HELP!!
I don't think that any of the confrontations here were unwarranted. People at MWO here are very nurturing. People have supported me here while I was drinking when I said that I was really scared to stop or I wasn't quite ready to stop. I've said I function better with support than tough love, and people have given me that.
I think the problem here was that this thread was started under a bit of a false pretense. I think that Greeneyes was needing something from all of us--something legitimate. But in asking for it, she didn't take responsibility but passed it onto her husband. Maybe the thread should have been named, "I know I should throw out this booze, but I'm having a hard time doing it," or something similar. I think this is why people felt a bit dumped on when, little by little, it became clear that Greeneyes had more control over the situation than it initially appeared.
I'm not blaming; I'm just trying to understand how this all evolved. We've had these discussions plenty of times on MWO before--support vs. enabling and where is that line where one tips into the other..... Tough love doesn't work well on me, for sure.
Greeneyes, I am fond of you and have enjoyed your posts, so I hope that you won't take this personally. In my early days, I have been the center of a controversy or two, and I know it isn't much fun. We can all learn from this, and I hope that NO ONE leaves. It's not worth it. We are all here to learn and grow, and we can all reach our goals with patience and hard work.
Hugs to all,:hug:
Kathy
I don't think that any of the confrontations here were unwarranted. People at MWO here are very nurturing. People have supported me here while I was drinking when I said that I was really scared to stop or I wasn't quite ready to stop. I've said I function better with support than tough love, and people have given me that.
I think the problem here was that this thread was started under a bit of a false pretense. I think that Greeneyes was needing something from all of us--something legitimate. But in asking for it, she didn't take responsibility but passed it onto her husband. Maybe the thread should have been named, "I know I should throw out this booze, but I'm having a hard time doing it," or something similar. I think this is why people felt a bit dumped on when, little by little, it became clear that Greeneyes had more control over the situation than it initially appeared.
I'm not blaming; I'm just trying to understand how this all evolved. We've had these discussions plenty of times on MWO before--support vs. enabling and where is that line where one tips into the other..... Tough love doesn't work well on me, for sure.
Greeneyes, I am fond of you and have enjoyed your posts, so I hope that you won't take this personally. In my early days, I have been the center of a controversy or two, and I know it isn't much fun. We can all learn from this, and I hope that NO ONE leaves. It's not worth it. We are all here to learn and grow, and we can all reach our goals with patience and hard work.
Hugs to all,:hug:
Kathy
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