Plenty of horror stories to read around here. I don't remember ManonMars, though.
When I first got here, I did two things that I am really glad I did. One was that I paid attention to what the people who had contented sobriety were doing. The other was that I paid attention to what the people who gave it up did.
I truly believe that indifference=time+milligrams of baclofen. Not that you weren't indifferent! But it helps to wrap your mind around not drinking when it takes a while, and sort of tapers off rather than happens all-of-a-sudden. The other thing is, that titrating up too quickly can really bite you in the butt. That said, I know you know how to do this thing and I'm excited for you.
My husband and plenty of other men around here have had issues with...completion. And/or just getting interested enough to make something happen. Fortunately, it didn't last long for my husband. (And sober sex is WAY better than I ever imagined sex could be. Who knew?) But others have had ongoing issues with it. I hope that in your case, it's temporary.
(There have also been notable cases, including my husband, when, ahem, men would get excited like they were teenagers again. I don't know how old you are, but my husband is in his 40s and that was a FUN couple of weeks. Maybe that will happen to you, too? I hope so. So does your partner. )
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