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    #61
    Going for a month AF

    Welcome to Sweet Cheeks!!

    Anyone can join our group!! I did manage to stay very moderate last night, only two glasses. Upped my topa to 75 mg yesterday, two days early. I know perhaps I shouldn't rely on a drug to manage a drug problem but I have a feeling that is what it is going to take and it does seem to be starting to work for me!!!

    Uli. I am so sorry about your tooth!! How awful. Two weeks before I got married one of my wisdom teeth became infected and my jaw swelled up like you wouldn't believe. Dentist removed all four wisdom teeth. I was so afraid I was going to walk down the aisle looking like a chipmunk with a mouth full of nuts, luckily the swelling all subsided by the big day.

    Luc. We have a nest of Eastern Bluebirds raising their young in a box in our back yard right now. They do every year. Such pretty birds. We also have Pileated Woodpeckers, Nuthatches (which make us laugh because they wander up and down the trees muttering), a pair of Wood Thrushes intent on trying to build a nest in our garage every weekend, several different varieties of woodpeckers, actually, and falcons who have the most distinct scream when they fly overhead. We enjoy watching the falcons teach their young how to fly every spring. In the fall and winter we have deer meandering through the back yard, which is fun because they eat all my shrubs. As for the drunk animals, usually it is only the squirrels who get drunk when my wild raspberries and blueberries ferment. They are a riot, too, but we have so many of the little guys and they can actually be pretty destructive. Now that I have another dog, who showed up on my back porch last year on my birthday, the racoons have moved out from under the deck. I kind of miss them but don't miss the mess they always made when they got in the garbage.

    Hope everyone has/had a great day. It was miserably hot here in Phoenix yesterday. I ate dinner last night with my brother and his wife and had a very relaxed evening. I think one of the reasons I became such an alcoholic was sitting alone in the hotel night after night and using wine and the bar to keep myself from being alone. I think I am going to go with them to a baseball game tomorrow night, which should be lots of fun. I just wish the temperature would dip below 100!!

    I cannot believe people think it is a good idea to live in a place where if the power goes out, you could die from heat stroke!! Goodness!!

    Everyone take care and keep up the GREAT work!!

    Cindi
    AF April 9, 2016

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      #62
      Going for a month AF

      Hi Folks,

      Thanks for the welcome - I'd love you join your select group if I may. I've just replied Luc - yes I must get on to do some work otherwise I'll have another addition to fight (this website)!

      Well done on keeping off the stuff as much as you have done. If I had a moment of weakness I'd certainly relent and have a few glasses with my painkillers if I had toothache - well done Uli. Love the image of a chipmunk with a mouthful of nuts walking down the aisle. Sorry - didn't mean to make fun but it does conjour up an image of a chipmunk in a wedding dress!

      The grass (or country) is always greener on the other side. I'm sure our UK friends have already mentioned but alot of the UK is under water with bad floods. We're OK nearer to London, but the weather is grim and it's not going to stop - always the case when Wimbledon is on. I love the US personally and the people (I work with US clients most of the time) and have been over a few times. I've been to Scottsdale and boy was it hot, so I know where you're coming from. Anyway, enough of my waffle - off to the supermarket to stock up on herbal tea before I hit Holland & Barrett at the weekend.

      Have a great day everyone
      SC:h

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        #63
        Going for a month AF

        Hi Everyone: I hope all is going well w/you all. I just opened the newbies in need thread. I can hardly wait to get to my computer in the morning to see what everyone is up to. That's how important MWO has become to me. I've been doing well & really seeing the benefits of sobriety: no hiding, no shame, no physical symptoms, no anxiety & worry. I was just reading something on one of the threads about why we drink. It's our feelings. I'm afraid of mine when they seem "negative." Anger, frustration, sadness. They're just feelings, & when I try to drink them away, they're still there. In fact, they seem to multiply when I get sober again. Hope you can relate to what I'm saying. Love you all, Mary
        Wisdom, Courage, Strength
        October 3, 2012

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          #64
          Going for a month AF

          Hi again everyone and welcome sweet cheeks :welcome: - I think we're all doing brilliantly because it IS hard and we're so determined to keep at it! Cindi, well done for staying mod - agree that the bottle can seem like damned good company - makes you (temporarily, alas) feel good and is a fantastic listener. Really hard to think of alternatives in hotels too - not much to do, is there?

