I was just reading some posts over on the "Posting while Drunk" thread and found this put up by Spiritwolf:
""Are you highly sensitive? You can find out by taking the self-test. This test, the result of empirical research on the trait, gives you a good sense of what high sensitivity is, as well.
If you find you are highly sensitive, or your child is, you need to begin by knowing the following:
•Your trait is normal. It is found in 15 to 20% of the population--too many to be a disorder, but not enough to be well understood by the majority of those around you.
•It is innate. In fact, biologists have found it to be in most or all animals, from fruit flies and fish to dogs, cats, horses, and primates. This trait reflects a certain type of survival strategy, being observant before acting. The brains of highly sensitive persons (HSPs) actually work a little differently than others'. (edit: see Gabor Mate on this)
•You are more aware than others of subtleties. This is mainly because your brain processes information and reflects on it more deeply. So even if you wear glasses, for example, you see more than others by noticing more.
•You are also more easily overwhelmed. If you notice everything, you are naturally going to be overstimulated when things are too intense, complex, chaotic, or novel for a long time.
•This trait is not a new discovery, but it has been misunderstood. Because HSPs prefer to look before entering new situations, they are often called "shy." But shyness is learned, not innate. In fact, 30% of HSPs are extraverts, although the trait is often mislabeled as introversion. It has also been called inhibitedness, fearfulness, or neuroticism. Some HSPs behave in these ways, but it is not innate to do so and not the basic trait.
•Sensitivity is valued differently in different cultures. In cultures where it is not valued, HSPs tend to have low self-esteem. They are told "don't be so sensitive" so that they feel normal."
(bold is my edit)
These traits of Highly Sensitive Persons, I think, also reflect what those who are ADD exhibit. And the traits for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families also exhibit these specific traits too.
When I have no control over what my life is like - or feel that I have no control over my life - I have to maintain control of EVERYTHING. I feel overwhelmed by my own helplessness so I've got to set things up so bad things don't happen....typical ADD, and ACOA behaviour. It's called Highly Sensitive in Spiritwolf's post.
Once I recognized these traits in myself I felt able to make some changes. It's working!!
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