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    Day 52 and struggling

    Hi everyone, I am on day 52 and I have been having a lot of cravings today, really just wishing I could have a few wines, I think mainly due to : boredom, irritability (DS 7 years old is being very demanding), sad as my DD (23) has gone home after visiting us for a few days and just generally naffed off!!

    I have read a post by abccowboy which has helped a bit but I just have that little voice in my head telling me how great it would be to drink - I am not trying not to listen to it but I have a headache from the effort, going for a bath now to see if that will help me relax

    Just needed to post to get it off my chest!!
    One day at a time - this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has yet to come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering...
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    HI Maddy,
    Sorry you are struggling, hang in there....cravings will pass!

    One thing that that helped me was something that I read somewhere, made me think....
    "If I take a drink now, I will have to go through everything I have gone through just to get to where I am today"......

    And since I have always heard "It gets better", and believe me, it does....I wanted to get to where "It was better...."
    So stayed the path!

    Good luck!:welldone:
    Kicked AL to the curb November 9, 2014!

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      #3
      Maddyme,
      Right then you've just done a magnificent job of getting through pre-Christmas and Christmas alcohol free..............now we're all into the post Christmas blues otherwise known as the what nows. Its completely normal and it will pass. Its a bit flat in the JC household.

      And you and me know it wouldn't be a few..........it would be full steam ahead and start again in the New Year.............no wait make it Easter, well after my birthday, his birthday, the cats birthday.............hang on to this quit like it was a precious jewel...........you're worth more than a glass of wine............ you are the jewel.

      Waves to you New Page.
      It could be worse, I could be filing.
      AF since 7/7/2009

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        #4
        Like New and JC, dont drink, its not worth going back to day 1 again. Take as many baths as you want, each as much food as you want, log on here and read. I think my 7 showers in one day when i first stopped drinking helped me. Its just changing our brain to other thoughts. You wont drink, you logged on here to be accountable which shows your dedication Maddy.
        AF free 1st December 2013 - 1st December 2022 - 9 years of freedom

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          #5
          Hey Maddie (if I can call you that...since everyone else did...HA!)

          I am only on day 29 AF, so I am behind you, and I'm looking ahead with stars in my EYES at being on my day 52!!! Do you really want to start over and be back to trying to figure out when your new "Day 1" is going to be? You've got almost TWO WHOLE MONTHS of sobriety under your belt now.

          Come on....I want you AHEAD of me in this AF journey! So...stay in your little sober car and keep rolling down the sober highway and know that I'm BEHIND you, pushing you along, just as you are AHEAD of me, urging me to follow you. )

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            #6
            Think of the shakes,sweats,nausea,anxiety,etc tomorrow if you were to drink tonight,bleh,you DON'T want to go through that again,I hope the craving has subsided by now and you go to bed safe and sober,your tomorrow will be amazing instead of awful
            I have too much shit to do today and tomorrow to drink:sohappy:

            I'm taking care of the "tomorrow me":thumbsup:
            Drinkin won't help a damn thing! Will only make me sick for DAYS and that ugly, spacey dumb feeling-no thanks!

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              #7
              Madonna! I'm on day 53 today, we are twinning!
              I'm feeling some of that too. I know I am not going to drink because I take my Antabuse every single morning, but I get the feelings too. Especially now.
              I'm glad you came on here and posted. When I'm having a hard time I come here, and I also watch YouTube videos of alcoholics and it helps me to get through.
              Hang in there Madonna! We have lots of sober memories to make!
              Day 1 again 11/5/19
              Goal 1: 7 days :heartbeat:
              Goal 2: 14 days :happy2:
              Goal 3: 21 days :happy2:
              11/27/19: messed up but back on track
              12/14/19: bad doozy but back on track

              One day at a time.

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                #8
                Maddy - Sorry to hear you're struggling but you came to the right place. So glad you reached out and asked for support. How are you doing now? We all have temptations for sure, and they can be challenging. For me, I always make myself wait an hour or even 30 minutes before I do ANYTHING. Most of the time, the temptation passes that quickly. You'll find your own "best methods" that work for you personally. Please check in and give us an update. If you need to talk, I'm available - just give a shout.

