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[MyHeartIsDrenchedInWine]

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Lou Lou,

You sound like you have your head in the right place. Wean yourself off the alcohol and move past this. I can tell you my husband of over 20 years is bipolar and he is IMPOSSIBLE to deal with while drinking. It's extra important for you to be be sober because your brain is dealing with the high's and lows of bipolar. I know you can do this and I'll be rooting for you : )

Luvya,


Myheart

[CS04]

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Lou,
We are here for you. Stay in touch.

[savon19]

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Lou. At the bright hour of 3:47 AM... I've come to the conclusion that "many" people with drinking problems (DRUNK?) basically don't like themselves.

I really think that's at the core of the issue. Until we "decide" to like/love ourselves, nothing will change. WHY don't we like ourselves? Well, that's the question for shrinks. Some of it may be actually due to the fact that we Expect a lot of ourselves. Maybe more than "normal" people... So we set about to punish ourselves, deliberately see that wall and crash into it. Often.

I've actually been trying to Lower my expectations of myself. Just give it up. Not sure if it's working - will report back!

[Arial]

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Hi Lou Lou,

Good to hear from you and hear such resolve - keep coming back, posting, calling out and we're here. You're heading in the right direction so just look to an hour/day at a time and slowly but surely you'll get out the other side. - you've got to get through the rain to get the rainbow, so hang in and we'll help you through!

Warmest thoughts,

[Princess Fiona]

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Hey Lou,
You do dererve to love and be loved, we have a disease, we are sick people who just want to get better.....Live for the now, whither that is for the day, an hr, a minute....just that moment, and live it to the best of yr ability, and NOT picking up that first drink, get thru that moment, minute, hour or day, before you realise it you are living one day at a time, yesterday has gone, you cannot change it, tomorrow is not here yet, so why worry, only today counts.
Be gentle with yrself, you are so so worth it.
LOL

[Evie.Lou]

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Lou, i remember how bad it feels to be where you are right now....I can also assure you that you have what it takes to create a joyful life.It is hard work but if you are willing to work at it, the people here will help show you the way...WE CAN DO THIS ....TOGETHER !!!

[JohnR]

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Hang in there Lou. You're not alone.

[Cheech66]

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starting today again hopefully i can hold on. my longest stretch af 6 months however that was about 6 months ago no better time then to start now!!!! Dumping nicotine too wow this will be the first for that good luck all!!! this is the best place to start all our love lou

[peacenik]

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lou i want to reach out and hug you.
do you have family or friends that can support you as well as all the fine folks here?
people you can be honest with?
i wish you the best sweetheart, hang in there ok?

[Trying Tessie]

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Hi All,

I did drink 3 drinks Saturday night but I did not get drunk so I am still sober but still did not go AF. It is still an accomplishment for me. I am not sure what I am striving for yet. I am afraid to say I am moderating, because if I do then, I will drink too much. I really would like to stop altogether. At least I did not think about it as much as I usually do. I usually drink both nights out of the weekend so this is a start.

I will just have to take one day at a time.

Lou, I am thinking of you and know that it is really a struggle but we can do it.

And I too, think God loves us no matter what. If he did not, then there are quite a few that would not be here. I have done some pretty bad things in my life and he still loves me.