A New Beginning

[Deefor]

Hi all,I just joined MWO because I want to do abstinence. I have had too many failed attempts at moderation and I know I can never have one drink,it's all or nothing. So here goes,I'm starting Antabuse tomorrow since I was drinking yesterday I want to be certain all alcohol is out of my system.I have tried Antabuse before with great success for a month when I just stopped taking it..
My plan is to take half tablet every second day,I'll put them in my Monday thru Sunday vitamin box and take them with breakfast..
I'll check in here daily and read the tool box etc.

[treetops]

Good luck Deefor. The early days will not be easy as you probably know so keep posting here and join the Newbies Nest to start with. We also have at least two dedicated abstinence threads - Daily Abs, and Ladies on a Mission (we also have a male regular, Mr G, and we are not always Ladylike!). There are other threads as well so have a look around. But you might find Newbies the best starting place.
I used Antabuse to kick start my final quit over three years ago. It was very effective for me and I took about the same dose as you. Regularly without fail. I liked the way it removed the chatter about drinking or not, and just took the "will I," "won't I" out of the question. I was certain I wanted to quit but had always managed to talk myself into just that one drink with earlier quits before I started on the AB. I still had to work very hard at changing patterns I had developed over many years and the desire to drink (and the excuses I could always find).
The support I had from MWO was part of this too - especially the Daily Abs folk. I didn't treat abstinence as a negative life sentence but as a positive change in my life for the better. This was not earth-shattering and I still continued to face lots of pressures at work and home. As do many people. But I am so gladI removed AL from my life and I bet you will too.

[Deefor]

Thank you treetops for your reply. We've all been through the struggles. I'm so determined to quit once and for all but I've been determined so many times before. This time the Antabuse will help get me started so will stay on it for 3 months,I know from before that I will absolutely not drink with it.
I will check out the newbies nest for now and eventually feel my way around the site.
Well done on over 3 years quit,that's excellent,I'll get there.

[available]

Hi Dee and welcome. I thought i could moderate and failed time and time again. As hard as it is to think never to drink again, as time goes on it does get easier. I just listened to the old timers on the newbies nest. Took in the advice i needed and took it day by day, hour by hour and minute by minute. 2 years later and i am sober and love it. Get rid of the al out of your house, grab onto all the support you can find and be gentle on yourself. Do whatever works for you with the AB. See you around

[Deefor]

Thanks available and well done on your 2 years,I can't wait to get some AF time so actually excited about starting the AB tomorrow.Goodbye hangovers and all the crazy nonsense said and done while drinking.
Yep,day by day and joining this forum is helping already.

[available]

I dont miss one single hangover and that feeling of guilt, shame and remorse. I always wondered what i would do with all that "time" i had as i would not be drinking but now there are never enough hours in the day. My 22 year old son is 7 weeks sober and sees the difference his life is now he is not drinking. I am one proud mum, not only of what i have achieved but my son also. Having the support of others that understand helped me so much. We get what you are doing and what you will go through. No judgement from us.

[moni]

Deefor, best of luck on your journey. Take baby steps but keep reminding yourself why you're doing it. Even though I'm only 25 days AF so far, I can already see the changes in my life and feel proud of myself. Too many bad things happened when I drank and that in itself wasn't a good thing.

[treetops]

How are you today Deefor?
Did you pop the pill?

Ava - great that your son is taking this step early in his life and that he has your support.

[Pie]

Hello Deefor, I used Antabuse as a tool in my quit for about the first 6 months, then took it from time to time if I felt wobbly. Changing up my habits, and my thinking about alcohol took effort and time. Now, it's been 18 months since I've had to drink. Freedom is a very good thing!

So glad you found us!

[Byrdlady]

Welcome aboard, Deefor!
2 great links in my singnature line, Newbies Nest and the Tool Box! We 're glad you found us!!! Byrdie

[Deefor]

Thanks everybody for the great welcome. On day 2 now and feeling great,first day on AB.
I'm on holidays in Bali so will have more time to post when I get home in a week but will still come here every day. Anyway I'm so glad I brought the AB with me as I have had them a while and just kept postponing taking them. This morning was so great waking up with no hangover and enjoying a nice leisurely breakfast.This is how it's going to be from now on,feeling very positive.

[available]

the firsts are always hard Dee but so doable sober. My first holiday sober was in Thailand and its alky paradise there. There is no time like the present to stop drinking otherwise we will procrastinate until the cows come home about when is a good time. Enjoy that holiday of yours and keep being accountable and positive. Everything sounds great.

[Deefor]

So true available,I was famous for saying I'll quit after Christmas,new year,birthday,that wedding etc There is always something so holidays or not I'm quitting and feeling great about it. I just like to remind myself that it's the first drink which causes all the problems so avoid the first drink.