Army June 22

[satz123]

Re: Army June 22

Congrats Molls - the start of a new phase in your life. Enjoy every minute. :yay:


The YS Saga - episode 170

So came home - YS & MrS watching football - so I asked the plan.
Said he was mortified & that he intends for that to never happen again. The video shocked him.

I told him I spoke to a nurse in work and she said that blackout business is like the next phase in alcoholism - where smaller amounts will completely floor him. Drinking as much as he used to now will result in becoming completely out of it like Thursday night. Not sure how accurate that is but I told him any way. Scare tactics now.

I think he may be having a drink in his room now - usually that's to get to sleep. But I'm too weary to care - a least he's in.

[mollyka]

Re: Army June 22

Congrats Molls - the start of a new phase in your life. Enjoy every minute. :yay:


The YS Saga - episode 170

So came home - YS & MrS watching football - so I asked the plan.
Said he was mortified & that he intends for that to never happen again. The video shocked him.

I told him I spoke to a nurse in work and she said that blackout business is like the next phase in alcoholism - where smaller amounts will completely floor him. Drinking as much as he used to now will result in becoming completely out of it like Thursday night. Not sure how accurate that is but I told him any way. Scare tactics now.

I think he may be having a drink in his room now - usually that's to get to sleep. But I'm too weary to care - a least he's in.

There's a lot of truth in what you said...blackouts generally signal that the body..and more specifically the liver..is compromised and cannot process the alcohol as previously...they are a serious symptom of functions degenerating...but as well...if someone is drinking on again off again..(I know this because I did it for some time at the end of my drinking) the tolerance decreases during the sober times so much smaller amounts have more affect..hence the whole malfunctioning of the body from smaller amounts.
Don't let him try and normalise it...its NOT normal..its not just 'one (or ten) too many...that is advanced stage alcoholism and if necessary show him the video 10 times a day...

[mollyka]

Re: Army June 22

I'm not trying to frighten you..but HE needs to be frightened...

[mollyka]

Re: Army June 22

Morning lazy lumps ;-) Bookending here -- weird feeling to wake up to --- but so much to do in the next while I'm beginning to wonder how I worked at all!!! anyways -- eldest grandson is 10 today -- I remember when he was born - I was pretty newly sober for the last time -- bout 6 months -- and I remember swearing to myself that my grandchildren would never know their granny as a drinker -- and -- well -- so far so good!!! They're all arriving up today - for Jamie's birthday but also a sort of goodbye to the house I s'pose -- just going down to the shops to get cold meats and salads and breads and stuff -- not going to cook a damn thing -- the oven is SPOTLESS :two:

So how's all? Still hanging in there Elsie? and how things in the Satz household? Needn't worry bout Rusters -- guessing she's still hogging the stove down in Mayo ;-) -- anyways --- off to the shops and will be back in a bit when youse all wake up xx

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Re: Army June 22

Morning army folks. Molly, I did a very detailed personal post this morning at 6am explaining why I thought the video was a good idea and how getting scared helped me get sober but it’s gone......floating around up in void that is the w w w.

[mollyka]

Re: Army June 22

Morning army folks. Molly, I did a very detailed personal post this morning at 6am explaining why I thought the video was a good idea and how getting scared helped me get sober but it’s gone......floating around up in void that is the w w w.

Can you just imagine the GEMS floating up there all courtesy of the WWW ;-) How's you anyway? Yeah - I think the mortification of being confronted with that would HAVE to get into your head --- surely? I'm so reluctant to say the 'wasn't as bad as....' -- but I sort of feel none of us here -- in the Army anyhows probably went that far down the road... it strikes me that most of us were in trouble yes... but were still at the hiding concealing stage at various stages of success -- pardon me if I'm wrong -- but as I say -- the lad on the plane to Spain -- he has told us snippets of consciousness - presumable in blackouts - which of course he felt he was being picked on and in the right -- but waking up on the pavement with all the neighbours peering down at him and a garda car in the driveway -- that sort of thing -- he just doesn't seem to give a shit -- he's gone beyond the mortification --- hopefully YS hasn't -- he's a lot younger anyway and probably hasn't sunk to that depth...

[lifechange]

Re: Army June 22

good morning, Army!

Molly, congrats! Yaaayyy ffor retirement.. i can't remember what you were doing for work? do you have a few "first things" you'd like to do now that you have the time? i can imagine the feeling of not knowing how you ever found the time to work! exciting..
i don't work in a restaurant (i have a cushy cooking job, working privately, cooking lunch for a studio team) and i don't work nights so alcohol being constantly present isn't an issue as far as it being a trigger. you asked a long time ago for me to describe my last relapse.. and as i was thinking about it, i realised my last actual relapse was in december 2020.. i'd just had solid 30 days and was feeling on top of the world.. it was covid time, i was lonely (had been on my own for 4 years) and thought it might be fun to try and meet someone online. on our first date, in december, we walked the streets cause it was strict lockdown.. we walked past a pub and he said it's a shame it's closed, otherwise we could go in and get warm.. long story short, he aksed if we wanted to get a beer to go, i said no, and then changed my mind.. since then, i've just been on a roller coaster of binges, never really having found the energy again to do it properly.. i know i was here a couple of times in between, with words i wanted to feel and believe, but honestly, in hindsight, i don't think i had it in my heart. this time i feel like i'll do anything i have to. my bf doesn't drink (gets tipsy from 1 beer) and is supporting me.. i just have to be honest and up front and not try to hide it again.. hope you have a great birthday party!

