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    #1

    lurking, but now its time

    hi everyone

    i am normally a very private person, i get a lot of strength from reading posts, but now feel its time to join in. you all seem to get so much from this forum, so why shouldnt i?

    what has prompted me is that my OH is having a bad episode with his treatment for cancer, and i'm feeling that i'm starting not to be able to cope. my 'way out' is to drink, but the need to be ready and able 'just in case' is making me feel awful that i cant do it because i wont be able to drive/make proper decisions.

    i have been drinking well before the cancer was diagnosed, so its not the cause but it didnt give me reason to stop. *icon for slap round face needed*

    i suppose i just need a friendly cyber voice to let me know im not alone :help!
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    #2
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    Hi roxane, glad to see you have decided to join us. This is fun and helpful. I'll be looking for your posts.....Buffy

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      #3
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      Glad to see you have decided to post, it can open up a lot more support. Welcome.
      It's not that some people have willpower and some don't. It's that some people are ready to change and others are not.
      James Gordon, M.D.

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        #4
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        thanks buffy, OH has just gone to bed after taking morphine and not knowing what to do with himself, he feels awful, its 9.20pm here, sun has just gone down on a saturday night.

        here i am looking at (nearly) two screens, i feel so helpless.

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          #5
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          thanks victoria

          i took a while for me to decide to write, i hope i'm glad that i did lol

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            #6
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            Hi Roxane,

            I think most of us were lurkers before posters! Welcome. I think you will be glad you joined in. Sorry to hear about your OH's cancer. That must be so difficult for both of you. Feel free to vent when you need to; we are good listeners.:welcome:

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              #7
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              ducky, i love your dachie avatar, is it yours?

              as for for venting, i would love to know the best place. on this forum for me yes, for OH's cancer.. i know its not appropriate here.. if anyone has any links they could give me i would appreciate it. he has secondary oesophageal cancer which is not good (:H ironic) and we are both 43. at the moment, life is shit and it wont get any better as far as i can see. sorry for being so depressing

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                #8
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                Hi roxanne

                actually you can talk about your OH's cancer here - people have shared very similar stories. Life is often shit isn't it? Vent away.

                Rip x

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                  #9
                  lurking, but now its time

                  That was my doxie Hans, who I lost in March. My heart is still broken. He was a rescue and so crippled at the end, but such personality. He had just one tooth, which is why his tongue was hanging out.

                  I don't know any sites w/r to cancer, but I am guessing some other members will. And trust me, you will see that most of us post about non drinking issues that affect us and our drinking, so feel free to share when you think it is appropriate. Folks here do care about what is going on with one another, not just about the drink. It is a little quiet because of the holiday but things will pick up during the week.

                  You might try posting under Newbies in Need (under the getting started category) as well. I post there and under the monthly moderations threads, plus anywhere else a topic piques my interest.

                  My heart goes out to you. I would feel the same way about life just now. I hope that in time your life will feel good again. Please stay involved here; it will help!:hug:

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                    #10
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                    Hi, I'm glad you found us, and am so sorry about your husband. We do have members on the site who have had similar experiences. Best of Luck to you.:welcome:
                    Enlightened by MWO

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                      #11
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                      Welcome Roxane,
                      So glad that you are here. Taking that first step to even start talking here is huge. It took me a awhile too. Glad you are here!!
                      "Keep your eyes and heart focused on the end goal at all times, and never settle for less."

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                        #12
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                        Hi Roxane
                        Oh dear, you poor darling. My heart goes out to you both. I cannot imagine how hard this time must be for you. You are being tested and only you can decide how to cope with it for the best.
                        Personally, I am a stronger, more courageous person when I am sober. Drinking doesn't really mask the feelings and make us feel better about the problems in our life. We still have to face them and it's worse with a hangover!
                        blessings and love to you.
                        Jane
                        Jane :heart:

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                          #13
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                          Welcome Roxie, glad you are here with us.
                          Meow-Meow
                          MonaKitty

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                            #14
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                            thanks for the welcome everyone

                            i will posting in newbies in need or maybe even 'tell us your story'. maybe i'm not ready for that just yet :H

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                              #15
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                              Glad to see you back. Good morning! I have been here a few weeks and I still haven't posted my story, but I have posted on several threads. Do what feels right for you.

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