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[sjm]

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oh, my precious jewel.......you have the strength and patience to endure this test. you have the tools at hand to support the process of claiming what is yours. you have the loving spirit to hold your son and your self close. i see all resolving easily and quickly. i affirm this as the truth and send my love, mom

[Isolde]

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Wow Roo, that is unbelievable! I am imagining him being forced to leave your house ASAP, and that you will very soon be able to live in peace again because everything will be swiftly and painlessly resolved. :l

Your current upheaval aside, I'm glad you found some time to check in and update us. I had a short hiatus from the boards too, just because I was so darned busy. Checking in quickly now before turning in.

It's actually cool here tonight, so wishing everyone a cozy evening around the campfire, wherever the heck you all are.

[ifulovelife2]

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Rudy, don't worry about it, I see him leaving very soon. He'll feel compelled to vacate your home. :l

[redhead77]

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Hi Ru!

I was starting to get very worried about you. :l You never go this long without posting even when visiting your family. I'm glad you made it back safely, and had a delightful time with your family on your holiday. Did anything happen recently to make the ex spiteful? I mean more spiteful than usual. He just decided to move into the house all of a sudden? And is he equipped emotionally and financially to have 49% custody? Without the building he lives in on your property, will he be able to secure a suitable home for G? I would imagine you'd have a good case with him changing women like underwear, and even moving women in with him. It doesn't sound like a great environment for G to live in.

As far as posititvity goes, I try to remember the saying everything you do comes back to you. Just keep the kindness going in actions and thoughts for others as well as yourself (which I know you do) and the universe will bring it back to you!

[SlipperyPete]

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He knows he's fucked so he's trying suck whatever he can out of you while there's still time. Last kicks of a dying beast or something. Luckily you're a very strong woman and won't let his shittiness get to you. Plus, you have the legal advantage, so you won't have to put up with him for tooooo long. You got this :l

[bleep]

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I'm sure you'll be fine Rudy! Dude sounds like a tool.

On a more important note, I notice that even after being away for so long, people are still discussing mouldy tea! What's up with that? And how come capitals are creeping into some of your posts? Have you grown another finger?

[taw]

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Ah, that sucks Rudy! Start with your attorney! What about a restraining order? Are you legally seperated? Or just make his life as miserable as possible while he is there that he wants to leave!

I am sure it will work out! let us know how it progresses!

[Bruunhilde]

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Ru, this is just his death throes, his fear, his anger. Its his problem, and soon it will clearly be his path away from you and your house. Sending love and freedom thoughts your way!

[RudyB]

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thanks so much, everyone, for your support. i really appreciate it. i have to fly now to go get my boy. i'll make every effort to get back to you soon with an update. it means the world to me to know that i have my team -you- rooting for me. this ain't easy, and today was probably the most harrowing day of my life, but there IS reason to be hopeful.

xo rudy

[Bruunhilde]

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Ugh, can't imagine the situation with him in the house. It must be really tough to make it look nice for G, the dynamics of the situation being what they are.... :l

[LadyLush]

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Rudy,

Ditto! He is trying to hang on to a little bit of pride. Time alone will work that kink out. I had one that every time I tried to leave there seemed to be a catastrophe in his life I had to address. Time took care of that. Brenda, the 'psychic chick' has it right. Give it a few days.

So good to see you Bleep and Taw.:l

Glad you are back and well Rudy!

LL:l

[RudyB]

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evenin' everyone!

as i sit down to write to y'all, out of nowhere images of recent dreams come flooding in, and i find myself once again battling demons in storms, going uphill and whatnot. alas, these are the days of low bottoms!

gosh, where to begin? ok, well, the legal shit will be sorted. i'll do some negotiations and more very expensive conferring with my lawyer, and i'll figure out the best course of action and take aim. i'll be sure to keep you posted of my successes, so long as you'll keep imagining them. thanks in advance for doing just that. (as a saggitarian archer, i am fairly confident in my anticipated bulls-eyes.)

i had a lovely evening (well, until just this second, when the ex got back on the phone with his gf, just there, under the thin floor). ...i had a lovely evening at my son's school, where i filled in for the aftercare supervisor person, where i played basketball and did acrobatics with g and his schoolmates (as he, in fact, calls them). i have another great idea for the dojo, for which i'll be paying dearly (the dojo, not the idea): playgroups with the young'uns, where they'll be treated to acrobatic feasts, leading to routines to please all audiences. they love it already, and it is great exercise for me, especially when i'm missing my runs. (the money will be handy, too, and people pay dearly for quality childcare the likes of what i have to offer.)

...speaking of, i realized today, on my way to get my son, that i haven't run or listened to my favorite music in over a week. for the first time in many days, i put on orishas on my way into town, and instantly my mood was lifted. here's the song i landed on when i started out:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=38AzNEmmiVI[/video]]300 Kilos - Orishas - YouTube

check out that incredible featured vocalist, yuri buenaventura, singing of her beloved land and its music, knowing that a song of praises can cure any blues, be they praises to a country, a culture, or sacred ideas. aww, shit! that song lifted my spirit right out of the dumps. thank you music!

s'wanyway, i had a good time at my son's school, being physical with the kids, and connecting with former colleagues, and old and new friends. i told lots of broad- and not-so-broad strokes about my current situation. all confidants were head-shakingly sympathetic, and all, naturally, are sending me their strongest vibes for the best possible outcome. it felt really good to wax so with such truly wonderful people.

after aftercare, my son and i had dinner with the transylvanians up the road. the whole evening reminded me of how important it is to stay connected to others, how good it feels to experience those connections in action. indeed, our connections to others are necesary for our survival!

god it gets my goat, the situation that i'm in. it's a really sour pickle to have to swallow whole. but i have to do it, and the only way out is through. (that just stirred up some weird imagery, but you get the gist.)

ergh.

i'll go to bed now. tomorrow is a new day, and any day will be better than today, which ranks in my shortlist of the two worst days of my life. (through till mid-afternoon earlier, i was trembling and my breathing was shallow, my cheeks for hours were sucked-in with worry.)

thanks for reading, for caring, and especially for responding.

xo rudy ru the redeemed!

[RudyB]

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aww, shit, i just noticed a bunch of new posts that i missed before. hi bleep, good to see you again! yes, he is a tool. and no, i didn't grow another finger, i just wrote something in word. taw, lifer, pete, lady, red, mom, bruun, isolde, ev'body, hello!

red, the only thing that i did recently to cause him to bug out was to tell him i'd give him no child support, under any circumstances, and so i'd only file with a 49/51% agreement, thereby leaving him without legal recource to more money from me. he has moved into the house in order to drive home the need to settle this case (via giving him even more money). the exact way i'll wiggle out of this remains to be seen (if i haven't made that clear already!), but slide out of it i will, somehow, some way.

anywhoot, i guess at this point i've said enough. just wanted to hail you all up. hi! hi! thanks for being here with me on this, it means a lot.

[RudyB]

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duhh, another Obvious i forgot to mention: my ex does have the legal right to be in my house, even though it is in my name only, since we are still married. so on that front, i am basically screwed. thus, the urgency to negotiate. his is a master plan, and he is the devil.

[bobsd]

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Hey I just saw this... I am so sorry for the craziness you are going through. Stay strong and this A-hole will be gone soon enough. Much love.