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[Ne/Neva Eva]

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Tag! I owe you one, btw. We went home (Baltimore) for the weekend. So much for the overseas adventure...
But it was a remarkable weekend. Always is, when we go home and see what we left, what could have been and what the reality is for the people we left behind at the bar(s). I can't tell you how many friends and acquaintances we've lost. Many, many more than the ones who actually 12-stepped it to freedom, though there are some of those too. There are also the ones still sitting on the barstool! (Which is shocking and sad. They generally look like hell.) Two who own bars now, one who has a restaurant.

Oy vey. There I go, going on and on again.

Anyway, I think I got shy or something. Or maybe it was the general malaise I let take over for awhile. Thank all that matters that crap is over. Maybe this weekend? (For those wondering, I reached out to TexasAg about travel ideas. Then I dropped the ball and never re-contacted.) Sincere apologies about that.

And thank you for the kind words.
xo

[TexasAg]

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No worries! Glad to see you had a good time!

Buenos Aires is calling you! You can learn and tango with your husband!

Happy Anniversary!

Cheers!

[Ne/Neva Eva]

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Thanks.

We tried to learn how to dance together before we got married. It didn't work very well. I could not let myself be led... It was very frustrating for our dance instructor. And Ed. I might (maybe, possibly) allow him to push or pull me in the right direction now. Probably. Maybe.

[Colin]

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Ne/Neva Eva;1503354 wrote: Hiya Missy! My husband is...amazing. I don't know how I got so lucky. Really. He supports me in absolutely every thing I do. He looks for ways to make my life easier. More than that, though, he works hard both at his job and at home, so that we can reach our goals.

What a lucky little bunny you are. It's almost too good to be true. It's beginning to read like a fairy story - I hope you both live happily ever after.

There's a new film here loosely based on Cinderella with Ne in the title role.

I can see the last act of the film with Ne riding Trigger and Ed riding Tonto into the sunset.

Pan off to the left and it's Basil Fawlty saying "Don't mention the deleted posts".

[terryk]

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Suddenly, this seems relevant here:


From: How to Deal with a Cranky Senior Citizen (with Pictures)

How to Deal with a Cranky Senior Citizen


[*]Question why you perceive this person is cranky. Are you making an assumption that because this person is older than you that they must be "cranky" rather than having a legitimate concern or complaint?[*]Review your motives before judging theirs.[*]Ask why they are feeling cranky or if they would be sensitive to the label ask if they're "in a bad mood". If you truly do feel that an elderly person is behaving belligerently or is just being plain difficult, it is prudent to ask what the matter is rather than fuming and name-calling. Perhaps the person involved will give you an answer and perhaps it is something that you can assist with and improve their day. Sometimes they will not respond to you; respect this as their right - they may well find being asked this confronting and a misinterpretation of their behavior. Apologize for your assumption and offer to help in any way that you can.[*]Always look for the positive attributes of the senior citizen involved. If you know the person, it will be easy to remember his or her good qualities.[*]Be aware that many things in society are not easy for elderly citizens who must contend with a fast pace of life, rudeness or abruptness when seeking goods and services, forms that have to be filled out in fine print, payment needed for a lot for things that they often cannot afford, being made to contend with traffic, stairs and other obstacles that are suited to younger, fitter people but do not lend themselves easily to older persons with disabilities or slower reaction times, etc.[*]Put yourself in their shoes whenever you feel aggravated and it should help you to see a part of why they might be angry or irritable.[*]Offer assistance with simple tasks that could be troublesome. Maybe you can offer to fill out that form for them, grab their paper or mail, or walk them across the street.[*]Ask if you can pick up any items from the grocery store. Not only can traffic be frustrating but grocery stores can be tiresome to navigate.Try to alleviate pain. If the elderly person in your life is grumpy because of pain, ensure that they have adequate access to a doctor or appropriate specialist. At times, even pain-relieving medications cannot remove pain, and being grouchy is a natural human reaction to coping with constant pain.Realize some medications can cause irritability as a side effect.Look for the person inside who lives behind that pain and draw him or her out.Respect their pain by explaining to them that you know they are suffering from pain but also try to lighten their day by suggesting ways that will help to take their mind off the pain.Don't make light of it but equally, let them know gently but firmly that you will not accept this pain as a wedge in your relationship.Get an elderly family member or friend to become involved in activities. Sometimes an elderly person is grumpy because he or she is lonely and has forgotten how to interact with others, or is simply feeling cooped up at home all the time and out of touch.Find activities that interest him or her, including reviving hobbies once loved.Help drive or walk them to activities, purchase hobby items, large print books and papers, books on tape or safe activities to get them enthused.Introduce them to new hobbies. If they are able you can also introduce them to the internet. Many enjoy looking up old friends, research, genealogy, etc.
[*]Contact a senior center and inquire what activities are available and find out a schedule of events. Many older people come "out of their shells" when allowed to socialize with others their age.
[*]Accept things for what they are, provided it is safe to do so. Sometimes the situation cannot be resolved.
[*]Learn to live with your cantankerous senior citizen unless personally threatened. If threatened, contact the appropriate authorities or consult other adults who can intervene. Remember, in most cases, elderly people are the ones who are vulnerable to violence and require protection, love and respect from you and your family.
[*]Remember, we're all heading in the direction of becoming elderly citizens, so think ahead. What you can do to make this person's day a little easier and that will ultimately continue to improve the way we value older members of our community, will be a mark of your humanity and foresight.
[*]Understand they may be irritable because others your age may have treated them poorly. The behavior may be their response to self preservation.
Remember that growing old can also bring about depression in the elderly. Some may show their depression in the form of anger, sadness, mood-swings, etc.
Consult someone who deals with those suffering from geriatric depression if there seem to be other issues.
Remember older women undergo hormonal changes that may result in irritability and depression
Every human being is valuable, whatever our age, and every single one of us has off days.

