Giving up....in a good way!

[Ne/Neva Eva]

Giving up....in a good way!

:H:H:H
I have no clue who or what a Lacan is but will make google my bitch and figure it out. Later. I should not be here now. And I'm gonna get in trouble in a minute from the person who wears the pants...errrr. yeah. whatev. A task master he is not. But he gives me looks that make me cringe.

I really, really want a professor hat too. At any cost except the one you're paying.

[Bruunhilde]

Giving up....in a good way!

I think alot of alcoholics are hypoglycemic. Hypoglycemia can be caused by alcoholic behavior and it can cause alcoholic behavior. Eating erratically can cause low blood sugar as everyone knows which causes frantic snacking on sweets and alcohol which are the fastest ways to boost blood sugar levels and the worst way to do so. It causes a cycle that is more than difficult to exit. I do this just as much as anyone about half the time.

Stuck, how about being happy with what IS? That's what all the new age hippies are working on these days, mediating on what is here and working on seeing the beauty in it and living in the NOW. That means not living in the future (desires) or past (regrets/nostalgia). Its a good meditation for creating happiness and reducing angst. But it helps not to be jacked on sugar, caffeine, smokes, alcohol - its hard to sit still and focus with that stuff.

Juicer pulp can be used as thickener in soup and stew, it can be baked into bread and other things. Its good for composting. Yes it is alot of vegetables/fruit for a small glass, but just think about all the vegetables and fruit you don't have to chew down, you can just drink all the vitamins and minerals. Another option for the pulp is you can add some back into the juice and have a pulpy juice. Although the benefit of juice is supposedly partly the high concentration of nutrients but also the lack of fiber which interferes with nutrient absorption. I've read that a few times but it doesn't make sense to me that all this natural food in its natural state is less beneficial than juiced? I do believe the concentrated nutrients theory is valid and important because our soils are exhausted and we have to eat/drink more vegetation to get the vitamins and minerals we need. Juicing seems to reduce my need to eat sugar which may be due to the sugars in the juice but I like to think nutrients.

Bleh. I'm tired of hearing myself talk in my head. All this is not news to most people anyways. But just in case it is helpful to anyone. Also Taw, I agree with NE, soy is getting some bad press in the past five years or so. Try almond milk or coconut milk. Trader Joes has both.

[ifulovelife2]

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How does the half or quarter AB thing work? Do you get half (or a quarter) less pukey when you drink or does it last less time?

I've finally worked out what you girls were referring to by 'ED'. It wasn't Erectile Dysfunction after all, was it? That was confusing the fuck out of me.

[taw]

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We would have a lot more issues than we already do if ED referred to Erectile Dysfunction pertaining to us chicks...I think that is a whole nother website entirely, M!! I will try to be clearer next time for you!!

Um, the 1/2 or 1/4 makes you less pukey at the time taken...not sure about the after effects...I am too chicken to find out too!!

[redhead77]

Giving up....in a good way!

Hi everyone,

Taw, to answer your question written a few days ago, I had a great time with my family. I was shocked to find out my 90 year old grandfather is finally acting 90, though. He broke his hip last year and hasn't been the same. My 88 year old grandmother has become a little forgetful too. It's nothing too bad, but I can tell. They are both still living on their own in a condo in a retirement community, so I'm grateful for that, but I have to wonder how much longer that will be possible. It's so hard to watch the ones we love age and change. Regarding the booze, I never took into account that my aunts/uncles and most importantly my cousins would be there. I arrived in the early afternoon to most people already having a beer or glass of wine down by the lake. Two of my first cousins are close in age to me, one is a year old and the other a year younger, and they do like to partake a bit. Not to the point of drunkeness, that would be totally unacceptable in my family. My one cousin picked up a very nice bottle of cabarnet just for us because he knew I liked a nice red. Not an hour or two after arriving, he showed me the bottle and asked me to share some with him. I didn't say no. Anyway, my AF time ended then. But it didn't turn into a drunken day nor did any other that I was there.

Stuck, almond milk is a great idea. That's what I drink instead of dairy milk and it does have more calcium than dairy. It also might be better absorbed for some of us. I agree with Ne and the soy thing. Unfortunately, MD's don't get much education (if at all) in nutrition and most still operate believing the food pyramid, which in my opinion (and an increasing number of others) contributes to chronic disease and obesity.

