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[ChooseToBelieve]

Hi, was sober for three months but then sank into the muck. Tomorrow, need to climb out of it and need your help. Have been to the local AA and see that it is populated with all the local perverts and drug-dealers, so feel unsafe there. Please, all, tell me how you succeeded. That would help a lot.

[A Work in Progress]

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Welcome back, Choose! I have been AF for 6 months, and I think it's because I was deadly serious about getting off the alcohol, had a strong plan, stuck to it, came here a lot and read stuff and posted stuff, and stuck with the winners... those who were strongly working on their plans to get free of their alcohol problems. All these things helped me to change my thinking and my behavior about alcohol.

How about you? You were AF 3 months... how did YOU do it? And what will you avoid this time, so as not to relapse?

[skootiemom]

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WIP,

Careful of your words. I am not a loser, and I would hope that some of what I have to offer is valued by MWO members in my struggle against AL.

Did you happen to catch Oprah in January eating crow? She gained 40 pounds, 2 years after preaching that it was all about resolve and 10,000 steps a day.

I applaud your 6 months sobriety- really and honestly. But your attitude as of late ( read: holy-er than now) really does nothing to add to this site, nor embrace newcomers and new comers again, as I would think Roberta designed it for.

Open your mind and heart- share your successes and tools- and leave your judgments of others before you log on.

Skoots

[A Work in Progress]

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Hey, Skootie Mom, my heart is absolutely open to you and to everyone here. I would advise EVERYONE to stick with those who are serious about their programs, and that is what I mean by "winners." You don't like my attitude? That's OK. You think I am not out here every day trying to help and encourage people? That's OK, too. I absolutely wish you the very best. You do it your way... I'll do it mine.

[Accountable for Me]

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Choose, keep coming back here. You had 3 months before! There is no doubt in my mind you can do this and more this time around.

[A Work in Progress]

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Cool, AFM, you are right. Will fix.

[Accountable for Me]

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Great. Thanks for that. I will delete this and my last post to avoid any confusion.

[nancy]

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Hi Choose

I think it's important to just get back on track after you get off track. Three months is great so don't lose sight of that.

As for meetings, I am not generally a fan of AA. But i think it can be helpful for people if you can take what you like and leave the rest. I do know there is enormous variation between meetings. so your local is populated with drug dealers etc. find one in a different neighborhood of your city.

I also think women are better off seeking groups for women alcoholics. I think women have a different take on the problem. I noticed Women For Sobriety runs groups in some areas. Google them. Or ask your local hospital or doctor for a referral.

Smart recovery also does some face-to-face meetings as I recall. You can google them also.

As for success, seems to me that people use a range of methods but the main thing is a commitment to change, regardless of what method you use.

Good luck and never give up!
Nancy

[DeeBee]

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Welcome Back Choose,

Looking forward to more posts from you:-)

[gyco]

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HI CHOOSE,even at ones worst,there not loosers,hopefully i spelt tht rt.hahaha,here is a good spot to start,we have as you can see all kinds of folks,dont even have meet them,if your not happy with what they say,turn them off,theres also other sites,one is AA online easy to use,and as i say many are offended by the word alchoholic,i am not a preacher of the big book of AA,but the 1st step is 2 steps,one is we have lost control of Al, and the second part is are lives have becom unmanageable,i do beleive coming here also shows tht,and by the way,the druggies and low lives there are also trying to find a way,i do wish you well gyco

[gyco]

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ps theres also private messaging people here then you deal one on one somtimes thts not forr the best,alchohol abusers and druggies are the best liers in the world think about the last time you seen the doctor did you telll them the hole truth

[brightlite]

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I'm in awe of your 3 months! Good work...get back on (the wagon) I guess and go for the long haul!

WIP your wisdom has helped me.

[jessie]

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Hi skootiemom, WIP is my role model and even though I fail I don't find her holier-than-thou! I think she is great for being available to us who have not beaten the beast yet, while she has.

[IAD]

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Choose to believe.....Glad your back....you've decided to fight on.....you have'nt quit ! Add some more fortitude this time around & keep fighting ! I understand the AA scene. You 're right their are a lot of reasons people become Alcoholics.....some because of neglect, some because of abuse....... abuse can make us act out in different ways.....some very abusive to others, some not. Their can be a couple of types of Alcoholics.....those that abuse and those that are being abused ! That can be a very terrible situation...... I can understand why people from both camps don't want to meet together.....Just a thought....LOL IAD

[Accountable for Me]

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jessie;545841 wrote: Hi skootiemom, WIP is my role model and even though I fail I don't find her holier-than-thou! I think she is great for being available to us who have not beaten the beast yet, while she has.

Now, now... let's not start any more drama here because someone was offended by another's post. That happens.... the best thing to do in a situation like this is you just let it die - and it will do just that, die. Also, I am glad that WIP is of great help to you as well.

Carry on...........