I've never experienced any pink cloud in AA, no. I was institutionalized at the age of 13 in a scared straight 12-step camp. I was there for 18 months. 12 of which I spent in complete protest. It was run on a day-to-day basis by graduates. The oldest was maybe 25 and I'm convinced that at least 2 of them were sociopaths. I'll never feel 100% part of anything 12-step. I go there to connect to individuals.
I have had one spiritual experience. It was a lucid dream - the only one I've ever had. Overnight I went from being an atheist, to being open to quite a bit. I'm even slightly superstitious now. But I wouldn't say I'm anything more than an agnostic who is very open to...something.
Shortly following acceptance of my marriage failing, the actual divorce, and perhaps a few other times where the angst and tension had built to a degree to where nearly every moment was quite intolerable, I did experience something akin to freedom, joy, elation. I grieved and I was free. But things aren't that simple when there's a kid involved and you still love his mother, despite her shortcomings and decisions. I understand why some men cut and run. When I'm having a hard time with my thoughts, thinking of just leaving it all behind can feel very appealing. But I know better, and it would follow me. My son exists.
It's why I'm so interested in the expression of feelings and grieving. It's the only solace I've managed to get, ever. That and connection with someone I can be truly vulnerable with and trust completely. I'm down to one of those and I've got to schedule him two weeks in advance.
I haven't actually spoken to anyone today, and no offense, but these forums don't really help much if I haven't had any live human contact. I'm feeling pretty lonely and, well, I'm just not looking forward to the week to be honest. If that is coming through in my postings, that's why.
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