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Anxiety is not a separate issue from indifference. I was one of the ones who did not know that I suffered from anxiety. This, even after years and years of therapy, some of which was with the best shrinks on the east coast (U.S.) My mom is a psychologist. I am very familiar with introspection, CBT, and most other forms of therapeutic thought-alteration. Didn't work and I've never been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder.
I didn't know because I thought I was simply eccentric, and skittish, and flighty. I assumed that everyone wakes their husband in the middle of the night in order to make sure he's breathing. Or plans for emergencies in relation to walking the dog around the neighborhood. It turns out that my default reflex is akin to an Afghani! :H Always with the adrenaline rush, the flight-or-fight reaction, whether it's a house spider or a neighbor's golden retriever.
The ramifications of this are so overwhelming, so pervasive and so elusive that I had no idea how much it colored every aspect of my life. Until it was simply gone. I don't know that it was a switch, I think it might have been gradual. But I suspect it is this thing, or the absence of it, that keeps me indifferent to alcohol.
The dangerous thing about anxiety is that it is completely subjective. If someone had asked me if I were an anxious person a year ago I would have been shocked! Most of those who know me would say that I'm pretty laid back, a go-with-the-flow kind of person. Those who know me intimately know that I am the antithesis of that.
Indifference is fluid, almost by definition. Anxiety is underrated. Baclofen works.
If I can summarize Murphy and Ne's colloquy...it seems that HDB is more likely to result in indifference where the alcoholic acknowledges pre-existing chronic anxiety (Ne) than where (s)he doesn't (Murphy). Is that right?
Another interesting observation is that the subject may not even appreciate living with chronic anxiety until it is relieved. Its like, "I didn't know what I was feeling was pain until I wasn't feeling it anymore...It was just my normal."
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