          Retteacher - I found that I had been extremely well conditioned in childhood to think of all 'negative emotions' as ones I shouldn't be feeling. Along the lines of 'Don't make a fuss, that doesn't hurt', 'You're totally overreacting, that's nothing to be upset/angry etc. about' - I only learnt in the last year (and I'm in my late 40ies!!!) that it's actually perfectly normal to have these feelings, no 'overreaction', no 'fuss', just human. Before I always felt inadequate/guilty etc. - and tried to drown them in a sea of wine.

          Luc, we have lots of wildlife in the garden too, though sadly the cat decimates some of it. He even brought in a pheasant through the catflap once - bloody bird was running around in the garage making an enormous amount of noise. We did manage to save it, bar a few feathers.

          Still no dental appointment - pain is better but swelling is still there - what does this mean?

          Take lots of care people - I too really look forward to logging on.

          Uli

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            #65
            Going for a month AF

            Just ate breakfast and gotta run but

            had to add another wildlife story.

            My son and his family live on our property in a trailer about 200 yards down the hill from our house. (Okay, okay, we are truly Alabama rednecks.... but at least my family tree DOES fork.)

            Last year my husband and I were up sitting on the porch drinking coffee and we noticed a squirrel was hanging on to their kitchen window screen. We didn't think much of it and went back inside.

            A bit later we hear this yelling and screaming. Apparently the squirrel had broken through their screen and when the family woke up they had a "visitor" running around their house "playing" with their cat.

            Apparently it took quite some time to get the squirrel and the cat disentangled and then even more time to get the poor terrified squirrel back outside. The grandkids thought it was all great fun, though.

            Well, off to work. It's only 109 degree F today ( 47 C), a veritable cold spell!!

            Cindi

            PS Uli, even if the pain is subsiding, there is an infection in there. If it gets down into the roots of the teeth it can spread to other teeth. Get to a dentist!!! (From someone who truly fears and hates dentists, I know.) Not worth having to get a root canal, though, because of procrastinating. I'll "see" y'all tonight!!
            AF April 9, 2016

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              #66
              Going for a month AF

              Good morning all - and it is a fine one for a change. It has rained and rained and rained over great areas of Europe for days - I guess you've seen on TV about all the unprecedented flooding in the UK. Cindi - your day started yesterday with 47 degrees centigrade, mine is starting today with 6 centigrade, there is a frost on the car's windscreen.........and this is mid summer??????????????? At least the sky is blue, the sun is shining on the mountain tops - with a respectable dusting of snow. I've a clear head (starting af day 5, after my slip up last saturday - I'm 34 days af out of the last 43 - the best I've ever done in my whole adult life - I've never kept a record before - just drank !)

              Have you managed to get an appointment with a dentist yet Uli, when I lived in France, I always found it so easy to get quick treatment, perhaps I was just lucky.

              How are you today Sweet (I've got to use a diminutive - it sounds a bit intimate otherwise), did you manage to get the necessary from H & B. Like you, I love visiting the U.S., the welcome, the food (!!!), the factory outlets (all those 'Labels' we pay a fortune for in Europe) - besides arriving in Denver, or Salt Lake City I haven't yet visited an American city; I just grab the hire car (4x4) and head for the mountains. I adored Montana, and the drive across the desert (Craters of the Moon) then the scenic route to Idaho (I took a wrong turn - which was difficult as there weren't many to take). I was apprehensive about staying in Utah, as had heard it was 'dry' - but managed to get all that I needed, but the very best of all is Colorado - just can't wait to go back. Friends all think I'm a crazy, go to NY or Florida they all say, don't you see enough mountains ?