                Hugs to you :hug:
                Toolbox/Toolkit

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                  #9
                  Hiya Maddy I hope you check in today. Of course you will get cravings from time to time but they are surmountable. The best advice I ever had was to accept them and let them pass. They are horrible and they do feel incredibly powerful but if you never had them how would you know you were an alkie. Let us know how you are getting on :hug:

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                    #10
                    Hi everyone, thank you SOOOOO much for all the lovely messages, I am still sober - don't think drinking is an option for me anymore really - but the cravings were just awful yesterday, just couldn't stop thinking about having a drink whatever I did to distract, I think what set me off was there was a bottle of red wine open on the windowsill in the kitchen, we bought just the one so we could offer my MIL and FIL a glass on Christmas day and my DD said she might drink the rest so I didn't throw it away, she didn't drink it so it just sat there along with a box of liqueur chocolated my in laws bought for us not knowing I had quit, anyway I have got DH to move (and hide) both now so that won't be a trigger again! I am so moved by all your posts, it means such a lot to me to have you all routing for me I am going to my regular AA meeting today, don't think it has helped that I haven't been to a meeting for a week now, I need to find some evening ones until my DS goes back to school on the 9th!

                    Thank you again, all of you for helping me to stay sober
                    One day at a time - this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has yet to come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering...

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                      #11
                      Originally posted by SoCali View Post
                      Hey Maddie (if I can call you that...since everyone else did...HA!)

                      I am only on day 29 AF, so I am behind you, and I'm looking ahead with stars in my EYES at being on my day 52!!! Do you really want to start over and be back to trying to figure out when your new "Day 1" is going to be? You've got almost TWO WHOLE MONTHS of sobriety under your belt now.

                      Come on....I want you AHEAD of me in this AF journey! So...stay in your little sober car and keep rolling down the sober highway and know that I'm BEHIND you, pushing you along, just as you are AHEAD of me, urging me to follow you. )
                      Thank you socali, this brought tears to my eyes , you are doing brilliantly too and you can hook up to my towbar if necessary :goodjob:x
                      One day at a time - this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has yet to come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering...

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                        #12
                        [QUOTE=Nursie;1698612]Madonna! I'm on day 53 today, we are twinning]

                        Hey there twinnie!! can you recommend any you tube videos? I think watching them helps me too but I keep watching the same ones over!!
                        One day at a time - this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has yet to come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering...

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                          #13
                          Maddy, you just learned 2 important things, that the cravings are just cravings, and they to will pass. And you can do anything if you set your mind to it! When I was early in my quit, I used those days as reinforcement. When cravings hit me again, I reminded myself that I got through them before. So when a craving hits you again, remember that wine and chocolates on the windowsill, remember how your AV tried to convince you that you could have just one, but most importantly, remember that you were stronger than your AV! You have the strength and courage to do this, and you just proved it to yourself!
                          Quitting and staying quit isn't easy, its learning a whole new way of thinking. It's accepting a new way of life, and not just accepting it, embracing it...
                          Worry about tomorrow, tomorrow. Just get through today. Tomorrow will look after itself when it becomes today, because today is all we have to think about.
                          Friendship is not about how many friends you have or who you've known the longest. It's about who walked into your life, said "I'm here for you", and proved it.

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                            #14
                            Hi, Maddy:

                            Sorry I missed this yesterday, but SO glad you made it through.

                            I took a lot of calming baths. I spent a little of the money I saved on some good bath salts and hopped in whenever I felt I needed to relax and get out of my head/life for a bit.

                            As for YouTube docs - have you seen the Rain in my Heart videos? So heartbreaking. So horrible what this disease does to you. If you search that on YouTube many other ones will show up. I spent a lot of time watching early on as well.

                            Glad you came here and posted! Love SoCali's post - keep paving the way for those behind you.

                            Pav

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                              #15
                              Originally posted by Pavati View Post
                              Hi, Maddy:

                              Sorry I missed this yesterday, but SO glad you made it through.

                              I took a lot of calming baths. I spent a little of the money I saved on some good bath salts and hopped in whenever I felt I needed to relax and get out of my head/life for a bit.

                              As for YouTube docs - have you seen the Rain in my Heart videos? So heartbreaking. So horrible what this disease does to you. If you search that on YouTube many other ones will show up. I spent a lot of time watching early on as well.

                              Glad you came here and posted! Love SoCali's post - keep paving the way for those behind you.

                              Pav
                              Thanks Pav,

                              I have watched rain in my heart, will have a look from there for other ones.

                              Cowboy, you are right, two good lessons learned
                              One day at a time - this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has yet to come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering...

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