Things I'm learning about Bac

[MeJustMe]

Look, new sobriety and all the changes you're going through and HDB...Man, I'd just embrace where you are. You know? You're feeling pretty good, you're sleeping pretty well, if feeling too tired occasionally, and things are okay.

Sounds pretty good to me!

Which is not to discourage you from doing all of those other things that we know are good for us and important, both for long term sobriety and long term contentedness...like exercise. But yay! Things are okay! Right?

Yes, you're right Ne, things are pretty good. My smoking worries me, but I don't feel compelled to stop right now. I hope I do before it's too late...
My wife is still drinking, and without me joining her it's put her drinking in sharp relief. That does worry me.

Yet despite these worries, and life's ups and downs, it is much better without drinking. I think drinking put a shadow over my days, being hungover and not really able to feel part of life. Now I am more engaged with things going on around me, it makes me take more notice of the good and the bad.

[Ne/Neva Eva]

My wife is still drinking, and without me joining her it's put her drinking in sharp relief. That does worry me.
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I think drinking put a shadow over my days, being hungover and not really able to feel part of life. Now I am more engaged with things going on around me, it makes me take more notice of the good and the bad.

I quit before my husband did, too. For us it was really bad, honestly. He has the disease as profoundly as I do, and I was preparing for divorce because he told me straight out that he didn't want to take baclofen and didn't want to quit drinking...

About a month later, he changed his mind. He told me it wasn't because I was sober, but because I was so HAPPY because I was sober. He was right. Just remembering that makes me even more motivated to get the booze out of my life for good. I felt GREAT!

As far as the smoking is concerned, I still smoke cigs and have no intention of giving that up until I've been sober a good long while. But if you're talking about smoking other things, my husband gave that up cold turkey about 3 months after he stopped drinking. Give it some time...No need to push all your little brain neurotransmitters to their absolute limit from the get go! lol.