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[keeta]

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bootsie...I am going to have to come back and give your post a proper response...because the first few lines sent me into another sobbing fit...and I feel a bit drained...I too need to make sure to live in a way that the people around me know how incredibly honored I feel to have them in my life....blah...water works again...

love to you,
K

[Accountable for Me]

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keeta - I honestly cannot add anything more than what the others have said here. After going through a death recently, myself, the emotions and feelings for me, are still very raw. I had no idea it was coming and the shock is what I basically live with now. A completely different scenario than what you are going through, but I have ties to this person through a child. Still very shitty and confusing, and just hard.

I think barbie put it out there best as to what 'I' would say.

LVT's suggestion about getting that book is a good idea. I think I may purchase it for myself. I am still dealing with the after-math, but not really dealing - you know.

I want to send you so much love and strength. This has to be so, very hard for you. I can't even imagine what it is going to be like when my parents either become ill or pass away. I am not even particularly fond of either of them at the moment either.... but deep down inside I love them and it will be painful for me in other ways.

Lots of love. :l:l:l

[FallenAngel]

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What I believe, is that life is a journey... and that our physical death is not the end, but the passage onto another level. We are given such a wonderful opportunity to experience a physical life & share the love of others while here on our stay.
It matters not the duration, but the quality...
the light that we spread to help others on their journey... that is what makes this life worthwhile & worth living.
Just because we don't see the purpose in life...doesn't mean there isn't one. That's where faith comes in... and our belief in something greater than ourselves.

I hope that today you find some comfort. Please take care.



I wish for you
some new love
at lovely things, and
some new forgetfulness
at teasing things,
and some higher pride
in the praising things
and some sweeter peace
from the hurrying things,
and some closer fence
from the worrying things.

[greeneyes]

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Wow, Fallen...... speachless. That was fantastic.

[dexterhead]

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Hi Keeta: I have no words, but ...:l:l:h:h. I am sorry you are suffering, sweetie.

[WA]

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:l:l:l....Thinking of you...
Jacqui xxx

[Noelle]

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All I can offer are :l and :h right now, sweetie. I'm thinking of you.

[LVT25]

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Some "very nice", so true, and comforting words said here today. Hope you don't mind if I borrow a few Keeta.

Hang in there!:l

[lorisunshine]

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Dearest Keeta,
Let me give you a big bear hug to start. I lost my brother to cancer when he was only 60 and less than 2 years ago my mother succumbed to cancer as well. Just like you, I experienced all the grieve, anger, despair in an ever downward spiral, until finally one day I got out the photo albums and looked at the special moments I had shared with the both of them. I cried and cried and then I laughed and it hit me that I should be celebrating their lifes and the treasured moments we had together. There was nothing I could do to make them come back but they would always be with me for as long as I remembered them.
That was the day when I could let go of the anger and my grieve became gentler and more insightful and grateful for what we had and this started me on my healing path.
I don' know what else to tell you other than that you should not fight your grieve. Bawl your head off but don't forget to dig up as many happy memories and soon you will be able to smile even with tears in your eyes.

While your loved ones are still with you, try and spend as much quality time with them as you can. It is part of your healing process down the road.
Hugs.
Lori :h

[livingfree]

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So sorry for you Keeta. Life is short for sure. Hug them and love on them - both for them and you. I know when life doesn't make sense is when God talks the loudest to me. Just ask him to help you see the truth in all of this darkness. He will.

I will pray for you now ...
Liv

[Finding My Self]

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Keeta - just adding another hug and prayer for you all....thinking of you.

FMS xx

[keeta]

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does anyone know why a person would need 2 colostomy bags?...length of intestines taken out?

[Lucy Van Pelt]

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Keeta-

I just want to give you a hug as well. Yes, cancer sucks...death sucks. I lost my 21 year old niece to cancer one year ago (June 15th). It was horrible. I was so sad and angry. I still miss her terribly. Life can be very hard at times. I will say that even through the horror, there was a silver lining. I have never been closer to my sister and remaining niece, having gone through this with them.

Know you are loved, and we all here are wrapping our arms around you.

Also, if you are one who likes to read you may want to get Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's book called On Death and Dying. It will explain the stages of grief. Also, the book Why Bad things Happen to Good People.

I hope you are having a better day sweetie!

Beth

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Dear Keeta,

Evolving from sadness to anger and back again is a natural reaction when life seems to be getting harder each day. Just as you "get your head around" one thing something else hits you and you have to face that too.

We can't escape these problems when they arise-we can only do everything in our power to help - and cry when we have time.

I have never heard of anyone having two colostomies, sorry.

Wishing you strength, patience, love and endurance.

Love Waves

[KateH1]

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Keeta,
Sending you strength and love. Yep cancer sucks, big time! I lost my youngest sister to cancer when she was only 26. Many family members and friends have lost this battle as well, in recent years. Know that you are not alone, sweetie. Yes, make each day count and don't forget to take good care of yourself in the process.

Love,
XXX Kate