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Go for it Sun! You can do it! Focus on filling the voids, treat yourself to a chocolate instead of a cigarette, and another for the beer sub at nite. I find it helps.
DYD, I feel your pain, I'm struggling right there with you. I can't go AF without serious planning to make sure I'm ready for it, and that I am not at home in the evenings if possible. Tonight I went to the dogpark for an hour, which broke up my routine and got me tracking in the right direction. I realize that's not viable for everyone but changing the pattern is the secret, not the actual dogpark. When I have to be at home, I make myself a seltzer with cranberry or grapefruit juice. I was home tonight at 7pm, had one beer and a big dinner. Seems to help to have the blood sugar fully loaded.
Welcome 8 of Cups! Even ten years ago, we had nothing. Thus, many of us are ten years later to the support and that much more into the addiction, unfortunately. Wish I could have stopped this in my twenties or thirties. Even having 2-3 glasses of wine a night, or a couple of beers, is too much for the brain and liver/kidneys long term. And for me, I don't think it's good for my health, my body seems to be very sensitive to everything. Being AF for two weeks was a miracle in change for me, that I want to get back. I lost years from my attitude and looks in days. I'm really going to go back there, and stay longer next time.
I read on Amazon (in a book review about how to become financially secure) that a certain author says there are basically ten roads to riches, and one is to "marry well". So I better get on that train, because I'm late to the show. Another is to "be famous". I guess I could run around nude in downtown at lunch - and get arrested? I would alert all the TV stations first, of course.
Is it ironic that the financially insecure situation causes such anxiety about my job security that I have panic and go to the wine store or xanax to self-medicate? And ironic that one of the road to wealth most of my friends used was marrying well and I was taught to be financially viable on my own and that also being a SuperMom working plus a family was just too hard to do both so choose the job? If I could have stopped the drinking in my early twenties, I might have had a clearer view of life and felt that I could introduce kids into this violent world, but then again, maybe not.
Sorry if I'm a roller coaster here :bonkers:
Go for it Sun! You can do it! Focus on filling the voids, treat yourself to a chocolate instead of a cigarette, and another for the beer sub at nite. I find it helps.
DYD, I feel your pain, I'm struggling right there with you. I can't go AF without serious planning to make sure I'm ready for it, and that I am not at home in the evenings if possible. Tonight I went to the dogpark for an hour, which broke up my routine and got me tracking in the right direction. I realize that's not viable for everyone but changing the pattern is the secret, not the actual dogpark. When I have to be at home, I make myself a seltzer with cranberry or grapefruit juice. I was home tonight at 7pm, had one beer and a big dinner. Seems to help to have the blood sugar fully loaded.
Welcome 8 of Cups! Even ten years ago, we had nothing. Thus, many of us are ten years later to the support and that much more into the addiction, unfortunately. Wish I could have stopped this in my twenties or thirties. Even having 2-3 glasses of wine a night, or a couple of beers, is too much for the brain and liver/kidneys long term. And for me, I don't think it's good for my health, my body seems to be very sensitive to everything. Being AF for two weeks was a miracle in change for me, that I want to get back. I lost years from my attitude and looks in days. I'm really going to go back there, and stay longer next time.
I read on Amazon (in a book review about how to become financially secure) that a certain author says there are basically ten roads to riches, and one is to "marry well". So I better get on that train, because I'm late to the show. Another is to "be famous". I guess I could run around nude in downtown at lunch - and get arrested? I would alert all the TV stations first, of course.
Is it ironic that the financially insecure situation causes such anxiety about my job security that I have panic and go to the wine store or xanax to self-medicate? And ironic that one of the road to wealth most of my friends used was marrying well and I was taught to be financially viable on my own and that also being a SuperMom working plus a family was just too hard to do both so choose the job? If I could have stopped the drinking in my early twenties, I might have had a clearer view of life and felt that I could introduce kids into this violent world, but then again, maybe not.
Sorry if I'm a roller coaster here :bonkers:
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