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[Pinkpoppy]

So sick and tired of feeling sick and tired.

It is Sunday and once again it is nearing the end of the day and I am only starting to feel a little better. I don't like what I do or who I am when I drink, its not fair on my body and its not fair on my beautiful Hubby. Again I wake up with regrets from the night before, this is not me!

I glance at my weekend to do list which is pinned up on a board. I make this list each Friday. I have done nothing on this list. I get two precious days a week and instead of looking after myself after a big work week I trash myself.
Well I am changing this destructive habit now. I am not going to have 'a Sunday drink' (which turn into drinks) I am going to wake up feeling fresh Monday morning - ready to take on the week and I will not drink on work nights or Friday night, because I cannot just have 'a' drink. I want to feel good every day

[available]

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Hi PP and welcome. i must say that even if i do nothing on my "list" it doesnt matter as i am sober. i was like you 8 months ago and now weekends are fantastic. i dont wake up ashamed, guilty, anxiety ridden all to hit the repeat button at 4pm. Do you drink during the weekdays also? i drank everyday of the week and weekends, well of course weekends were to drink and relax.

head over to the newbies nest and make yourself known. Read and post and read and post. i decided to put in the effort of being sober with being on here instead of planning my drinking.

you will feel great everyday when you get al out of your life.

[witchywoman]

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Hay PinkPoppy...
I know how you feel....if you can just get past that 1st moment that you would have a drink...you can do it....plenty of soda water & juice to replace the "liquids" your body is used to, then you can do it.....I find it easier to have nothing at all than to have a couple of drinks & stop....
good luck
WW

[autumn]

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Good morning PP,

Welcome, you have found an amazing place that offers so much help and support to quit this beast of Al.

Please, pop to the newbies nest and check out the tool box & have a good root around here and read, read, read, hopefully whilst slurping a huge cold soft drink to rehydrate.

We all know how hard it can be to break this viscous evil cycle, but as the wonderful people here are testament to, it can be done. There is so much support and sound advice to be found here, and no one ever judges.

I hope you have a gentle day, be kind to yourself. Maybe write a list as to why you want to stop, and refer to it and add to it today as you get to your usual drinking hour.

Please stay strong, and keep posting, we are here for you, and will help & support you all we can. We have all been there too many times.

:l

[Pinkpoppy]

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available;1694337 wrote: Hi PP and welcome. i must say that even if i do nothing on my "list" it doesnt matter as i am sober. i was like you 8 months ago and now weekends are fantastic. i dont wake up ashamed, guilty, anxiety ridden all to hit the repeat button at 4pm. Do you drink during the weekdays also? i drank everyday of the week and weekends, well of course weekends were to drink and relax.

head over to the newbies nest and make yourself known. Read and post and read and post. i decided to put in the effort of being sober with being on here instead of planning my drinking.

you will feel great everyday when you get al out of your life.

Thank you for the welcome I look forward to not have that anxiety feeling at night and in the mornings and look forward to hanging out here :h

[Pinkpoppy]

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autumn;1694346 wrote: Good morning PP,

Welcome, you have found an amazing place that offers so much help and support to quit this beast of Al.

Please, pop to the newbies nest and check out the tool box & have a good root around here and read, read, read, hopefully whilst slurping a huge cold soft drink to rehydrate.

We all know how hard it can be to break this viscous evil cycle, but as the wonderful people here are testament to, it can be done. There is so much support and sound advice to be found here, and no one ever judges.

I hope you have a gentle day, be kind to yourself. Maybe write a list as to why you want to stop, and refer to it and add to it today as you get to your usual drinking hour.


Please stay strong, and keep posting, we are here for you, and will help & support you all we can. We have all been there too many times.

:l

Great sensible tips, thanks, I did just that and wrote down a list. And I was gentle on myself. I am now sipping on tea that I made with a nice tea pot and might have scroll around here :h

[Pinkpoppy]

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witchywoman;1694340 wrote: Hay PinkPoppy...
I know how you feel....if you can just get past that 1st moment that you would have a drink...you can do it....plenty of soda water & juice to replace the "liquids" your body is used to, then you can do it.....I find it easier to have nothing at all than to have a couple of drinks & stop....
good luck
WW

Thank You :h

[available]

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its an amazing place here, i call it my AA, i dont have to leave home and have made so many lovely friends who all totally understand what being an alcoholic is.

