My husband has just threatened me

[MyHeartIsDrenchedInWine]

My husband is bipolar and off his medications and has been drinking. He said if I sleep in our bed tonight he will make it a "night of hell". I refuse to sleep in the guest bedroom, I do not think it is right to give in to his mania and acquiesce to his every illogical whim. He is currently screaming at me "Munchausen's Mom" and just about every other derogatory word you could think of. He is saying I'm evil and I am turning everyone against him. I really do NOT want to call 911. I'm not sure what to do and this whole thing is making it very hard for me not to drink.

Thanks for listening, this is very difficult : (

[CS04]

My husband has just threatened me

Heart, it sounds like you need to leave -- at least leave the room. He sounds unstable and that sounds unsafe for you. Do you have kids at home? Please let us know what is going on.

xoxo CS

[MyHeartIsDrenchedInWine]

My husband has just threatened me

Hi CS, Our children are teenagers now, we have two boys ages 16 & 19. They are very strong but my husband is stronger. He is currently training for an ironman, add mania to that and he is a quite a force to be reckoned with! When he gets manic he always screams "Munchausen's by proxy" at me and in many other ways indicates that the boys are very young and that I am poisoning them and also turning other people against him. My best friend is the only one that knows and she also thinks I should not sleep in my bed but that pisses me off and seems so wrong. I do not want to enable him, ya know? Anyway, thanks for your input!!!!!!

[cacky]

My husband has just threatened me

Heart, I understand standing up for yourself but you really should get out of the house. Are you drinking too? Is there a family member that you can call to come over? Please remove yourself from the situation

[dexterhead]

My husband has just threatened me

Heart, can you get out of the house just for tonight? Your physical safety is the main thing right now.

[peacenik]

My husband has just threatened me

you aren't enabling someone who is sick, you are protecting yourself from him.

you don't seem scared of him, has he been violent in the past?

[MyHeartIsDrenchedInWine]

My husband has just threatened me

peacenik;578214 wrote: you aren't enabling someone who is sick, you are protecting yourself from him.

Thank you for putting it that way, it helps and is certainly something to ponder. I am scared of him but in our early years of marriage I gave in to that fear and was like his doormat and that was horrible. Sticking up for myself has weakened him and strengthened me, it has been the best move.

Yes he has been physically abusive while drinking and manic in the past.....nothing serious, but physical nonetheless.

I think I'm going to make the guest bedroom a decadent retreat, time to order a new mattress for that room!

[gabby]

My husband has just threatened me

Fix it up good for yourself. Our Guest room was very cosy for myself the last few years of marriage. I made it real plush for myself.

[Eskimo]

My husband has just threatened me

Heart it is time to get him back on his meds - do what you have to - if it means calling the police then do it! And believe me I know first hand how hard that is - I have had to get the police to come get my Mum on several occasions. Do what you have to get him either back on meds or into hospital and I wouldn't push the issue about the bed... manic people tend to be unpredictble - for the time being I'd give him plenty of space if that's he wants.

I do hope you're okay.

[Guest]

My husband has just threatened me

I know you are asking for help but I just can not stop thinking of my own relationship and how many nights I have spent in an environment like that. In fact it just reared it's nasty face to me again. And I was sitting here pretending it did not happen. I live in denial.

Yes Just fixed a nice dinner for the husband, and then I said one wrong thing and the lid came off. Then he has the nerve to ask me "What's wrong with you, why are you acting that way, Sort of poking me with his words.

So I removed me from there, and then I read your thread. How many nights have I been there, until yes, I too refused to move to the "guest" room. Why should I?

GOSH! I really got upset now about this, and I am triggered. Yes, I wish I had called the police a few times. He still blames it on me and "my" drinking and accepts none of the responsibility himself.

Well we are still trying to work it out, and I sometimes think "WHY, WHY,WHY?

I am just going to go and chill. I hope you are out of danger. I only wanted to tell you I completely understand and my heart is with you.:heart::heart::heart::heart:

[keeta]

My husband has just threatened me

MyHeart,

I sure hope you are doing OK.

Please stay safe until atleast this passes, if nothing else.
I am worried about you.

[Cinders]

My husband has just threatened me

MyHeart,

Check in with us so we know you are okay.

I am sorry he went off his meds again. He does that a lot, doesn't he?

Love,
Cindi

[greeneyes]

My husband has just threatened me

MyHeart, I hope you're safely asleep or at a hotel. I guess he can't be forced to take his meds.

[MyHeartIsDrenchedInWine]

My husband has just threatened me

Hi guys,

I slept in my bed undisturbed. I think he will be in an improved state by now, but I haven't seen him this morning and I hope he has left the house. I haven't ventured out of my home office to check yet. He has been off his medications for several months now and is saying the Dr's were wrong and he isn't bipolar but he was diagnosed twice by two unrelated Dr's. One drink and his thoughts become illogical and he thinks people said things they didn't. Last night he had a couple of beers with a neighbor which was a recipe for disaster. Thanks for being there with me last night.

Myheart

[greeneyes]

My husband has just threatened me

I'm relieved you're OK Myheart. But now what? That sounds like a pretty volitle situation.