New here and looking for support

[Sydnie]

Hello everyone

I'm new here. 50 year old woman (in the UK) who has been downing more than her fair share of wine for a good too many years!! I've tried all sorts of methods to get a grip on this ridiculous addiction - tried counseling, antabuse, campral and even the Sinclair Method (taking Selincro - which made me feel like a spaced out zombie). Anyway - I know that if I don't stop this stupid roller coaster now, I will end up losing everything I value - my lovely husband, grown up children's respect and also the respect of my colleagues.

I hit an all time low last week which made me wake up and smell the coffee. I attended a big awards event in London - promised myself I wouldn't drink too much and even though wine was flowing by the bucket load, I managed to limit my intake and drank lots of water. However, afterwards, everyone went to the pub before catching the train home and I stupidly let my hair down and stopped watching what I was drinking - and as always, people kept on filling my glass. The long and short of it was I ended up staggering and falling flat on my face in the station and some kind woman had to help me on the train. Walking home, I fell again cutting my leg and bruising my arm. I felt so ashamed of myself in the morning- particularly when my husband asked where I got the bruises and I lied and made up some excuse.

I recently read Craig Beck's 'Alcohol Lied to me' which basically tells it as it is. Alcohol is a highly addictive toxic poison made from rotting vegetable waste. I'm done with filling my body with it.

Today is Day One - I will not drink.

[Pavati]

Re: New here and looking for support

Hi, Sydnie:

Welcome! You have taken a great step to find the FREEDOM that comes from getting alcohol out of your life.

If you like reading, I read a lot of blogs - Unpickled, Mrs. D is Going Without, Hip Sobriety to name a few.

Join a faster moving thread if you want more immediate support as more people check in there.

Welcome to MWO. You've got this!

Pavati

[Sydnie]

Re: New here and looking for support

Thanks Pavati - which threads do you recommend as faster moving?

[Orimus]

Re: New here and looking for support

Welcome Sydnie and good on you for being done with living that way. It is unfortunate that many of us have to hit that low before we wake up. Head on over to the newbie's nest where you'll find plenty of people looking to support you and share how they are finding they're way. (link in my signature) You can also check out the tool box as a resource for techniques that others have found helpful in their AF journey. (link also in my signature) You are certainly not alone and it won't take very long before you start seeing that common thread in all our stories. We walk this road together.

[NoSugar]

Re: New here and looking for support

Thanks Pavati - which threads do you recommend as faster moving?

Hi, Sydnie, and welcome! This would be a great thread for you to read and post in: https://www.mywayout.org/community/j...ml#post1714401
Just jump in - you'll never regret getting this awful addiction behind you. All the best, NS

[Baclofenman]

Re: New here and looking for support

Hello everyone

I'm new here. 50 year old woman (in the UK) who has been downing more than her fair share of wine for a good too many years!! I've tried all sorts of methods to get a grip on this ridiculous addiction - tried counseling, antabuse, campral and even the Sinclair Method (taking Selincro - which made me feel like a spaced out zombie). Anyway - I know that if I don't stop this stupid roller coaster now, I will end up losing everything I value - my lovely husband, grown up children's respect and also the respect of my colleagues.

I hit an all time low last week which made me wake up and smell the coffee. I attended a big awards event in London - promised myself I wouldn't drink too much and even though wine was flowing by the bucket load, I managed to limit my intake and drank lots of water. However, afterwards, everyone went to the pub before catching the train home and I stupidly let my hair down and stopped watching what I was drinking - and as always, people kept on filling my glass. The long and short of it was I ended up staggering and falling flat on my face in the station and some kind woman had to help me on the train. Walking home, I fell again cutting my leg and bruising my arm. I felt so ashamed of myself in the morning- particularly when my husband asked where I got the bruises and I lied and made up some excuse.

I recently read Craig Beck's 'Alcohol Lied to me' which basically tells it as it is. Alcohol is a highly addictive toxic poison made from rotting vegetable waste. I'm done with filling my body with it.

