New here and starting Topa and with a question
Hi ladies! So sorry I have been away for so long! Glad you all are still here posting though.
I really don't think I can address everyone but I will say DYD I am very happy that you got the Nal. As for me it did kick out my cravings very well. the really inappropriate drinking stopped for me. My nightly habits however remain,and I accept that as part of my life. Like Sun, my hubs hated it when I stopped drinking. It was too much a part of us. But I get stupid WAAAYYY less.
Speaking of the hubs, since I last checked in with you all he got laid off. We had been stressing about it for a while, figuring it was coming, so it was almost a relief when it was over, especially since he got an AMAZING severance package. We have many months of coverage for him to figure out what to do next. But to add stress, I am a federal government employee and I was facing the possible shutdown. So until yesterday I was also freaking out about the potential of both of us being out of work at the same time!
We've had our ups and downs throughout this, but had another big down Thursday night. I was trying hard to be affectionate and stuff and then we ended up in a gigantic fight about my apparent lack of parenting skills when it comes to our tempermental daughter, then he started giving me crap about staying up late...
I also have been drinking a bit more lately because of all of this stress and so then he attacked me about not remembering all of the details of recent late night conversations. There was no way I was gonna win this one!
so was pretty upset that night, then he was a typical guy, acted like nothing happened in the morning (oh he was drunk BTW, that's when he loves to pick fights).
That next day we took off for another motorcycle riding/camping weekend (just got back today). Our neighbors came for the 2nd time in a row and we had a lot of fun. the gal Laura and I really bonded. I even told her about you all and our site. I dummed it down a bit but she was soo cool. She was saying she was looking for some sort of social forum to participate in.
she and I did get wasted that first night though, but it was fun and a rare occurrence. Our husbands thought it was funny and not negative. Certainly different than my hubs giving me shit for staying up late and drinking on my own. this was at least social!
I have a WHOLE lot of travel coming up, personal and professional. I will not hardly see my kids for about 6 weeks! Here's the breakdown:
Romantic weekend this coming one, riding up the california coast with hubs on his Gold Wing. We stay the 1st night at a lovely hotel and bought the package with wine and massages. Next day proceed up to the bay area and stay with my best friend from High School. then Sunday, ride the whole way back to san diego.
Monday I fly to Washington DC for two weeks straight. A week of important meetings and the 2nd week in a class. In between I get to jet over to Pennsylvania for a day to see my VERY BEST FRIEND IN THE WORLD! My colleague roommate, my maid of honor, etc. We don't talk or see each other nearly as much as I'd like, but in our hearts we are still best friends.
also during this trip Easter falls, and another dear friend is having me over to share it with his family since he didn't want me to be alone in a hotel. Very sweet.
So then it gets even more crazy. Hubs and I have been signed up for this big motorcycle ride in Nevada around the grand canyon for months, so it is happening in the middle of all of this. I actually fly from DC to Vegas to meet him the last week of April, do the riding over several days, then the following Tuesday fly back out east to Norfolk for another series of work meetings. I come back home that following Friday, am here for 5 days, and then out again to Hawaii for 16 days for my Navy Reserve Duty.
SHEESH!!!!
It's kind of hard to be important sometimes. I've never ever had a schedule this aggressive before though. I just hope everything stays okay at home. I love traveling and my work but it's a lot at once.
Especially when there seems to be a lot of strain on our lives already! Well I will do my best....
Sorry so much about me! Just too much going on to keep up with everyone.
Big Hugs to all, you are amazing and strong women trying to do the right thing!!!!
:goodjob:
Illuminae
Hi ladies! So sorry I have been away for so long! Glad you all are still here posting though.
I really don't think I can address everyone but I will say DYD I am very happy that you got the Nal. As for me it did kick out my cravings very well. the really inappropriate drinking stopped for me. My nightly habits however remain,and I accept that as part of my life. Like Sun, my hubs hated it when I stopped drinking. It was too much a part of us. But I get stupid WAAAYYY less.
Speaking of the hubs, since I last checked in with you all he got laid off. We had been stressing about it for a while, figuring it was coming, so it was almost a relief when it was over, especially since he got an AMAZING severance package. We have many months of coverage for him to figure out what to do next. But to add stress, I am a federal government employee and I was facing the possible shutdown. So until yesterday I was also freaking out about the potential of both of us being out of work at the same time!
We've had our ups and downs throughout this, but had another big down Thursday night. I was trying hard to be affectionate and stuff and then we ended up in a gigantic fight about my apparent lack of parenting skills when it comes to our tempermental daughter, then he started giving me crap about staying up late...
I also have been drinking a bit more lately because of all of this stress and so then he attacked me about not remembering all of the details of recent late night conversations. There was no way I was gonna win this one!
so was pretty upset that night, then he was a typical guy, acted like nothing happened in the morning (oh he was drunk BTW, that's when he loves to pick fights).
That next day we took off for another motorcycle riding/camping weekend (just got back today). Our neighbors came for the 2nd time in a row and we had a lot of fun. the gal Laura and I really bonded. I even told her about you all and our site. I dummed it down a bit but she was soo cool. She was saying she was looking for some sort of social forum to participate in.
she and I did get wasted that first night though, but it was fun and a rare occurrence. Our husbands thought it was funny and not negative. Certainly different than my hubs giving me shit for staying up late and drinking on my own. this was at least social!
I have a WHOLE lot of travel coming up, personal and professional. I will not hardly see my kids for about 6 weeks! Here's the breakdown:
Romantic weekend this coming one, riding up the california coast with hubs on his Gold Wing. We stay the 1st night at a lovely hotel and bought the package with wine and massages. Next day proceed up to the bay area and stay with my best friend from High School. then Sunday, ride the whole way back to san diego.
Monday I fly to Washington DC for two weeks straight. A week of important meetings and the 2nd week in a class. In between I get to jet over to Pennsylvania for a day to see my VERY BEST FRIEND IN THE WORLD! My colleague roommate, my maid of honor, etc. We don't talk or see each other nearly as much as I'd like, but in our hearts we are still best friends.
also during this trip Easter falls, and another dear friend is having me over to share it with his family since he didn't want me to be alone in a hotel. Very sweet.
So then it gets even more crazy. Hubs and I have been signed up for this big motorcycle ride in Nevada around the grand canyon for months, so it is happening in the middle of all of this. I actually fly from DC to Vegas to meet him the last week of April, do the riding over several days, then the following Tuesday fly back out east to Norfolk for another series of work meetings. I come back home that following Friday, am here for 5 days, and then out again to Hawaii for 16 days for my Navy Reserve Duty.
SHEESH!!!!
It's kind of hard to be important sometimes. I've never ever had a schedule this aggressive before though. I just hope everything stays okay at home. I love traveling and my work but it's a lot at once.
Especially when there seems to be a lot of strain on our lives already! Well I will do my best....
Sorry so much about me! Just too much going on to keep up with everyone.
Big Hugs to all, you are amazing and strong women trying to do the right thing!!!!
:goodjob:
Illuminae
Last night I had maybe two small glasses of wine but I don't know why I had any at all. I'm so glad your SEs are minimal. I really hope your current dose does the trick for you and you don't have to go up. How long do you plan to stay where on it? That's always the question I guess.
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