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[LVT25]

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Hi Cap--funny how one little glass of wine can ef up an entire weekend, huh? The last time I "accidentally" got drunk--I had one day to get my son and I ready for a week-long trip to Texas. The day before I let myself get talked into going to the bar (special occasion) and I ended up drinking all day--nearly got a DUI to boot. Had to do laundry, pack and a million other things hungover as hell! Not to mention the 20 hour drive the next day. THAT's when I decided to get honest and admit I was not in control and really needed to do something about it. That was almost a year ago. You can do this. Stick around!

[Angelcakes]

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Hi Cap, I've been following your posts with interest. It seems you have great friends...but they don't seem to be very supportive of your wishes. Maybe they think you're just 'having a moment' when you're really trying hard to make changes. So maybe it's worth talking to a few key friends and saying "I know I don't have a HUGE problem but I want to go AF for a while just to prove to myself I can. And I really need you guys to support me. So pls don't offer me any al and just understand I need to do this for now" you never know, one or two might want to join you!
Good luck sweetie.
xo

[capricorn2009]

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Actually AngelCakes I think you might be right! On Sunday I plucked up the courage to go and visit the party crowd from Saturday night and apologise for being missing in action. They had been really worried about me.... When I got there they were all extremely hungover and getting straight back on the drink again "hair of the dog". I think there's a very good chance that they ALL have a problem - the entire conversation revolved around alcohol, and they were all bragging about who had manage drink the most, for the most amount of days running, with the least amount of sleep, the least amount of food.... as if they deserved a medal for being the most tragic!!! I guess it was the typical post big night Aussie tuff-nut conversation. It grossed me out actually! I happily drank water

I do have one very close friend who is probably even more out of control than I am. He asked if I was 'ok' and I said yes... he said "but are you REALLY ok?" I told him a little about how I'm feeling, and that this is something I'm really serious about. I have a feeling he wants to do the same, he's tried a few times to moderate and failed miserably. So we're catching up for dinner on Wednesday night to have a good talk about it!
Wow - won't that be great? If I can make my life better and help some others in the process!!!

[Bella]

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Good for you Capricorn....glad u feeling better Bella XXx

[Angelcakes]

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Hi Cap, I understand what you mean...I'm a Sydney girl as well, I hung out with my sisters friends a lot and they were just like this...but at 34 when I left Sydney it was getting a bit lame to be bragging about how much you drank. Since I've been in NZ I've naturally made friends with people who don't drink (from the gym, from work etc)and it's so much easier to control. I went to dinner with a friend last Friday night and didn't even have one glass of wine!!! Had a great time too!

On Wed night why don't you just have a soda water with dinner instead of wine...it might be a good opener to have the conversation with your friend and show it is actually possible. Play it out in your head before you get there and then follow through - you know he's gonna say "so, will we get a bottle of wine" and you say "actuallly, I'm just gonna have a soda water tonight"...let me know how your dinner goes.

[capricorn2009]

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definitely Last time we went to dinner I'd planned on not drinking, but caved the moment I got there. This time I am NOT DRINKING! Maybe he won't drink either?

Hey now there's a thought... how would all the party people like it if non-drinkers started giving them a hard time about drinking? just like they give people a hard time about NOT drinking - they would soon have something to say about it! So I will keep that in mind next time I refuse a drink, and if they give me TOO much of a hard time and it gets cumbersome, I'll just leave

I think the whole 'drinking culture' is frustrating me... yes, I'm getting older and OVER it. A glass of wine with dinner IS nice... a nice cocktail when you're all glammed up IS nice, an ice cold beer with a bbq on a hot day IS nice.... but you don't have to have 10 of them!
So I am completely abstaining until after the half marathon, and then will try moderation, but keeping it to max 2 drinks (it seems to be the 3rd that puts me over the edge!)

[CHARLYGIRL]

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good Job-beware of who's making the drinks-some people just think more is better-that is when I get that "no one is home" look in my eyes and I usually end up making an ass of myself. Three days AF and feeling great I'm glad to have all of the folks on line to chat with about AL abuse

[scara]

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Im not new to the program. I tried it two years ago and it worked, but i have fallen back into hell! I am currently getting my stuff together to go back to the program. but im in a crisis as well at the moment. It feels like im alone. I have so much to say. I hope I can make it this time. I need to talk to someone.

[irish eyes]

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scara;597504 wrote: Im not new to the program. I tried it two years ago and it worked, but i have fallen back into hell! I am currently getting my stuff together to go back to the program. but im in a crisis as well at the moment. It feels like im alone. I have so much to say. I hope I can make it this time. I need to talk to someone.

Scara
Welcome
So sorry that you are going through a rough time, but you know something this programme worked for you previously and there is no reason why it will not again. You are not alone, it just feels that way. I am so glad that you came back here. PM me any time.:l

[Angelcakes]

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Hi Scara & welcome back.
You could start a new thread in the general section if you needed advice on stuff...your post might get a bit lost here. Why don't you start a thread & tell us a bit about what's going on, and what you hope to achieve??
Good luck friend.
xo

[Angelcakes]

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Cap - how did your dinner go??

[capricorn2009]

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you're a sweetheart angelcakes! thanks for asking

Dinner was great actually. It was JUST as I'd suspected. My friend is worried about his problem too. I drank water and he drank lemonade - he didn't even have a cigarette because like me, when he's not drinking the thought of smoking is quite horrible. He's planning to stay alcohol free until a wedding he's going to on Saturday. I think we may all finally just be growing up - heheh it takes a long time! I'm 38 and my friend is 43.

I have that 18km run planned again for 6.30am this Saturday morning, and if I blow this one it will seriously damage all the hard work I've done training for the half marathon (which is on 17 May). So I'm absolutely confident I'll get through Friday night alcohol free this week without a problem. I think every day and every social event you manage to get through and be strong, you feel healthier and stronger in general. I'm sure it will get easier, just a bit bumpy at the start

I'm about to put my 6th "0" in a row in the drink tracker - yay!

And how are you doing? Do you like NZ? miss Sydney?

[Beaches]

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Be very proud of yourself capricorn...great work.

[ezzmae]

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Hi capricorn.

I have only just read about your dinner, and I am glad to hear that it went so well. Like others have said it is harder to reach your AF goals when you are surrounded by other drinkers. A lot of the friends I have made in recent years don't drink. It is such a different experience from having to get drunk with someone to just to bond with them. My friends are my inspiration to lead a life without AL being an issue. They still have their problems but they have one less big one, the AL.

Good luck for your marathon.

[FloridaBoy]

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capricorn2009;596994 wrote: definitely Last time we went to dinner I'd planned on not drinking, but caved the moment I got there. This time I am NOT DRINKING! Maybe he won't drink either?

Hey now there's a thought... how would all the party people like it if non-drinkers started giving them a hard time about drinking? just like they give people a hard time about NOT drinking - they would soon have something to say about it! So I will keep that in mind next time I refuse a drink, and if they give me TOO much of a hard time and it gets cumbersome, I'll just leave

I think the whole 'drinking culture' is frustrating me... yes, I'm getting older and OVER it. A glass of wine with dinner IS nice... a nice cocktail when you're all glammed up IS nice, an ice cold beer with a bbq on a hot day IS nice.... but you don't have to have 10 of them!
So I am completely abstaining until after the half marathon, and then will try moderation, but keeping it to max 2 drinks (it seems to be the 3rd that puts me over the edge!)

Maybe you are kidding your self about being able to moderate? Only you know the answer. I *know* I have no AL off switch. People that do will never understand those of us that do not. It became easy for me to abstain once I realized the guilt and hangover lasted a lot longer than the buzz.