New 24, UK and no idea what to do

[rumplestiltskin]

Hey all,

im 24, males UK and I suffer a chronic illness since 21, well not felt right since 18 and it took a toll onmy life was house bound for 3 years then got well enough to be me slightly again.

I met my partner and we had a baby we been together 2 years live spearately etc..

Our sex life went to zero, affection zero as she doesnt have any of that drive but thats not the point right now...she never wants to and shes not an affectionate person which I think contributes to my situation but alcohol is how i feel better

I feel that depressed lately and I started drining and now I drink a lot, mostly nights and it makes me feel better, a lot better, the music the alcvohol its when I feel happy like everything is going to
be better!

I feel like, unless theres a drink wheres the fun, the buzz the good feeling sorry im bad at explaining but hello!

I dont know what to say really I just dont feel like im happy unless im drinking and its getting worse and worse...



Been drinking right now and know I need help but terrified of even typing this....

I find any excuse or reason to be on my own at home drinking, and listening to music...

[Overit-still]

Rumple

Hey all,

im 24, males UK and I suffer a chronic illness since 21, well not felt right since 18 and it took a toll onmy life was house bound for 3 years then got well enough to be me slightly again.

I met my partner and we had a baby we been together 2 years live spearately etc..

Our sex life went to zero, affection zero as she doesnt have any of that drive but thats not the point right now...she never wants to and shes not an affectionate person which I think contributes to my situation but alcohol is how i feel better

I feel that depressed lately and I started drining and now I drink a lot, mostly nights and it makes me feel better, a lot better, the music the alcvohol its when I feel happy like everything is going to
be better!

I feel like, unless theres a drink wheres the fun, the buzz the good feeling sorry im bad at explaining but hello!

I dont know what to say really I just dont feel like im happy unless im drinking and its getting worse and worse...



Been drinking right now and know I need help but terrified of even typing this....

I find any excuse or reason to be on my own at home drinking, and listening to music...

Hello Rumple! Glad to meet you! So, question.. If it makes everything better and you feel better....what's the problem? There must be one of you're here. Tell us about it

[rumplestiltskin]

I dont know It just makes me feel alive, like I have so much ahead of me! Im building a business when I have a clear mind, I guess feeling a lone and like no one out there the same in my situation I can relate with....sorry if I dont make sense

[available]

Hi Rumple and welcome. I used to think al made me happy and helped me get through life but i ended up very alone and with a huge drinking problem. I always thought i would be bored out of my brain if i did not drink but now there are not enough hours in the day to get things done. I enjoy life now. It was very hard in the beginning to stop drinking, the withdrawals were not good but i came on here and read and posted. Two years sober for me and i never ever want to drink again, i never want to be in the grip of alcohol, life is much clearer without it.

[Choices]

Hi Rumple, welcome.

I found that same kind of feeling when I drank. But it doesn't last does it.. unless you drink more? But then that feels terrible. Nothing else is fun. It's a really bad trap. If you really think about it. It's scary to make your first step and post. You do want help if you came here. Our minds can play tricks on us when we are alcohol dependent. It's tough to be a parent too! Especially hungover!! I think the best thing to do is get as much information as you can to come to terms. Read here, watch movies regarding alcohol abuse, google.. luckily now there is a lot of information we can get our hands on from our own home. We are here to help, everyone understands your post all to well! But there is a nasty underbelly we all know too. You could always try to go a week sober to see how you feel. It's recommended to go 30 days.. After that you will feel so much better. You don't need to be afraid, we all have been there and the other side is so worth it.

[rumplestiltskin]

Thanks for all replies, I am on 4 beers and a glass of whiskey tonight, I've decided after New years, I am going Sober 5 months, as it will be my birthday and will no doubt have some then, but is it ok to wait until after?

I am going to start exercising everyday from New Years, as its my brothers wedding that night so again Christmas and New Years, it would be hard on me to not have anything! But yeah....

Day before yesterday I had 5 beers, a bottle of cider and a little bit of wine, I had the worst hangover, in bed all day feeling so sick and dizzy, thinking never again but it wears off when feeling better and want it.

I know I will do the 5 months as I dont want to destroy my liver...

[Nelso]

OH, that cycle sounds way too familiar. Wake up in the morning, feel like crap, swear off AL and race home to buy more beer.

In my humble opinion, if you really want to quit, I say no time like the present. Set some small goals and celebrate them. 1 day then 7 days 30 days. Because if you shoot for 5 months, you dont any victories along the way until that point. Find a way to fight the "urge" when it strikes, I find distracting my brain by telling myself....I dont drink works.

I wont be easy at first, but I can assure you with enough attempts at winning the battle, it will get easier, and the urges will come less often.

Wishing you all the strength needed to beat the beast

[Byrdlady]

Why not start tomorrow? I found MWO in late 2009, it tooks months before Igot the nerve to post. My intention was to stop Jan 1, 2010. Then Feb 1. Then March 1. I went all the way around the calendar and promised myself Jan 1, 2011 was it for sure. It wasnt...not til my husband walked out on me Jan 19, 2011. I had to hit rock bottom before it got my attention. I hope you wont be as stubborn and stupid as I was.

We all understand that you feel as tho AL is the only thing that can make you happy. Here's the thing, that's just how addiction works. It WANTS you to be a slave to it and its not happy until it has you all to itself. I drank to be social, but became isolated. I drank to relax, but ended up anxious as hell. I drank because I thought it made me feel good, but it was slowly killing me. During that last year, I felt like hell most of the time, until I could drink again. Then the cycle started all over again the next day. Unfortunately, this doesnt just get better, beating addiction takes effort and determination. Tomorrow never comes for us, we will always find an excuse to start later. My birthday, the holdays, a wedding, a big game, the day has a Y in it. Trust me, I was really good at excuses. Until I was faced with losing everything....
I thought that life would be dull and boring. But you know what's dull and boring? Drunk people. I'm 1000 times happier not drinking, my health and relationships are much improved and I dont make an ass of myself as much!
I know you are afraid of what what a future without AL will look like, I know I was. Im here to tell you, it looks fantastic! Dont let FEAR of it keep you from doing it. There is a lot more to fear if we dont quit than if we do. Check out the 2 links in my signature line. There is a guy named Dutch over in Newbie's Nest you should talk to, he's about your age and he is coming up on 10 months sober.
Glad you are here! Dont waste another precious day of your life on AL. Hugs, Byrdie

[rumplestiltskin]

I had like a quarter glass whiskey left, I was urging to just down it, I took a sip and just chucked the rest out the window and going bed in a min that was hard lol!

But I know ill have a few beers christmas, not many as with family, new yerars a few again, but I know I wont do it until then, but I know I can do at least once a month until my birthday, better than multiple times a week right?

[Byrdlady]

Lets talk again tomorrow when you are 100% sober and on Day 1. B