I'm back to my old ways..and then some

[Sunbeam]

I'm back to my old ways..and then some

Angelique,
I'm glad the list idea seems to be working for you. I keep mine readily available on my computer.

I was wondering just recently, What is more complex: relationships with alcohol, or relationships with spouses? Then, what about spouses who consume alcohol, like mine does? My husband has always called my drinking "my problem". He is mostly right. He drinks moderately, a half bottle of wine or less. He puts it in a coffee mug, so it won't be as obvious to me that he has wine. The day I quit, I gave him my list, and asked for his support, no matter what. His first queston was, Do I have to quit too? We have worked this all out, not through talking about it much. Many guys just aren't deep thoughtful talkers.

[Angelique]

I'm back to my old ways..and then some

Sunbeam,
Good question. Funny you should ask me that, because I have been recently asking myself that question over and over in my head. I guess the answer is different for everyone. I think mine might be "intertwined". I don't know if you know what I mean. I guess both relationships snowball together into one big problem. Mine drinks very moderately as well. It's hard for me to ask him to quit, because he doesn't have a problem like me. You are totally right about guys not being deep thoughtful thinkers. I think a lot of times I am over analyzing his thought process....which could be exhausting!

[Tiresias]

I'm back to my old ways..and then some

Angelique;491890 wrote: Sunbeam,
Good question. Funny you should ask me that, because I have been recently asking myself that question over and over in my head. I guess the answer is different for everyone. I think mine might be "intertwined". I don't know if you know what I mean. I guess both relationships snowball together into one big problem. Mine drinks very moderately as well. It's hard for me to ask him to quit, because he doesn't have a problem like me. You are totally right about guys not being deep thoughtful thinkers. I think a lot of times I am over analyzing his thought process....which could be exhausting!

Please pardon this intrusion, but I thought I'd offer some humor to the observation about the male thought processes and deep thinking and such. This has been a very interesting thread and kudos to Angelique and all who have contributed.

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HER DIARY:

Tonight, I thought my husband was acting weird. We had made plans to meet at a bar to have a drink after he had been hunting.

I was shopping with my friends all day long, so I thought he was upset at the fact that I was a bit late, but he made no comment on it.

Conversation wasn't flowing, so I suggested that we go somewhere quiet so we could talk. He agreed, but he didn't say much.

I asked him what was wrong; he said, 'Nothing.' I asked him if it was my fault that he was upset. He said he wasn't upset, that it had nothing to do with me, and not to worry about it.

On the way home, I told him that I loved him. He smiled slightly, and kept driving. I can't explain his behavior. I don't know why he didn't say, 'I love you, too.'



When we got home, I felt as if I had lost him completely as if he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. He just sat there quietly, and watched TV. He continued to seem distant and absent.



Finally, with silence all around us, I decided to go to bed.



About 15 minutes later, he came to bed. To my surprise, he responded to my caress, and we made love. But I still felt that he was distracted, and his thoughts were somewhere else.

He fell asleep - I cried. I don't know what to do.

I'm almost sure that his thoughts are with someone else. My life is a disaster.



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Missed a big deer today, but at least I got laid.....


Again, sorry for the intrusion, but I thought this fit in here.

[Angelique]

I'm back to my old ways..and then some

HILARIOUS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Trying Tessie]

I'm back to my old ways..and then some

Thank you Angelique. It is a hard road but I am trying as my name says. It is a little easier this week, because I am on an antibiotic so I know I cannot drink with it. I had some minor surgery and it is necessary for me to take them all.

I am not very happy at home so I tend to turn towards the alcohol. However I would like to stay away from the alcohol just to see how bad it really is. I would also like to be more involved in church.

Stress is hard to deal with sober.

It really bothered me when we had a work party and I was really drunk there. A majority of others were too, but it just bothered me.

Anyway I might sign on later. Leaving work now.

[Evie.Lou]

I'm back to my old ways..and then some

Stress is a huge trigger for me Tessie...It has done me in many a time.I keep Antabuse close by at times that I might cave.The problem is I won't take it when I need it the MOST...

[Trying Tessie]

I'm back to my old ways..and then some

Hi All,

I had a good peaceful night. I am at work and taking a little break so I am posting. Not sure if anyone is here today. I see no one posted since last night. I am really wanting to get through this weekend without A, so I am going to create an agenda/schedule to stick by. If I can get through dinner Friday night without, then I will be good. I need to do a lot of things to get ready for the holidays so I think I will just go back in time before I started drinking 8 years ago and see if that will help.

My hubby is a cocaine addict that has been sober for 3 years. He goes through the 12 step program and judges everyone for everything especially me so I know he would think this is a terrible place to get help.

I have read the the book before and it is very encouraging. I even ordered Topa and it does stop the craving, but I do not like the way I feel when I lay down to sleep.

I am working toward moderation but need to stay away from it totally for as many days as possible hopefully 30 even though this is the holiday season.

My hubby is very hard to deal with because he wants a lot of attention and I need to work on myself to get better.

My daughter is very high maintenance too so it makes it tough but I know a lot of folks that have it tougher. I have a job that is very demanding and busy. This is a good thing because there are a lot of folks without a job.

A person that I knew very well died recently of alcohol abuse. He is just 1 year older than me. Of course he had done other things as well, probably Meth and pills too, but he drank every day and never stopped but for real short periods. Even after he was told he was dying, he still kept drinking. His liver, kidneys and heart just shut down. He also had pneumonia.

I have never drank as much as him, but still it is enough to make you want to slow down or stop completely.

I don't want people to remember me as being drunk a parties. I want to be remembered as a good person and someone who does things for others. That is why I am here and want to seek encouragement from all that can give.

Thanks for listening and sorry for the long post. I just pray my health is still okay and I can go on to be a better person.

I am AF for 5 days and still working on staying that way as long as I can.

God bless to all.

[on my way]

I'm back to my old ways..and then some

Trying T, on the 30 day abs there is a sticky thread. It is called (tool box) There are a lot of tips on it that abbers use to stay sober, it is worth a look. The daily thread there is also a friendly thread to get support from if you're looking to ab.

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