can anyone lend an ear of encouragement?

[tomthyme]

Hi!
My kind of alcoholism is periodic. I can go for days without alcohol, have a couple daily for weeks, then BAM - a several hour drunk. My wife is pissed at me again. I thought I could manage / control it, but I can't. I like the taste, the smell, to cook with it, and I make great drinks and love to entertain. But I have to stop before I lose my wife. I'm feeling pretty down. Tell me there's hope!

[A Work in Progress]

can anyone lend an ear of encouragement?

Welcome, and yes, there is hope. Sounds as if you are best described as a "binge drinker." There are plenty of folks here who have recovered from that pattern. Suggestions: Stick around, do a lot of reading and posting; read the MWO book and the "tool box" thread (in the forum lists you will find it in "Goals" > "Monthly Abstinence" at the top of the list). Get yourself a plan, settle in, and get past this problem!

[IAD]

can anyone lend an ear of encouragement?

Tom my boy, great mixologest ! You are what we call a binge drinker.......you've come to the right place. Lot's of old pro's here than can help. Welcome. IAD

[KateH1]

can anyone lend an ear of encouragement?

Hi, Tom and welcome!! As the others have said.....you have come to the right place! We have every sort of drinker here.....and every sort of NON-Drinkers, Former Drinkers and the like.....so, what's stopping you......Read the book, make your plan, set you quit date and start enjoying Life Again!!
Best Wishes!!

[startingover]

can anyone lend an ear of encouragement?

Hi Tom, welcome! Join the club here, it helps!

[Pan]

can anyone lend an ear of encouragement?

Hi Tom, for me it came down to which one I loved more.... wine or my husband. I could keep drinking and lose my husband which would have sent me into a spiral of further drinking, or choose my husband and my life.

[tomthyme]

can anyone lend an ear of encouragement?

Thanks to everyone for the support. AF since my last post. Interesting though, the wife says she doesn't really want an AF life. I need to get her to understand that just because I'm AF doesn't mean we can't have fun. I'm just worried that if I convince myself (again) that I can moderate, I'll end up right back here with another binge. Last night we went out with friends. They all had one, I had tea. I felt like everyone was watching, but they really weren't. I'm going AF again today. Then tomorrow and the next and so on. We'll see where it takes me. Maybe mod, but for now, it is AF. Best to all!

[kipper]

can anyone lend an ear of encouragement?

Way to go tom--you sound so strong and postitive. Keep it up.

[upnorthgirl]

can anyone lend an ear of encouragement?

welcome and good luch

Well, everyone has already said all the important stuff, so I will just say welcome and good luck, you can do this. For me--I can not moderate. I know one will lead to many will lead to baaad stuff and regrets. But i do not expect others to stop drinking. Nor do I want to believe I have to drink to be fun and have fun.

Do 30 days, then decide.

[kaponium]

can anyone lend an ear of encouragement?

HUGE welcome to you - there are as many different types of problem drinking/alcoholism as there are personalilty types......call it what you will...for me, the problem was in my thinking and in the totally unacceptable (to myself) behaviours I would produce more often than not. Please keep reading around MWO - get active in posting and you will find many individual and much collective suppor....TRUE!