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    #31
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    I know I am new here, but your post made my heart hurt. Although I do not know the details of your situation, I was married for 11 years to an abusive, alcoholic, later drug addict, who tried to ruin my life and the lives of our girls. I even moved cross country to try to "fix" him. He only got worse. After 4 years living in the East and him not working, spending all my money on strip clubs, drugs and porno, and making me feel like a piece of you-know-what, I prayer, prayed, prayed and CALLED AN ATTORNEY. Best thing I ever did. The girls and I moved out of the house that I bought (which he later let fall into foreclosure and disrepair) and we lived a happy life without him. Two years later I married the man of my dreams, he adopted the girls and we have another baby girl 15 months. (And I still drank until recently - what was that about????!) My life is wonderful and meaningful and it came from ashes! It was the hardest damn thing I ever did - leaving him. He cried and promised to change, but I knew the man and knew he would not change. And it ended up that even though I tried to have the girls have a relationship with him, he dissapeared for 4 years chosing alcohol and drugs instead of fatherhood and just recently died a horrible, painful dealth in April of this year as a result of that life choice. I know I made the right decision for the girls and myself. I wish you strength, clarity and hope. Think of YOURSELF and not about him. You know in your heart what is right. Stay strong and you will do what is best.

    Best wishes to you in this difficult situation.
    "All that we are is a result of what we have thought" Buddah:heart:

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      #32
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      girlie your therapist knows you better than any of us. so please listen to therapist and don't drink if you can or drink watered down. okay.... you gotta get the financial detachment stuff moving. and you know after lenair a good strong dose of my favorite woman byron katie would be great. she is a friend of mine and she is one powerful chick. please at least go get her book. any will do but something to do a little self work along the way. alcohol i have found is but one small issue covering up the other larger ones lvoe you honey
      :welcome:

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        #33
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        Dear Greenie, Meltdowns happen because you are overwhelmed. This sounds maybe like what is going on with my fav color Greenie?? I've read about Lenair. WOW, how wonderful. Maybe, all this stuff is coming to a close for you and your psychi is just getting ready to let it go and be free. Please keep posting. All thoughts and prayers from so many are surrounding you with love. xxxxx g.

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          #34
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          I am flipping out. That pretty much covers it. Hubby situation is scaring me shitless. How many attorneys can you talk to in one day? And know get your work done and know you will be chided for it. Crap!
          sigpic
          Thoughts become things..... choose the good ones. ~TUT

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            #35
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            Greenie,

            Deep breaths. Tough thing is none of us (I don't think) really know the situation. Is hubby situation now a physical or emotional fear? If it is emotional, then I'm with BCB - go to Lenair and take care of yourself then work on the hubby situation and listen to your therapist - she knows the full story.
            When we change there are people in all of our lives who are threatened by it. They often act out.
            Whatever you do, do not let this latest flair-up interfere with Lenair - okay?

            Be strong. We are all behind you,
            Beck
            Beck

            Sometimes you get there in spite of your route, losing track of your life and what it's about, the road seems to know when to straighten right out...Mary Chapin Carpenter

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              #36
              meltdown

              Please please hang in there dear Greenie until you can make it to Lenair. I know things with hubby are so difficult. You've got to get to Lenair and deal with yourself and get some time away from that other stuff and clear your head a little first. I wish you could pop in and stay with me for a day or two on your way up there or home again.

              In any case, just keep your eyes on the prize right now. One step at a time. Get to Lenair first.

              I am thinking about you all the time. I love our Green Bean.
              Rest in Peace, Bear. We miss you.

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                #37
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                Green Bean, honey! Stay strong. Better days are just around the corner! I will keep you close in my heart. Keep doing what your doing - the right things. You can only control your own actions and reactions. Draw from your deepest self, and the stregnth will be there...

                Love and support,

                Best
                "It wasn't all I wanted, but all I could stand!":bigwink: Alcohol free since April 8, 2008

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                  #38
                  meltdown

                  After Lenair I believe you will feel like a new person....I know it has been life changing for so many...Your turn is soon to come,hold on until then(it will get better soon)LOL....Evie
                  sigpicEyes on the PRIZE, a SOBER Future !!!

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                    #39
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                    Greenie
                    I'm so sad that your green eyes are blue.

                    :l:l:l

                    Nancy
                    "Be still and know that I am God"

                    Psalm 46:10

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                      #40
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                      Beaner - just checking in to see how you are doing today

                      Love you
                      AF since Jan. 1, 2008 .... It all began right here


                      Raise your hopeful voice, you have a choice, you made it now.


                      (from the Movie "Once")

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                        #41
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                        Here to give you some support; you have already helped me so much in the past 5 days on my "coming out" post. You deserve a breath of fresh air. I'm not sure of what your situation is, but it sounds very serious. Take a couple serious deep breaths for me ... there is nothing better - even if momentarily - than a couple deep breaths ....

                        Best to you ...

                        Sam

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                          #42
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                          Greenie
                          Hope you are doing better today. Hang in there. Before you know it you will be at Lenair and your life will be changing for the better.

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                            #43
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                            Greenie, thinking of you everyday!
                            Forever loved, forever missed Papa Bear

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                              #44
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                              Green Bean - Please take care. So many love you on these boards. Hang in there, sweetie.....
                              The furture lies before you like newly fallen snow - be careful how you tread it, for every step will show.

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                                #45
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                                Greeneyes

                                How are you? I took a walk in the riverbed this morning and came across this little california poppy plant. In the middle of endless rocks, no water and hot sand. And there it was growing. The foliage is red instead of green, but it still managed to produce a bouguet of yellow blossoms to salute the sun. I was awed to realize what beauty can come from what is perceived as only hardship and misery. Sending you courage, g.:h Attached files [img]/converted_files/529957=3481-attachment.jpg[/img]

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