              Rambling now -you've probably all gone off to read somebody else's post. Have a great day, stay af - it feels wonderful - how did I never think to do this before - all that wasted / lost time.

              luc
              x
              Gonnabee not Wannabee

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                #67
                Going for a month AF

                Hi everyone,

                How's the witching hour going Luc? I nearly sucumbed at 5pm last night and reached for the wine, but poured myself a soda water and went and did something useful (can't remember what). Boy did I feel good for resisting. Day 4 a/f and I'm feeling fab - hope you all are too.
                SC

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                  #68
                  Going for a month AF

                  Starting my day..

                  I have decided to quit complaining about the weather here. Flooding in UK, rain in Switzerland, severe weather in Australia. I guess a little heat is nothing to gripe about. At least the buildings have air-conditioning.

                  I overdid it last night and am really mad at myself, however, I did not wake up with a hangover, so I did not OVER over do it. I did have a scary moment, though, I actually started thinking things like, "If I can't stop doing this, then I am going to end it and poured a bunch of Benadryl into my hand." Then I realized, "Geez, girl, grow up!! Get a life!! You are being a weakling." So I went to bed and of course felt better this morning. It kind of scared me when I got up this morning and saw them scattered on the desk, I haven't ever come close to suicide thoughts before. I have been doing so well and I am sure the alcohol led to me feeling depressed.

                  I am going to a baseball game tonight with my brother and sister-in-law so I will be busy and not drinking!! (Yea!!) That means that at least for one day I will be AF and giving this poor old lady's body and mind a rest.

                  I did download a subliminal mp3 for my laptop. It's working, I haven't had a thing to drink all morning. :H

                  I am ordering RJ's CDs and getting an iPod, too. Hopefully those will help me. Even if just using them will take up some of the time I otherwise spend drinking.... Ohmygosh. What a mess. Sorry. Just mad at myself, can't seem to keep up the good work for more than a few days at a time.

                  Hope everyone else is doing well!!
                  AF April 9, 2016

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                    #69
                    Going for a month AF

                    Hi everybody - am very late today it's been a busy one. Luc I normally don't have any problems either getting a dental appointment here - just this time. Will hassle them again tomorrow. Pain and swelling are almost gone but it's only a question of time before it flares up again, so I shall take my cowardly heart in my hands and get down there. Am absolutely phobic about anything to do with my mouth/teeth but, hey, if I can manage not to drink, I can manage the dentist.

                    Sweet cheeks, yes, it does feel good, doesn't it? I love waking up, that fuzzy moment and then the realisation that I'm feeling good and raring to go. Slept 9 hours last night - a record (due to not sleeping because of tooth the night before).

                    Cindi, that sounds like a scary experience. Do you think you might have been a bit too tough on yourself, unforgiving, perfectionist and that that made you feel like it would never get better? I really hope you're feeling ok today - you can do this and you will, at your own pace.

                    Hope you all had (are having) a good day.

                    Take care,
                    Uli

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                      #70
                      Going for a month AF

                      Perfectionist

                      Uli,

                      Yes. I have been accused of that one all my life.

                      My mantras are "failure is not an option," and I don't let myself and "anything worth doing is worth overdoing," hence the alcholism!!

                      My counselor told me a couple of weeks ago that I was the kind of alcoholic that most companies vie to hire. I am the typical Type "A" personality that never fails at a project, which I don't and I over achieve at every effort of work I am given. These should be good qualities but they are actually very self-destructive qualities.

                      I truly scared myself last night. I mean really, really scared myself.

                      However, I WILL beat this problem with a vengeance, which means I will become some sort of anti-alcohol evangelist of some kind, and try to save the world, or some such nonsense.

                      I would rather win the lottery tomorrow and just call in rich, go to rehab and then Cancun and sit on the beach and veg for a while, AFTER staying home for a couple of weeks with the grandkids and the dog and cats. (and the hubby, of course :H )

                      sigh.

                      Cindi

                      PS. I didn't even get to go to the darn baseball game, it started at 3:40, so my brother couldn't get off early enough to make it. However, I am about to go over to his house. At least I have something to look forward to!!

