A few of my friends picked up that phrase, probably from a meme somewhere; but it's hitting me right this moment in terms of not drinking and having better boundaries.
I've got a friend messaging me that I know is jealous about the time a third friend spends with me. The reasons friend #3 spends more time with me is that I never pressure him to, I never try to "make him" do things to spend time with me, soooo yeah, he'd rather spend the time with me.
I was trying to think of a good way to say that to the middle friend and I realized...no, no that's not my job. If friend 2 and 3 want to get together and sort their stuff out, more power to them. Right now, it is 100% more important that I stay sober than I let myself get dragged into drama and playing peacemaker. And right now, what I want is a quiet day not dealing with things that really aren't my problem to fix anyway, darn it.
I've got a friend messaging me that I know is jealous about the time a third friend spends with me. The reasons friend #3 spends more time with me is that I never pressure him to, I never try to "make him" do things to spend time with me, soooo yeah, he'd rather spend the time with me.
I was trying to think of a good way to say that to the middle friend and I realized...no, no that's not my job. If friend 2 and 3 want to get together and sort their stuff out, more power to them. Right now, it is 100% more important that I stay sober than I let myself get dragged into drama and playing peacemaker. And right now, what I want is a quiet day not dealing with things that really aren't my problem to fix anyway, darn it.
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