Some advice please

[Daisy38]

Some advice please

Alky that's a really great summary, I am terrible for creating problems and being a 'worrier' I absolutely repeat the mantra 'you don't know if that has or will happen' that's in every aspect of my life. The colleagues that I mentioned didn't know me as a 'drinker' at all, they saw that I didn't drink at work socials but were aware I enjoyed having a couple of glasses of wine with my husband. My job is a lifestyle long working hours and socialising together means if your not 'accepted' or part of their perceived norm its a pretty lonely place to be.

[Daevid]

Some advice please

Daisy. Have you ever considered that people who say you're no fun sober are maybe a little insecure about their own alcohol consumption.

Besides, it takes time to regain your social comfort after abstaining. (I'm only on day 3 of this sobriety but was previously sober for many years)

[Daisy38]

Some advice please

Hi I thought I would jump in with a quick update, I had a very candid conversation with my hubby I explained the feelings I have about my drinking and the fact that it is causing me a problem, he was/is typically lovely and supportive of my decision to stop drinking, and yes he did realise more than I thought he had - you people are good! I have sent the paperwork off for some counselling, I have been reading and reading on here, I'm 21 days al free tomorrow, my new beginning has begun, thank you for your advice

[SoberSoul]

Some advice please

Hi Daisy, you have a husband that loves you and thinks the best of you. He sounds very supportive. Mine was the same; always telling me I didn't have a problem. I knew I did. Like everyone says 'if you think you have a problem, then you do' even if it's an emotional problem dealing with your own drinking patterns.

Do what I did if you feel it might work. I sat hubby down and explained that my brain did not work like his. I explained how I eyed the bottle of wine ensuring I got more than my share, that I had finished other people's drinks, that I thought of drinking constantly and it was interfering with everything and that you just want to get the monkey off your back no matter how much you drink compared to everyone else. Don't let your volume of alcohol intake stop you from stopping. It kept me drinking for six or seven years. I figured I drank far less than my friends but I am a lightweight and it took less to get me drunk (I kept forgetting that part).

Stay close and keep posting.