Today is Day One - I will not drink.

Hello fellow brit,

When I first came to the forum - I kept a very close eye on Newbies Nest Roll Call - I guess the setting and reaching the short term target of "the next day" helped in a motivational way to get to the next stage

Keeping oneself busy, especially at the optimum drinking time was also important

Welcome aboard and take care

Regards


Bacman

[wagmor]

Re: New here and looking for support

Sydnie - welcome! You've definitely come to the right place for support, understanding, suggestions, etc. I echo what others have said - jump into the newbie's nest and introduce yourself. We have new folks adding in all the time, plus lots of people a few weeks or months into their quits, and then a core of "old-timers" who have been around this block a few times. You will be welcomed with open arms and wings!

Wags (Jami)

[abcowboy]

:welcome: to MWO [MENTION=23897]Sydnie[/MENTION]! You’ve come to the right place to get help and support to assist you on your road to sobriety! The Newbie’s Nest under Just Starting Out is one of the faster moving threads. Read around the entire forum, I’m sure you’ll find more than one thread to your liking, and no matter where you post, you’ll be welcomed by all the members here!

[Wildflowers]

Re: New here and looking for support

:welcome: [MENTION=23897]Sydnie[/MENTION] Glad your here. Relate to the falling down and hurting myself. My hubby recently mentioned aren't you happy your not cutting yourself in the kitchen and bleeding. When I think about all the self harm I've caused myself and my wonderful family, I shutter. Drinking harmful, poisonous- ethanol- alcohol is no way to live! Not for the alcoholic. Drinking one, turns into, one too many. You have the awareness, acceptance and your taking action by coming here. Awesome. Besides the wonderful Newbies Nest. I and others also find it helpful, in committing to being AF for 24 hrs. Anyone can go one day without a drink. There is a thread under General Discussion called Cattleman's 24 hr Cafe. Also some of us believe cultivating an attitude of gratitude very helpful. A thread also under General Discussion. There is strength in numbers. Supporting, helping each other with this affliction. We do find things to laugh about. Hope your injuries heal quickly. :hug: Look forward to hearing more from you. :smile:

[Lost Soul]

Re: New here and looking for support

Welcome to MWO :welcome:

[kuya]

Re: New here and looking for support

Hi Sydnie and welcome.

It sounds like you are ready to quit and that is all it takes !

[tonyniceday]

Re: New here and looking for support

[MENTION=23897]Sydnie[/MENTION]

Hi Sydnie and welcome to MWO...you have some great advice about threads on here from the posts above. The next few days will not be the easy ones and I see you are in the UK. We're quite lucky here because there is quite easy access to a lot of help, especially in getting through these early detox days. You could go and see your doctor or practice nurse, there are also drop in centres run in most major towns or at hospitals where you can get good advice and prescription meds to help you through the detox part.

You've come here which is great as there is so much help and support at any time as there is usually someone online.
It doesn't matter what questions you have, or what situation you find yourself in, just post it on here and someone is sure to have had the same experience and to be able to offer advice and help.

You might also like to have a look through the toolbox to see what others have found helpful.

Above all, we're with you all the way on your af journey!

[Sydnie]

Re: New here and looking for support

Thank you so much for all of your welcoming messages! I will certainly check out the Newbies Nest and Cattleman 24 hour cafe. Got through my first day OK. Hubby decided we should go to the cinema, so we had a meal out first - I ordered a coke. Then treated myself to a milkshake during the film.

I've also been following Craig Beck's programme 'Alcohol Lied to me' which includes hypnotherapy tracks and a whole host of recommended supplements (Vitamin B complex, Vitamin D, Omega Oil, Multi Vitamins, Turmeric and also 5 HTP which you take before you go to bed - its supposed to help you sleep and I certainly slept like a baby last night!!

[Jkm123]

Re: New here and looking for support

Hey sydnie, how ya doing?