[Colin]

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terryk;1503852 wrote: 25. Remember older women undergo hormonal changes that may result in irritability and depression

I don't believe that this applies to Ne.

And I'm sure that's not her in the picture.

[Juja]

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terryk,

Thank you for the post on the elderly. Taking care of my elderly parents has made me realize that being old is hard, very hard. As a society, we tend to view them as an impediment, as opposed to human beings to whom we should show patience and kindness.

[john doe]

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I used to deliver furniture and a big part of clientele was the elderly. I used love those deliveries. Old people are a lot smarted than people give them credit for. Its no big surprise as you will know a bit after 70+ years of life experience. You here some amazing stories. A lot lived through seriously hard times and you very rarely here any complain. My grandmother looked after me for a lot of my youth. I was destroyed when she died. Ever notice the way everyone loves their grand parents?

I couldn't imagine not looking after my parents when if and when the time comes. They looked after me for 16 years (who am I kidding they still are at 37)

[Colin]

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Terryk's list does not contain all of the indignities inflicted on older people. His post is spoilt by the picture at the top showing what could easily be a tired, lonely and depressed old lady and then writing about a cranky old lady.

It's just too easy to get a cheap laugh by playing the old folks card. I hope that wasn't the intention.

[terryk]

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Colin;1504286 wrote: Terryk's list does not contain all of the indignities inflicted on older people. His post is spoilt by the picture at the top showing what could easily be a tired, lonely and depressed old lady and then writing about a cranky old lady.

It's just too easy to get a cheap laugh by playing the old folks card. I hope that wasn't the intention.

King Arthur: Old woman.
Dennis: Man.
King Arthur: Man, sorry. What knight lives in that castle over there......

You know Colin, I posted that article to remind myself that your recent pointless, mean-spirited, ad nauseum inanity here might be a product of you just being a cranky old fart. But maybe it's a shining example of how one can cure one's chronic alcoholism completely, and yet leave the underlying chronic asshole-ism intact. Good show old chap. -tk

[Colin]

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terryk;1504324 wrote:
You know Colin, I posted that article to remind myself that your recent pointless, mean-spirited, ad nauseum inanity here might be a product of you just being a cranky old fart. But maybe it's a shining example of how one can cure one's chronic alcoholism completely, and yet leave the underlying chronic asshole-ism intact. Good show old chap. -tk

Oh well, we all have our problems. Good luck with yours.

[Ne/Neva Eva]

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It's 8 am here in Virginia and I just opened a Corona. It's for the snails in my garden. Apparently they like beer more than they like vegetation. (Who doesn't?)

We keep the booze in the garage and I didn't bother getting the bottle opener, and just popped it. (A party trick!) It had a peculiar little poof of mist, and sprayed a bit onto my face and neck. I was instantly transported back to when that would have been the start to the day. (Anytime I could hide for an entire day, that is. I generally didn't start before noon, even on a day off, but it wasn't because I wasn't thinking about it when I got up. I figure you guys know...)

I was tempted to swig it, just to be rebellious. But honestly, the thought is repulsive. I've just finished my uber-healthy breakfast (thank you very much) and I think I would have tossed it right back up.

I am so grateful that I've got this gorgeous spring day. And a garden that I've actually tended for more than a month. That I will likely continue to take care of, because I can.

And a boatload of other productive, happy-making or boring-as-hell things to do today. (I know, Lo0p. You'll have it by the time you get up if you sleep in.) I am going to finish refinishing our patio table today. It is GORGEOUS now, I don't mind telling you. And I've got an exam tomorrow I would like to do really well on. I've got some friends to get in touch with, and pesto to make. Oh. And cream of tartar to buy! None of which would be possible if I hadn't kept taking the damn pills.

Thanks friends. Power on titraters. It works.

[bleep]

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You can always sprinkle crushed baclofen over the lettuce if the snails look to be getting out of hand.

I'm very confused though. What exactly are you going to do with the beer? Get the smails drunk? For the rest of their lives? Surely they will just breed more?

[Ne/Neva Eva]

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bleep;1511770 wrote: Surely they will just breed more?

Very good point. I shall watch closely for copulating snails. The good news is that if they're copulating, which I support in a general kind of way, then they are not eating my flowers. This will keep them from certain death. (Actually, I'm not gonna kill them. That's gross. I will pluck them and place them in the garbage to end up in a landfill where they will have a HUGE smorgasbord to eat from. Nice of me, no? But first I'm going to try to get them drunk to...slow them down.)

[Doggygirl]

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Hi Ne! Just popped over to look for you and ended up reading your beautiful 5/9 post. I'm very happy for you! :h

How is school going? How much more are you doing? I just celebrated 5 years sober on 5/22. On that day my gift to myself was registering for my first 2 grad school courses. NEVER could I have done this back in the drunken days!

Life is good. For us. For the snails.

DG