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You said that you tried a couple of times to quit cold turkey without having problems.. Have you had a drink today? If not, maybe you could not drink just for today. Usually after just a bit of time without drinking, we begin to feel better both physically and mentally, we find some hope. Here's a link to the Toolbox which is a great place to read about quitting, making plans, finding alternatives to drinking.

https://www.mywayout.org/community/just-starting-out-/24253-tool-box.html

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Hi Cer

Welcome to MWO and yes as Sky says its not easy to quit but nothing in life that we want is ever easy. I was the 2 plus bottle a day wine drinker but i only drank in days ending with a Y so it was every single day. I ask myself how it happened that i got to that but i did, end of story really. I held down a job, had 4 children and went through the motions. Today i am happily sober over 4 years and will never ever have that one drink. i did relapse a few times before i quit and i tried to not drink as much as those two bottles a day, sometimes i did and sometimes i didnt but with the help of here and my children i stopped. i took valium for the first week which definitely helped with anxiety of wondering if something would go wrong. i of course didnt want to see a doctor and tell them that i had a wee problem (now i would happily tell the world) but deep down i knew i had to stop, i was killing myself by drinking and i wanted to live because of my children.

We have to do what works for us really and what we feel comfortable with. for me it was and still is the support of here that keeps me going when life gets tough but i have never ever regretted stopping the madness.

As NS said, post on the newbies nest and settle in. There are other wonderful threads around that you can post and introduce yourself. we dont judge, we are all alcoholics.

[CER]

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You said that you tried a couple of times to quit cold turkey without having problems.. Have you had a drink today? If not, maybe you could not drink just for today. Usually after just a bit of time without drinking, we begin to feel better both physically and mentally, we find some hope. Here's a link to the Toolbox which is a great place to read about quitting, making plans, finding alternatives to drinking.

https://www.mywayout.org/community/j...-tool-box.html

Thanksnfor your advice and support,
CER

[NoraC]

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[MENTION=24124]CER[/MENTION] Just wanted to say welcome!

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Let us know how you're doing today, CER..:hug:

[Pavati]

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Hi, CER--

As for your husband...My husband still drinks a ton, and I can socialize around booze without wanting it. BUT, that took time. Can you tell him you need help? If he hates how much you drink, maybe share your fears?

If not, can you see a counselor or therapist for a while? That would give you some in person support and help you make decisions while your brain is all scrambled (which it will be for a bit after quitting). Can you see a doctor to get some help quitting? Is there a close friend you can confide in? That would help you feel less lonely.

We are all here for you. Let us know what kind of cyber help we can give. Don't dwell on you marriage - get better first and then assess all situations with a clear head.

The good news is, what will come out of this dark time is a freedom you will find after giving up the ball and chain of alcohol. I quit one day after Ava, and I have never felt better in my life. Peace will come.

Pav

[CER]

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Thank you!

[CER]

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Thank you!

[CER]

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Thank you for your support!

[CER]

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[MENTION=24124]CER[/MENTION] Just wanted to say welcome!

Thank you!

[CER]

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Let us know how you're doing today, CER..:hug:

Well, las night I drank about 1/2 a bottle. Which is not cold turkey but certainly felt better this morning.
Tonight will be very tough. I just found out they are closing the schools to sanitize tomorrow which means my kids will stay up later and be on the computers. My husband will go down and smoke his cigars and drink which leaves me the choice of going down there and trying to tough it out or giving in or...staying upstairs alone until bed.

[CER]

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Hi, CER--

As for your husband...My husband still drinks a ton, and I can socialize around booze without wanting it. BUT, that took time. Can you tell him you need help? If he hates how much you drink, maybe share your fears?

If not, can you see a counselor or therapist for a while? That would give you some in person support and help you make decisions while your brain is all scrambled (which it will be for a bit after quitting). Can you see a doctor to get some help quitting? Is there a close friend you can confide in? That would help you feel less lonely.

