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    Today is my first day here

    I found this site last weekend and signed up today. I am very scared because I have been in denial for several years about my drinking being a problem. I have reached the point where I can't stop once I start, and haven't gone longer than 3 days without drinking in several years. I have been in denial about craving alcohol for as long as I remember. I am very embarrassed about my perceived "weakness" and haven't admitted to anybody that I have a problem, until now. This is going to be a difficult process for me as all of my friends drink regularly. I live in a community where alcohol is part of every function, from baby showers to funerals. I want to learn to moderate my drinking, but realize that might not be an option and this scares me. Alcoholism is prevalent in my family with both of my parents, all my siblings and my grandparents having suffered with this disease. I am hopeful that I can conquer this knowing that all of them experienced long time sobriety. I don't have any family left as I am the only child of my parents who have both passed, as have my grandparents. I don't have a relationship with my half siblings.

    I want this more than I have ever wanted anything!
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    Today is my first day here

    Welcome aboard!
    Wanting it and the willingness to make some changes is a winning combination! Let me invite you to 2 places, Newbies Nest and the Tool Box. Newbies nest is a great community of folks in all stages of quitting. It is busy so theres always someone around to talk. The Tool Box is a treasure trove of tips and coping skills to help you thru these changes.
    This place saves lives and Im one of them! we are glad you found us! Byrdie
    All you gotta do, is get thru this day. AF 1/20/2011
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      Today is my first day here

      Welcome to the boards
      Outside of a dog a book is mans best friend. Inside of a dog its too dark to read

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        Today is my first day here

        boozele;1690545 wrote: I found this site last weekend and signed up today. I am very scared because I have been in denial for several years about my drinking being a problem. I have reached the point where I can't stop once I start, and haven't gone longer than 3 days without drinking in several years. I have been in denial about craving alcohol for as long as I remember. I am very embarrassed about my perceived "weakness" and haven't admitted to anybody that I have a problem, until now. This is going to be a difficult process for me as all of my friends drink regularly. I live in a community where alcohol is part of every function, from baby showers to funerals. I want to learn to moderate my drinking, but realize that might not be an option and this scares me. Alcoholism is prevalent in my family with both of my parents, all my siblings and my grandparents having suffered with this disease. I am hopeful that I can conquer this knowing that all of them experienced long time sobriety. I don't have any family left as I am the only child of my parents who have both passed, as have my grandparents. I don't have a relationship with my half siblings.

        I want this more than I have ever wanted anything!
        Welcome. You are not alone in this and you have taken an important first step. My situation is very similar to yours (click on my name and read my 1st few posts) except I have about a week start ahead of you. If you want this as much as you say you can do it but it is hard work. Find what works for you, try hard and stay with us.
        “Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness”- Desmond Tutu


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          Today is my first day here

          Welcome to the boards Boozele and congrats on making this big step!
          I often found that wanting it wasn't good enough when I started on my sober journey(ies) {quit more then once, of course}. It wasn't until I had a plan put into place that it helped me string along quite a few sober days together. Modding never worked for me, as it didn't work for many others on here, but we can't knock it until we try it! I have heard some stories where it had worked...it just never worked for me. I had to quit, completely, cold-turkey, 110%.
          The first step is to realize that something is going on or that something is 'not right'...and you've done that, kudos to you.
          I am, by no means, an expert. I just wanted to post, give my two cents and let you know that being sober really is better...even when life gets tough and throws......well, things better then lemons....we gotta just deal with it and turn it around. Drinking never resolved anything...it 'stunted' my growth...I have to relive and relearn the past 5 years that I spent perpetually drunk in the small amount of sober time I have accumulated and it does get overwhelming! But it's very worth it.
          I am sorry to hear that you don't have any close family near you...do you have any other support systems in place? Are you setting a date up to quit?
          As Byrdie said, hang around the Newbies Nest and especially the Toolbox, which is chock-full of helpful info. Read through all the posts on the forums - it definitely helped me.
          Good luck, and congrats on this decision. You won't regret it.

          Bri.

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