Tabbs, what a shame.. i would have really liked to read it.. i remember your posts/thread from when you were quitting in your first year.. i wonder if i can find it again? i remember you had some beautifully insightful posts that inspired me..

Satz, cause you asked, i think the germans probably do have a bit less of a problem.. bars are open all night and there are lots of 24 hour shops where one can buy booze.. there's not the pressure to drink as much as possible before everything closes down.. i remember that from the states.. but i find it a problem that the legal drinking age here is 16.. and that one is allowed to drink anywhere and everywhere out and about on the streets, in the parks, etc.. don't know.. i guess there's always a way to buy it illegaly, but i do see a problem with the youth here.. all of the friends of my kids over drink..? i'm thinking of you and your family a lot and hope that YS will be able to find help..

wishing you all a lovely sunday!xx

[JackieClaire]

Re: Army June 22

Morning.
Would have been here earlier but I turned over for just 5 more minutes.............so here I am two hours later.

Not a lot happening in my world..............still waiting for our grandson to make his appearance.........there's times I can't breath I'm so excited.

My godson (also my cousin) and family are coming over from the USA for a week in August.

[MENTION=21798]Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)[/MENTION] you've probably done it already an obvious thing but have a look at your history.............it just might be in there so just copy and paste.

[mollyka]

Re: Army June 22

and I'm still here ;-)

I worked in a library Elsie -- for quite a long time actually -- and it was a lovely job -- and my colleagues were mainly super duper -- but the 'hierarchy' as they would like to think of themselves are/were disgusting people -- not one of them even wished me good luck or goodbye -- and that's what they do to everyone -- a very good friend of mine retired after 40 years (twice as long as me) and he never got acknowledged either... I sent a STINKER of an email to them - and HR and everyone else I could think of - from my work email yesterday -- basically just asking could someone have the courtesy to tell me when and how I will receive my pension and my lump sum as no one had bothered telling me anything -- it felt wonderful sending it -- I ran it past my own senior librarian in case I was bringing trouble on myself and she thought it was a brilliant email --- waiting for the fall out on Monday by personal email!!!!

I think we all -- well maybe not -- but certainly I found my first quit so bloody easy -- 6 months and sailing along - then we were going on holiday - Joe presumed I would be having a drink and I just did.... 3 years later as they say --- the rest is history!!! If you really really want it Elsie -- there is nothing on the planet can pour a drink down your throat -- remember that xx
I have more than a few things to occupy me in answer to your question - have had a life long interest in gardening but never had the time or the opportunity to develop a garden myself -- there's years of work designing what I want down in Mayo... I love reading and swimming (the lakes are just down the road from my new house and lovely to swim in) and all sorts of things.. I'm seriously excited about having 'time' --- never had it except during covid lock down

Hey Jacks -- when is the grandchild due? you can have a few of mine if you like :welldone:

Right best go and get the grub sorted for this lot --- guessing this will be the last time more or less that I'll be 'cooking' in this house!

[lifechange]

Re: Army June 22

Molls, where is Mayo? sounds lovely!! where are you moving away from? sounds like an exciting time ahead!!:happy2:

[rustop59]

Re: Army June 22

Molls, where is Mayo? sounds lovely!! where are you moving away from? sounds like an exciting time ahead!!:happy2:

Afternoon everyone

Molly is probably feeding the hoards so I’ll answer for her Lifechange. Mayo is a county on the west coast. Most of us here live on the east coast. Myself and Molly have recently bought retirement cottages in the west. Same county, different parts. She’s moving there full time. Ours is a fisherman’s retreat as hubby is a keen fisherman. We will keep our main house and go down weekends.

Just back from the west so playing catch up. Very exciting about baby JC, when is the due date?

[satz123]

Re: Army June 22

Morning army folks. Molly, I did a very detailed personal post this morning at 6am explaining why I thought the video was a good idea and how getting scared helped me get sober but it’s gone......floating around up in void that is the w w w.

[MENTION=21798]Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)[/MENTION] A post content gets auto archived if you don't get to send it. Have a look there.

Please re-do if not I really love to hear what you have to say ..... :hug:

[mollyka]

Re: Army June 22

I was indeed feeding the hoards...and we had a lovely afternoon...all the little people had a ball and my own kids were a bit sad..I sort of forget its their childhood home and not the noose around my neck that it has become to me.
Rusters is dead on Elsie...its a bit of a big move but in truth it's less than 3 hours down the road so not a million miles from the family. Very excited and nervous in equal parts...if the meeting tomorrow shapes up as we hope ...financially it'll be great.

Full and tired now ;-)

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Re: Army June 22

Evening ladies, can't seem to find that post, but thank you for the suggestions. I went to preview and it disappeared, not to worry it was only my musings. I will type it out again if I can remember what exactly I was trying to get across. Wrecked I am and have a 5.30 start in the morning, goodnight all.

[IamMary]

Re: Army June 22

Elsie, that was a great post earlier. When did this quit start?
Delighted your here, accountability makes a massive difference. Is it the same boyfriend now as you met in Dec 2020?

Molly, :congrats: a big exciting adventure awaits! Love that your not letting the grass grow under you! How are the kids all feeling about the move, now that's its here?

Wondering how today went in the Satz house.