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[Rosey]

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Hang in there. After I found out my ex husband had a pregnant girlfried I too turned back to alcohol and didnt stop for seven years. By that time I was advancing in my alcoholism and weighed 100# more. Although it numbed my pain at the time.... it didnt solve anything. You are going to have to feel it eventually. I do understand, this really sucks. Stay sober if you can. I feel for you....hang in there.

[Accountable for Me]

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Ouch! Why isn't he with her then? Is she married again as well? What is holding them apart although there seems to be feelings there?

You deserve better than letting his horse shit take you down by sending you to the bottle. So many of us have gone through similar situations and now look at us. It isn't worth it, hun.

I would take the high road, be calm and demand some answers. I am not going to suggest you chop his nuts off because that would be irrational and something I would do.

Be strong. Love yourself enough to demand respect and honesty, and then go from there.

[louise]

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Good grief! What a jerk. He tells you this right before you go on vacation! Why did he get divorced? As everyone else has said, drinking won't help. A counselor might.

[Carmac]

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Hi,

Sorry to hear this is happening to you and agree with all the other posters EXCEPT N. They have offered great advice which I will not repeat. You need to worry about you right now and you can't take care of you or make decisions for yourself with alcohol making them for you.

Stay strong and yes, talk to him at length about what he is thinking, feeling, wants to proceed, where you play in his life now, etc. This is a time for some deep, deep honesty between you....without interference from others including AL.

Best of luck, Erin

[bloggy]

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Hi

I really feel for you right now, and hope you have managed to stay away from effin Al- when you have one person in your life treating you badly why invite another one in?

This also sounds like it could be a stupid comment made in a mad moment tho'- not making excuses for him, but stay calm and try to get to the bottom of it? Al won't allow you to do that.