                      Hope all are doing well. I'll see your posts in the morning!! (Because I have a 6:00 a.m. call with a sales guy who is desparate to make a deal with a client and he NEEDS me to be on there for some reason, even though I don't make any freaking commission on the deal.)

                      Good night to all and hope all do well today/tonight!! I plan on being AF tonight at least!!!
                      AF April 9, 2016

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                        #71
                        Going for a month AF

                        Good morning everyone!

                        Day 15 for me and feeling good, if a bit 'grumpy' this morning - think I will have to be careful today as it feels like one of those moods that can escalate. Really, really don't want to do a particular piece of work, so am procrastrinating, feeling 'useless, inadequate, guilty' because of that......So I'm going to put myself under pressure to not put myself under pressure lol and shall NOT work today. Will go swimming with my daughter and work in the garden and forget all about this stupid article for today.

                        Hope you're all doing well and that you, Cindi, succeeded with your plan! I can imagine that companies would want to hire you - makes me sad though about the society we live in to think that the only thing that seems to matter is how effective people are at their job - their emotional and physical health can go hang, their relationships can be crap, they might not get to know their children...as long as they still produce the goods, nobody cares.

                        Take care
                        Uli

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                          #72
                          Going for a month AF

                          Did Great, all for Once!!

                          I guess having something to do besides sitting alone at a bar does help.

                          I am going to stay the evening with my brother and his wife tonight. Neither of them drink much at all, the single glass of wine types. Both very fanatic health nuts. Both very nice people, too. Best of the lot, actually.

                          She's 60 and looks 45 (no surgery) and his is 59. I introduced them when she was my Human Physiology teacher in High School and they have been together ever since. Isn't that neat?

                          I fly home tomorrow and actually get to stay home again next week. (So far, often find out I am going somewhere on Friday afternoon.)

                          Uli, per previous e-mail. Unfortunately, the perfectionist in me is SO internally driven, not societal. I have no idea where it comes from. I need to work on that. Good food for thought...

                          Luc, Sweet Cheeks, HereAtLast, TAKE CARE and have a wonderful day!! It sounds like everyone is doing so well. :goodjob:
                          AF April 9, 2016

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                            #73
                            Going for a month AF

                            Hi Guys,

                            Just logged on and have to leave in 10 to get my boys - work's been manic today; the joys of being an Human Resources Manager - damn cheek haven't even had time to look at any of the other threads. How dare work interfere with my new found friends.

                            Had 2 glasses of wine last night - so much with my vow of abstinence, but my friend did get some good news regarding her cancer so we had a few glasses to celebrate. Had a stonking headache this morning though - serves me right, but I called it a day after 2 and didn't open another bottle - I didn't even want any more, so I'm really pleased with myself about that milestone.

                            Cancun sounds just like the place I'd like to be right now. Hope the mood lifts Uli - have a great day with your daughter.

                            Have a fantastic day and weekend everyone - might not be able to log on over weekend, kids birthday parties etc so probably won't have 5 mins to even go to the loo, let alone think of wine (hopefully).

                            BFN
                            SC
                            xxxxxx:l

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                              #74
                              Going for a month AF

                              uda, am af for 10 days, first time of trying, any tips

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                                #75
                                Going for a month AF

                                Hello Girls, great posts from you - you all seem to be upbeat today. Sweet is soo busy, and with another busy weekend ahead, kids bithday parties, that should be fun & keep you out of mischief ! Cindi, have a lovely evening with your virtually TT bro and SIL (she's 60, looks 45, no surgery - HOW ??) I'm like Uli, taking advantage of the first break in the weather for days, and getting out into the garden, I've done five hours strimming and mowing. Hello mollyb, welcome to MYO and to our thread, it's a bit of a quiet one and you ask for any tips. You posted that you are 10 days af for the first time of trying - a big Bravo to you, that's fantastic; mollyb, stay in our thread and give us some tips !!!
                                Have a great weekend everybody, have lots of fun, and stay safe.
                                luc
                                x
                                Gonnabee not Wannabee

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