We are all here for you. Let us know what kind of cyber help we can give. Don't dwell on you marriage - get better first and then assess all situations with a clear head.

The good news is, what will come out of this dark time is a freedom you will find after giving up the ball and chain of alcohol. I quit one day after Ava, and I have never felt better in my life. Peace will come.

Pav

My Dr. prescribed neurotin. It gave me heart burn so bad. I didn't know what was going on. It was not like heartburn I'd experienced in the past and the pain was in my back, neck and stomach. Urgent care sent me to the ER and they thought it was my heart and admitted me.
Then I tried it again a week later and it threw me into a depression. It was awful!
Counseling...might have to try it again. DBT was the best program I started to do but....long story really.
Tell my husband my fears. Lol, if you only knew. He is a very selfish man.
I'm on my own really.
Tonight will be difficult. I explained why to an above poster.
My 11 year old has taken over the computer and I'm on a kindle. Annoying to type all this in on here.

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Hi CER,
What part of the U.S. are you living in? I'm in Germany so several hours ahead of you, which is why I'll sometimes reply at strange times.
How did it go last night? What did you decide to do? Have you made it to the Toolbox to have a read? I think that making a plan for the day can help a lot.. First off deciding, Today I will not drink no matter what and no matter who! Not going to think about tomorrow, Just Today. Stating it out loud several times or 100 times if necessary.. then make sure you have something at home without alcohol that you really like to drink, plan to eat a good meal, maybe have a treat for dessert, stay upstairs! Go to bed with the kids or have a bath or watch a film, read here! Continue to write out how you're feeling.. this is your thread! And people are reading and caring and responding. Read back in the Newbies Nest.. Big Hugs to you and strength. You are doing a lot for yourself by coming here, by wanting to change your path and you CAN do it..:hug:

[CER]

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Hi CER,
What part of the U.S. are you living in? I'm in Germany so several hours ahead of you, which is why I'll sometimes reply at strange times.
How did it go last night? What did you decide to do? Have you made it to the Toolbox to have a read? I think that making a plan for the day can help a lot.. First off deciding, Today I will not drink no matter what and no matter who! Not going to think about tomorrow, Just Today. Stating it out loud several times or 100 times if necessary.. then make sure you have something at home without alcohol that you really like to drink, plan to eat a good meal, maybe have a treat for dessert, stay upstairs! Go to bed with the kids or have a bath or watch a film, read here! Continue to write out how you're feeling.. this is your thread! And people are reading and caring and responding. Read back in the Newbies Nest.. Big Hugs to you and strength. You are doing a lot for yourself by coming here, by wanting to change your path and you CAN do it..:hug:

Im in Michigan. Im just popping in real quick as this is day two of school shut down here for flu.
Kids home and trying to get on a computer....no way.
I hear my 14 year old now just getting up. Thank God he is singing!
I have to feed the beast!!!
It has been ok here. Two days off....one day, last night...I drank. But I won't let that ruin it.
I have been over to the tool box. I have written some things down.
Yesterday I was manic...I have these days before my period that Im sky high. That did not help.

[Inthesky]

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Good Morning Cer,
I just wanted to drop you a line and see how you are doing. Just something for you to think about....as mothers, wives, caretakers we put on many hats throughout the day, we have expectations of what is expected of us and well at the end of the day not everything goes well...because that is life. We are extremely hard on ourselves, if your anything like me i wanted everything perfect. Our children and spouses not always intentional take advantage of our drinking but it happens .... which leads to disrespectfulness, loss of communication and many other undisirable effects. When you take AL out of the picture you will get stronger and be able to get to know yourself better and love yourself more. (Actions are louder than words) Someone on here asked me why I drink ...my honest answer is I’m not sure and I don’t know when it got outta control only that it did. I just know now that I don’t have room for it in my life and I love the sober me, not the drunk me. I’ve relapsed too many times to count) my saving grace is being able to come here and have the strength to try again. So keep working at it till you have a quit that sticks!