I'm definitely going to invest in a juicer, since you're all talking about it and reminding me. I had wanted to join a veggie CSA, but was worried with the cost of the CSA and the fact that I grow a veggie garden (which isn't doing well this year) that I'd have too many veggies and they'd go to waste. I'll bet not if I had a juicer. How perfect! Maybe next year.

I totally agree with the hypoglycemia thing Bruun. It's a real fact of life for many of us, and for many it may contribute to alcoholism. Thanks for mentioning it. Thanks also for mentioning living in the moment. I majorly need some lessons on that. How does one learn how to do it. I do some living in the past, but my real issue is that I live in the future. I base and weigh all my decisions for what it may do to my future. I know that's important to a degree, but I overdo and think it. To the point that I drive myself crazy and can't enjoy the moment.

Taw, you do sound great and it's wonderful all the positive changes you're trying to make in your life. Like you said, old habits die hard and they say it takes 21 days to make a new habit. Do you think that's true? The food/eating thing is a learning curve to a degree, and with the constant change in information we all receive, it's hard to know what's the right and healthiest way to eat. I guess just the fact that you're trying to eat something is a good start. :l

Alright, gotta run. I was on call and just got called in to work. I hope everyone has a great day.

[redhead77]

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Oops. I'm my rush to get to work (I have an hour when I get called in), I didn't proofread and noticed a bunch of errors. We all know my grammar isn't so great anyway, but this is worse than usual. Please ignore, and Bruun, I meant to write: How do we do that? With a question mark. Please offer any advice you have. Lol. Ok, time to work. :-)

[Ne/Neva Eva]

Giving up....in a good way!

Two things before I hit the sack:
I was very confused by the ED thing, too. Very. I even googled it! Which was no help which was disturbing in and of itself.

The second thing is that I was actually suggesting that it was likely that the "to soy milk" or "not to soy milk" was probably moot unless one was going to start ingesting great big quantities of it for a good long while. If the goal is simply to ingest some stuff that's good for you (or better for you than vending machine staples) and doesn't make you sick (like milk, apparently does) then, well, all the rest can be a big huge confusing distraction. It is for me.
Most days it is enough for me just to eat! When at least half of those calories are foods that are good for me, I let myself off the hook about all the other stuff. I simply can't manage that part of my life yet. Even if that means that I can't dedicate the time and energy that Redhead does to her family's diet! And gawd knows I have tried to do just a fraction of that! I am in awe. Even though I KNOW that I would feel better (much better on some days) if I ate well and regularly. Where I am has got to be okay for the moment, because that's all I've got. Ya' know? I'm working on it...

I would imagine that sometimes it's just enough to get through the day without drinking. And if it is full of MnMs and Eminem, well, you've got company. (ok. I know not everyone has the love affair with that admittedly not-so-great-a-guy that I do. But MnMs are almost universal!)
And maybe tomorrow I will eat fewer MnMs and feel better. (Because I do usually feel better when I eat well. But sometimes that's just more than I got.)
Here's hoping!

[redhead77]

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Ok. What does this ED mean? I don't know either. And what's wrong with peanut M&M's? I'm kind a food nazi, and I don't think their too bad. The peanuts are packed with protein at least. It helps cancel the sugar. I also agree with the soy milk thing, Ne. It doesn't really matter unless huge quantities are consumed. But if one were to consume soy milk, they should probably make sure it's organic. Monsanto has their hands in all the other soy. Organic soy products can't be made from Monsanto seeds, and it's not genetically modified.

Sorry Taw! I hope it's ok to talk about that here. I'm not sure you want your thread to go to talk of food, and the politics of food. I apologize, but it's something I feel passionately about. I'll try to keep it to a minimum, I promise. :l

Ne, thank you. I've tried to do just a fraction of some of the things you do as well, and I can't. But as you know, we all have strengths and weaknesses. We are all learning from each other. Whether we acknowledge it or not. I like Eminem, but I absolutely adore Kid Rock. Especially when he's all pimped out. Yup, freak! :H

Nighty night folks.

I'll leave you with a song to prove my adoration.

EDIT: I took out my Kid Rock video. It was of All Summer Long. I felt like I shouldn't post it because there might be too much booze in it. I still like the song, though!!