As Autumn says be gentle with yourself for the first few weeks, eat when you want, sleep when you can and get all al out of the house. We dont need temptation around us, avoid social situations if possible that involve al. I hibernated for weeks and weeks until the awful cravings passed and the al brain stopped trying to tell me 'that i wasnt really that bad", that "have a drink, it wont hurt" and "you deserve a drink, you have had a hard week, you are stressed".

its a great feeling being sober every single day, i dont miss al but the first few weeks are hard but well worth the fight as you have so much to gain and nothing to lose.

[little beagle]

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Hello Pinkpoppy. :welcome: hit the tool box and the newbies nest.
MWO changed my life. No more of ghose stupid what did I do regrets and anxiety from alcohol. It does feel great. Like Ava said, even if I don't get a lot accomplished on the weekend, I still feel great.

[Lavande]

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Hello & welcome Pinkpoppy!

Glad you found us & decided to take back control of your life!
Prepare yourself with a good working plan & keep your commitment strong, you won't be sorry.

Please jump into the Newbies Nest for more support
Wishing you the very best!

Lav

[paulywogg]

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Welcome Pinkpoppy(cute name btw)welcome to mwo

[Matt M.]

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Pinkpoppy~ thanks for sharing! I am new here as well with 13 days AF. I'm not new to quitting. As someone stated earlier I made a list of everything I had to loose, and the horrible feelings of guilt and remorse. It helps me to go back and read that.
The main thing that has helped me and I would suggest to you l is get on here and read, read, read. When I read post from post like yours it is a reminder for me I am just like that, and If I drink I will be feeling that morning after misery. I also read stuff post from people with many days of AF and it gives me hope! This Is my AA as well
Please keep posting on your progress and I wish you well!

Here is Somene good advice I received from a member( turnagain) ~

"After trying and failing to control my drinking for years, I was finally successful because of the ironclad decision to*no longer drink...no matter what.

No matter what...isn't about willpower.*No matter what*is what you cling to in the times when the physical cravings get so great you feel like you NEED to drink NOW. Ride it out....the acute phase of detox is relatively short.

No matter what...gives you the time and space to learn and accept that*alcohol*is the problem and will*always*be the problem. Alcohol is a toxic, carcinogenic, addictive drug. It is damaging to all who drink it. No exceptions. It leads to addiction for those who have physiological vulnerabilities. It damages every cell in the body. It causes brain damage. It damages the part of the brain that makes decisions. The damage is cumulative.*

No matter what....will help you regain the trust and respect of your family as they see that this time IS truly different.

No matter what....will give you freedom from the white-knuckle fears about relapse because you will truly understand thatalcohol is the problem - not you.*Keep alcohol out of you then there is no problem. And that is power.

Healing is a process. And it takes a massive, active, informed effort. It also helps to get support. I got mine online here. You are defnitely ready to be done with addiction once and for all. The thought of*Forever*isn't scary when you realize all it takes to honor that committment is being able to say*I no longer drink...no matter what....one*moment*at a time."

AF August 5, 2014

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[LavenderBlue]

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Hi PinkPoppy (oooo, another flower name! ^_^ )

I just started out here last weekend and the support here is amazing. There are some truly wonderful folks here with the kind of advice I never had before. I read for hours at a time over that first weekend and I'm still reading every chance I get. All of the best wishes your way!

[NotHappyHourHappyLife]

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Welcome, Pink Poppy!

You can be sister... my thread is called, "Welcome to the Window Shoppers" and tells about my journey. Feel free to go to the Newbies Nest, or to continue to post here. You have a world wide support of people who know what you've been through.

You can't fool us. We know how your brain works
We are all in different places in our journey... look at Lavender Blue, who is new here too, but ready to hold your hand along the way.

Stop.
Try.
Do.

:l Patty

[Pinkpoppy]

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I feel very thankful for the warm welcomes, sensible helpful tips and encouragement here from you ALL :h Thank you for all your replies - I have taken everything on board and it has helped - from writing lists, removing myself from temptation, to popping into the newbies nest. Okay I am only on night 3 AF (Friday will be a good test!) but so far I have been able to resist and brew a nice tea instead. I felt tired today but had an undeniably good feel attitude today, and I had an amazing sleep last night with lovely dreams. I guess the next challenge will be Friday night! I will be strong! Thanks again :h