New here and starting Topa and with a question
BK - my mum once said to me (we were sitting in a restaurant/cafe), after I had made a derogatory comment about my looks - "WHO in here would you rather look like?" I looked around - and there was NO-ONE ! As I get older and more wrinkly and - well just OLD, I realise that it doesn't matter what we look like ! I was only in my 20's when my mum asked me that and even though I didn't like my looks- there was no-one else that I would have chosen to look like ! I have seen your picture - I think you are pretty - for what MY opinion is worth! I think it really is what is inside that shines out from us - no matter what we look like. So, please stop worrying about your looks - when you are my age, you will be grateful for looking the way that you do now !!
Yes, I am comfortable with who I am - after all, I can't be anyone else !! I love me and know that I am a good person - which is the most important thing, I think. YOU are a lovely person - and that is what counts! Looks do not matter - truly !! It is what we have inside - and that is what has made me the person I am today.
Regarding the drinking .... I talked with my therapist yesterday and had a wonderful appt., but we talked about the drinking - and any step forward is good - I think it is great that you are aware of it and trying .... it took a long time for us to get where we are - so it is like I think dieting must be - don't expect overnight miracles ! I feel with me that it is one step forward and two steps back sometimes. But I have Faith that I will get there in the end.
Houtx - so sorry about the scottish chap ...... but you sound as if you are better off without him.
Dizzy - your Max sounds wonderful - we have a Max too - gave birth to him 18 years ago! (well I didn't personally - LOL - but we had his mum). Your Max sounds lovely, but it would be one heck of a journey for him !!!! I had Winston, whom we had from 3 months old and he would go under my daughters bed whenever I went to UK - only coming out for food and the lit tray - then when I got home, he would sit with his back to me !!! When I had chemo, and was bald, he would sleep on my head - after all, I had lost my 'fur' and needed to be kept warm - he was MY cat !! Lived til he was 18 ..... and I was devastated, but it wasn't fair to him to keep him alive. You could get another cat - it wouldn't be the same - but I think the having of a pet is very good for us emotionally. There are SO many at the animal shelters!
Oh - re the Vitamin D - every time I go for my cancer check up they check my Vit D and I am always around 23-25 - TOO LOW ! I try to remember to take one each week - but always forget - my oncologist suggested ONE 50,000 IU tab once a week. he gave me an RX but I get them on-line as it is cheaper.
Meggie - I will Pm you about my job as I don't want to put it out here where everyone and anyone can see it !! Most of the folk on here know what I do, but will PM you....
Have to go and feed the dogs - it is 5.00 and they are all sitting here staring at me - LOL
love and hugs, Sun XXX
BK - my mum once said to me (we were sitting in a restaurant/cafe), after I had made a derogatory comment about my looks - "WHO in here would you rather look like?" I looked around - and there was NO-ONE ! As I get older and more wrinkly and - well just OLD, I realise that it doesn't matter what we look like ! I was only in my 20's when my mum asked me that and even though I didn't like my looks- there was no-one else that I would have chosen to look like ! I have seen your picture - I think you are pretty - for what MY opinion is worth! I think it really is what is inside that shines out from us - no matter what we look like. So, please stop worrying about your looks - when you are my age, you will be grateful for looking the way that you do now !!
Yes, I am comfortable with who I am - after all, I can't be anyone else !! I love me and know that I am a good person - which is the most important thing, I think. YOU are a lovely person - and that is what counts! Looks do not matter - truly !! It is what we have inside - and that is what has made me the person I am today.
Regarding the drinking .... I talked with my therapist yesterday and had a wonderful appt., but we talked about the drinking - and any step forward is good - I think it is great that you are aware of it and trying .... it took a long time for us to get where we are - so it is like I think dieting must be - don't expect overnight miracles ! I feel with me that it is one step forward and two steps back sometimes. But I have Faith that I will get there in the end.
Houtx - so sorry about the scottish chap ...... but you sound as if you are better off without him.
Dizzy - your Max sounds wonderful - we have a Max too - gave birth to him 18 years ago! (well I didn't personally - LOL - but we had his mum). Your Max sounds lovely, but it would be one heck of a journey for him !!!! I had Winston, whom we had from 3 months old and he would go under my daughters bed whenever I went to UK - only coming out for food and the lit tray - then when I got home, he would sit with his back to me !!! When I had chemo, and was bald, he would sleep on my head - after all, I had lost my 'fur' and needed to be kept warm - he was MY cat !! Lived til he was 18 ..... and I was devastated, but it wasn't fair to him to keep him alive. You could get another cat - it wouldn't be the same - but I think the having of a pet is very good for us emotionally. There are SO many at the animal shelters!
Oh - re the Vitamin D - every time I go for my cancer check up they check my Vit D and I am always around 23-25 - TOO LOW ! I try to remember to take one each week - but always forget - my oncologist suggested ONE 50,000 IU tab once a week. he gave me an RX but I get them on-line as it is cheaper.
Meggie - I will Pm you about my job as I don't want to put it out here where everyone and anyone can see it !! Most of the folk on here know what I do, but will PM you....
Have to go and feed the dogs - it is 5.00 and they are all sitting here staring at me - LOL
love and hugs, Sun XXX
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I'd say today but if I slip in the shower, it's hospital time, and I can't carry anything downstairs (just me on my bum)
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