[ifulovelife2]

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please excuse the spassyness of this post. its from my kindle.

ed is eating disorder.
talking of which. sort of but not completely and i dont wish to make light of real and serious ed. but sometimes i get to the point where i have absolutely no appetite. i get myself into certain stressful situations and i just cant eat. all food makes me want to hurl. nothing appeals and so i just cant eat. i cant really afford to lose any more weight. just in order to get some calories i end up forcing fruit juice and snickers bars down my throat. not good and not sustainable. the pont is what can i do to try to kick start my apetite again. im in this situation again now and have been for a few days.

[ifulovelife2]

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sorry i cant quote. red. the livng in the moment and worrying about the future thing. of course its important to be concerned about how what we do and say today may effect tomorrow. theres nothing wrong with that. but sometimes you just have to have a little faith. faith in god or a higher power sure bt mostly faith in yourself your own intelligence and intuition. faith in the knowledge that you wouldnt have allowed a siuation to occur or invited a person into your life if you didnt think it would be right. you have to have faith that you are strong and capable enough to cotnue to influence the future as you go along. there is no situation which occurrs now that will have a definite and unalterable oucome in the future. everything can be altered improved or even cancelled in the future as things become clearer.

so if you have faith in yourself and your own power then you can relax in the knowledge that its ok to enjoy the now.

[taw]

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Sorry to have confused everyone with ED...I was lost in my own world when I typed it....Eating Disorder, which I struggled with for a LONG time...not even thinking of the male issue of ED...!! Now, looking back, I can see how, there was so much confusion!!

No apologizies needed Red! I want to/need to learn all about this. Soy would not be huge quantities. Morning pills, mayb a chocolate milk to satisfy a sugar craving...I would not give it to my son as his daily milk...

Ah, living in the moment....Wow, M, I think I need to print that and carry it with me...faith in myself?? How does that happen? I guess that is the next thing I need to work on...But that was such an uplifiting description!

Hmmm, I am going to have to digest that for a bit....have a good one all!

[ifulovelife2]

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taw;1361107 wrote:

Ah, living in the moment....Wow, M, I think I need to print that and carry it with me...faith in myself?? How does that happen? I guess that is the next thing I need to work on...But that was such an uplifiting description!

Hmmm, I am going to have to digest that for a bit....have a good one all!

Well, before you print it off, do me a favour and correct the spelling and punctuation, will ya?:H

If you can't think of any huge, magnificent, achievements or decisions you've made (and I bet there are actually some), then think of all the little things you've managed (and even manage regularly) and add them together. Think of them as victories, each of which empower you and enable your faith in self.

For instance: did you manage to go to work today? Did you want to slap your boss across his stupid face but didn't? You could so easily go off the rails completely (more so than you may think you already have) but you don't. That's an achievement in itself. You should pat yourself on the back for that. You have faith that you won't tomorrow either. You know how powerful and determined you are because you have decided to go down the baclofen route again. That means you're not content with your present situation but you're determined to fix yourself. That's pretty cool. I have faith in you, so should you.:l

[StuckinLA]

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ifulovelife2;1361144 wrote: If you can't think of any huge, magnificent, achievements or decisions you've made (and I bet there are actually some), then think of all the little things you've managed (and even manage regularly) and add them together. Think of them as victories, each of which empower you and enable your faith in self.

I don't think I can blame this on the spelling or punctuation, I think I'm just a bit hungover and still sleepy, but I first read that as

each of which you are the emperor.

And I like that a lot. Sometimes a kind and benevolent dictator over our decisions, or how we feel. Then ruthless and unforgiving with, say, hopelessness (to steal a recent subject from NEs thread).

[ifulovelife2]

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I do like the idea of someone/thing taking control and battling our foes for us. It's not a spiritual position I have yet achieved or, to tell the truth, sought, but maybe one day ... maybe.

BTW, I'm not sure a dictator could ever be described as "benevolent". That rather suggests an intention to do good for others and have their interests at heart. Dictators are kinda famous for not doing that. Having said that, come the revolution, I think I'd make a rather good dictator: I know what's best for the plebs and will give it to them whether they want it or not.

[spacebebe01]

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My mum always used to have a saying, it was "youll have what you get and like it" which was pretty stupid, she still says that tho when someone gives me something I dont want, usually some of their old tat she will say to me you should be grateful to get anything at all. I dont know why I just wrote that something to do with IULL2 knowing whats best for the plebs.