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**hart** · August 27, 2008, 09:16 AM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

I say go for it! If you find it too stressful you can quit, but I think structure will actually assist you in quitting. My husband is starting a new job and he can't drink (bus driver) w/in 24 hours and that will help us both taper down. :thumbs:

**KBCE** · August 27, 2008, 09:25 AM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

Hi Katie! First off, great that you are here and know that you have a problem. I was a big wine drinker - it got worse after my third daughter was born 18 months ago and that is why I am here. 8 days AF. I did not have any real withdrawal symptoms - no shakes, etc, but did have a headache and felt kinda blech for a few days. It made concentrating harder, but doable. How much do you drink on average. If you stopped cold turkey do you think you would have any physical withdrawal symptoms? That would be one of my only concerns. Another thing - if you take this job... I speak from experience - I commute 1 1/2 hours each way every day and to do that hungover SUCKS. Seriously. Maybe getting out of the house and keeping yourself busy during the day and not home and not within reach of alcohol may be just what you need to get a jump start. At least for me, at this point in my life, staying home would be the worst thing for me most likely. I am an A-type and need to be constantly busy to keep myself out of trouble (at least when I am alone)! I work full time +, commute and have 3 kids (14 all the way down to 18 months) and a husband, a big (lots of times, messy) house...and yes, I feel overwhelmed sometimes. But being alcohol free has put things in perspective and things are not as overwhelming as I perceieved. Truly. Sorry about the long ramble. Just know you are not alone. Being AF is hard and sometimes a big fat annoying struggle, but the payoff is SWEET!!!!!

Your new friend, K

**louise** · August 27, 2008, 09:29 AM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

I agree with Hart. You can start quitting now to help.

**LookingToGrow** · August 27, 2008, 09:47 AM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

Go for it Kate! I think the structure will be good for you. Good luck

**Preciouspinot** · August 27, 2008, 11:14 AM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

Katie,

As a mother myself of three , holding a full time job and a wine drinker I say go for it as well. When I am juggling so much, it forces me to stay focused. Where I get into trouble is when I go on vacation.

**KatieMA** · August 27, 2008, 11:58 AM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

Wow, everyone, thanks for the great and immediate response! I really am feeling more and more confident that it will be a good decision, but hearing what you say and getting your encouragement is so helpful!
I love this site, and I am blown away by the caring and attention you all pay to each other. I'll keep you updated on my decision, and thanks again to my new friends here!

Katie

**LookingToGrow** · August 27, 2008, 12:21 PM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

Kate, what type of job is it?

**KatieMA** · August 27, 2008, 01:54 PM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

Thanks, it makes me feel good that no one here said "stay home, don't do it.........etc" I am so excited! The job is in state government, (where I worked for years before having kids), and the more flattering part is that they called me, so it isn't me chasing a job, but one that literally fell in my lap! I feel blessed. Now all I need to do is stop drinking wine nightly!!!

**panadol** · August 27, 2008, 07:07 PM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

Hi Katie
Congratulations on your job offer. It must be very flattering to have been asked
back to work.
I have a slightly different perspective here or perhaps a different concern. I would
be worried that the extra pressure and stress on yourself of working, commuting
and looking after the family may drive you back to the solace of drinking. I don't
know you or your personality type and this may suit you down to the ground as
it does other people here. It's just a concern. I speak from my own experience
as it took a few years of balancing all these things to realise that I needed to cut
back on my work hours because something had to give! However, supportive
families and husbands are great for us working Mums too. Just remember to
check in with yourself and make sure every now and then that you're ok in your
life too. :lPan

**boozehag** · August 27, 2008, 07:18 PM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

Hi Katie
That is fantastic. If you get a chance to read the posts you will see that changing your habits is a huge part of getting on top of drinking. A new job is the perfect opportunity to change your habits especially the drinking. And the fact that they head hunted you will give you such a boost in self esteem that should keep you focused and off the booze. You should arm yourself with all the tools you need such as the book, supplements, CD's etc and give it hell. I personally find never buying any wine for home is very helpful so make sure that you dont start to use the wine as a reward after work which is easy to slip into.
Congrats again.
BH (no more)

**nancy** · August 27, 2008, 08:56 PM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

Hi

I think this sounds like a good opportunity for you. Your drinking might be partly related to boredom and it sounds like this job will give your self-esteem a boost, which can only be good for you when it comes to licking the problem.

I am really curious though, how can you keep it from your husband? Is he away a lot? Or do you drink a lot but don't black out?

Do tell!

**Breez** · August 27, 2008, 08:58 PM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

Ok-I'm going to go on the other end. I am a stay at home mom (7 yrs) 39yo and took on a part time job last yr with 7 mo AF and the change "freaked me out". The stress of the change & me not being all that new to sobriety (they say don't take on stressful things like school, buying a home, new relationships, jobs the first yr of sobriety) well, I quit after 3 months. I started to have my first drink.

If you think you can handle it-and put your health & well being first, by all means, go for it. Just be prepared. I don't want to sound like I'm raining on your parade but I have truly been there done that. Be careful, think it thru & go for it. If it doesn't work out-don't feel like you've lost something-only gained knowledge.

I wish you the best! good luck!

**nancy** · August 27, 2008, 09:07 PM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

i still think you should take it but if I were you I would not take topa while starting, because of the potential for becoming dopey.

**boozehag** · August 27, 2008, 11:33 PM

Help! Should I take a new job while quitting AL?

Hi Katie
Just another few thoughts. If you dont need the money desperately and they have head hunted you then you are in the ideal position to maybe trade off the money for flexibility - say work from home one day a week or avoid the commute by starting late or finishing early etc. Whatever works for you and your family so that you get the best of both worlds. Most employers where I live (NZ) are open to flexible work practices now in order to get and keep the skills they require.
Also no matter what happens never drink with work colleagues.
I learnt that the hard way!
BH (no more)

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