By virtue of the fact I had such a hard time quitting, and each time getting worse, it became glaringly apparent that I am an alcoholic. People without AL dependence can quit without the ceremony and declarations. People without AL dependence CAN quit. I couldnt. It came down to 2 choices eventually...give in to drinking completely or fight for my life. I chose to fight. I tell you, the thoughts of forever without AL are much more appealing to me than a life of misery and dispair I got from AL. If I think of living forever with the guilt, shame and remorse of AL, well, that looks pretty good to me. I do not need AL in my life at all. It is now not the big deal it used to be. I am so glad to be rid of it and its pull. I hate AL. But it took time to get here and a lot of support from this forum.
So glad you are back. Byrdie