Re: I have 80oz of vodka.
I need a friend or a sponsor.
I need a friend or a sponsor.
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Re: I have 80oz of vodka.
Would you consider a local meeting, maybe Celebrate Recovery, or Smart Recovery?Comment
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Lets go chat, have you done that? See the Chatbox bove?Comment
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Waita minute, where did Chat go? I dont see it!Comment
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[MENTION=23850]empyr3al[/MENTION], every time we make the choice to face life rather than numb our experience of it we take another step towards the person we can be. That is the gift that each of us brings to the world and that is the decision that you made. Be proud of that; we are proud of you for doing it.“If we are facing in the right direction, all we have to do is keep on walking.” – Zen proverb
"See it as it is, not worse than it is just so you have a reason not to try." - Tony Robbins.
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Re: I have 80oz of vodka.
When I first started out, all I wanted to do was crawl in a hole. I was a hearty pity partier. All I could think about was how bad I had it. Finally, I picked myself up and decided to put myself into the service of others. How? I took my little Chihuahua to a local nursing home. Those poor folks dont have much joy at all, seeing a new face with a little dog made their day. Many of these people feel as if life has forgoten them, you cant imagine how much visiting them helped ME. My problems seemed pretty insignificamt in comparison.
Try and get out and get your mind off your own troubles. It really helped me.
Great job in getting rid of the booze, you saved your poor liver the trouble of processing all that crap. Stay with us, you will never be sorry for a day you spent sober!Last edited by Byrdlady; May 12, 2017, 06:57 PM.Comment
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Re: I have 80oz of vodka.
I'm so broken i just destroyed a good friendship. Asked him if he was cheating or ever has with my wife at any time prior or after. I'm so broken I'm destroyed. So in love it busts me into pieces. I am destroying friendships one and another after another for fear that that I cannot fix what cannot be fixed. I know it and I'm destroying everything. AF but heart broken."Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." - Albert EinsteinComment
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AA wouldn't agree with what I do to keep sober. But let's leave that conversation away from this atm. I have strong opinions. I'm experiencing heartbreak for 8 months and it comes and goes in shots of intensity. Lately becoming more intense as reality sets in. I'm breaking quality friendships out of paranoid fears. Long term ones that may or may not have been lies. Questioning everything is really messing with me."Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." - Albert EinsteinComment
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Re: I have 80oz of vodka.
Its still there but few people use it.Originally posted by Byrdlady View Post"Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." - Albert EinsteinComment
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Re: I have 80oz of vodka.
I see the chat button but it is stuck to the search button and wont deploy.
I understand about heartbreak, that is why making yourself get out and help others will help YOU! There is surly a skill that you have that you could share. Sometimes, just showing up is all you have to do to help someone. There are lots of folks in far worse shape than we are that we can help.
Staying home and ruminating just made things worse for me. I hope you feel better soon.
I read an interesting quote from Michael Jordon today, someone asked him how he was able to find such success, he said, 'Because I was Coachable'. That is great advice and I resisted it for a long time when i first got here. I know better now. Listen to those who have succeeded and do what they do. So far, so good!Comment
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What kind of questions are you asking? Asking yourself, asking your friends?“If we are facing in the right direction, all we have to do is keep on walking.” – Zen proverb
"See it as it is, not worse than it is just so you have a reason not to try." - Tony Robbins.
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[MENTION=20895]Orimus[/MENTION] .... friends. I don't have any anymore. The ones I could count on one hand I've killed off over the last couple months. I'm isolating and its becoming a very bad thing. I dislike AA for reasons I don't want to talk about in this thread. I've killed every relationship other than close family. Distrust is a very distructive thing; and I know I was distrusted while I drank because I lied about it for so long.
I have friends if you see my linkedin or FB. But I don't have friends. Rehabs taught me to kill off friends with addictions. I've killed the last one that meant something to me. Other than family I can't see anything forward. Sober for so long but its insane what is happening."Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." - Albert EinsteinComment
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Re: I have 80oz of vodka.
So what I think you're saying is that most of your friends were fellow addicts whom you didn't feel you could trust. The two came together in disengaging from those relationships as part of getting sober and they imploded. Now you feel lonely, uncertain of yourself and not sure who you can trust. In addition you have been heartbroken over your wife and the good friendship that you had you sabotaged because you are generally off balance and feel persecuted. This leaves you with only your close family - mom, dad, brothers or sisters? Do let me know if I am completely misunderstanding.“If we are facing in the right direction, all we have to do is keep on walking.” – Zen proverb
"See it as it is, not worse than it is just so you have a reason not to try." - Tony Robbins.
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Close [MENTION=20895]Orimus[/MENTION] No. They knew eachother before I knew either of them. So there was prior history and now I'm afraid of post history (in relation to my wife).
The few people i have left after 5 years of rehabs being told to eliminate people, I had my wife and really only one friend I have hardly talked to recently. So I have gone from extreme codependency on my wife to nothing for months. Now I am mistrusting my friend. My wife/exwife I have to let go of. Now I just ruined the one possible healthy relationship I have. I have a lot of relationships with people, hundreds, and do it in seconds but they are not personal to the same degree as counting on one hand if they would help you in a second. So yeah. Essentially I am left with my dad and mother who I chat with on the hour tbh. Which is wierd. Isolating too much."Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." - Albert EinsteinComment
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Unfortunately, I have someone I want to be with but can't however this was years ago and took along time to get over and the AL drew it out. Lost Dad 7 years ago and don't really have anyone I talk too closely. However Im looking at the things that made me strong that I used to do like Skydiving so going out to do that again in the next week. Still got all the gear and had good comaradare .To be honest, have been isolated last 5 years and am used to it a bit. 3 Days in and feeling pretty goodComment
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