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[binky]

i am miserable. all my 'friends' are out drinking and i want to go but i cant because i know i will just get hammered and be miserable and not leave my house for the next three days because i get such bad anxiety. i am trying not to drink alone but its so hard. i wish i could drink like normal people.

[tawnyfrog]

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Hi Binky - I just want to say "Welcome".

Yes, it's hard but we can't drink like 'normal' people. That's why we're here. Try to fill your evening in with other stuff. Just reading these posts can get rid of hours.

I can't really help much but I did want to acknowledge your post and tell you it does get easier after a while.

Hang in there.

[CS04]

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Binky,
Check out the Intro to the MWO site and FAQs. That will occupy you for awhile. You've already made a step in the right direction by not going out, because you know you'll feel awful tomorrow if you do. Now you know you'll feel good tomorrow! Welcome, read lots of posts, and ask questions.

[Thankful]

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Binky ~ Welcome.

You'll find a lot of people here that will totally understand where you are coming from. It will take a little bit of time, but soon you will see how gratifying sober living is. And shortly after that you will come to realize that getting drunk is not fun. Keep in mind that you are going to wake up feeling great tomorrow and all those out drinking are not going to be so lucky.

Congrats on your decision to come here and seek help. Take some time reading posts. There is a wealth of information out there.

You can also download the book from the Health Store link at the top of the page. It explains the whole program and it's a quick read.

Best of luck to you. Remember, you are not missing out on any fun. If that life were any kind of fun, then why did you come here? Think about it.

We are here for you.

Love, Me
:l

[Muddle]

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Really good point, Thankful. Binky, I think that you put the word freinds in quotes says you know that being with them right now is not the best thing for you. There are true friends out here who care and give wonderful support. Over and over again decided I would drink moderately like other people and over and over again got drunk and said and did stupid things and felt awful the next day. So here we are. Welcome.

[binky]

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do you ever that talking about it and dwelling on all the problems makes it worse? because honestly some of this is a little depressing,,and that deff makes me want to drink even more. i want to give it a shot.... obviously it works for other people. i have just gotten completely out of control. i have lost a lot of friends. and basically most of the people who know me just think i am absolutely nuts. lol.... i probably am

[Ripple]

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binkster..

the most important friend you need to rid is ALCOHOL! you will then not be anxious, depressed, feel as though you are missing out on fun or feeling this subject to be threatening..this is about change to better you; to not be miserable anymore. :welcome:

[biscuit]

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Binky, I hear the pain and honesty in your post. However what struck me is that even though
you wanted to be out drinking you did not list anything positive that could come from it. You are
in the right place and follow all the wonderful suggestions from previous posters. Hang in
there.

Biscuit

[Doggygirl]

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Hi Binky. Just wanted to say :colorwelcome:

I hope you made it through the evening yesterday without AL, no matter what thoughts you were having about your friends who were out drinking, or what the heck to do with yourself while NOT drinking. You will figure that part out in time, and find out that life is WAY more fun and free without the booze. But first we just have to keep making the choice NOT to drink every time that thought rolls around.

There really is lots of positive stuff here on MWO!! One thread you might enjoy and find motivational is https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...ndi-22388.html I think you will get LOTS of positive ideas about what an alcohol free life has in store for you and for all of us!

This thread might be food for thought as well - helping to solidify the reasons you want to stop the madness. https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...ing-22609.html

Best wishes as you begin your journey to a more fulfilling life!! (at least mine is always better when I'm not courting AL!)

DG
Celebrating 32 Hangover Free Days!
:award: + **

[tea]

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Welcome Binky, no we can't drink like normal people but we can all be together here and chat about it eh. You are not alone so don't ever think it. It is so hard at first to get used to the idea that you just cannot drink anymore. Hope you have time to read through the old threads, you will find so much there. Keep posting.

Lx

[Evie.Lou]

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Dear BINKY,let us be your new friends.We understand wishing to drink like others,hard to accept that it isn't gonna be like that,for most of us.You have gotten really good advise above.start gathering the tools that you need and set a plan.The people here will help along the way.6 weeks ago I was desperate and thought I was doomed to die an Alcoholic.it was like a miricle for me to find these caring people to help me start to recover.i can't say that it has been easy but it has been do able.If I can do it,so can you !!!! Evie

[WA]

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Hi Binky,
Welcome,just remember You are you best friend,stick with us there is always somone around....
WA...........X

[KBCE]

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Welcome Binky. I am fairly new as well. We need to change behaviors to get rid of this beast. It is amazing how much time drinking takes up. When I am AF, I actually have free time. AND I HAVE THREE KIDS! It is bizarre, but fun. It's not like I was sitting around drinking and punding it down - I was cooking, cleaning or whatever, but it really did eat into the time I had with my family! It is so much better being AF, albiet hard. You can do this - stay on the boards and read ALL the posts. They have helped me so much - the people on here are really awesome.

[mwo2]

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Hi Binky, For me also is the feeling of "IT'S NOT FAIR!! why can't I drink like other people or in reality not drink like other people." Which is why I think that I tried for so long to tell myself this time I will only drink a little. But I can't, at least not right now. And that is why I am so grateful to have found this "place". I am not alone. Hope you find the words and feeling here to stay AF for another day.
Tawnyfrog made me lol, "just reading these posts can get rid of hours" It is true that is what I did on my first day AF yesterday.
And now I am back on this morning I will for sure be here this afternoon when I would usually be convincing myself that even though I feel it down to my bones that it will turn out bad I still go get some AL. see you later!

new :chick: mwo2

[sweetpea]

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:welcome: Binky. Hang on in there. There is loads of love and support on this site. Keep reading and posting - You will get there but as we all know this journey is a struggle

Loads of love Sweetpea xxxxxx