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[Popeye]

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Hi Roadwarrior.
Loneliness is hard and one of the hardest things to fix too.
I've taken to looking at it as solitude. It tends to take a bit of the sting away.
Just a bit.

[42cat]

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Oh Roadwarrier ... I know I would feel lonely too, being away so much. And the drinking definitely doesn't help the lonelies, especially after it wears off. Have you thought of looking for a different job .. or at least poking around to see what's out there? Maybe it's time for a change. I think it's important to be at least semi-happy with our jobs -- I mean, we spend a good part of our day (our lives) at our jobs .. it doesn't do us very well if those jobs are causing us overall unhappiness. That will definitely take its toll over time.

Hope things get better. If you can't make it down the road to the AA meeting, and/or if you don't think it's going to help based on past experiences, maybe you can get out for a walk or do a little shopping or something "out of the ordinary" .. Have a thought about some different things to do. Sometimes doing something different can really help take the edge off.

((hugs)) to you ... Hang in there and hold on.

[cacky]

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RW, thats great that you are going to join me for the 30 days AF. I travel alot to for work and find that i really struggle in airports (there are bars everywhere and open all the time). Anyway lets try to keep it real together. Also keep trying different AA meetings..i go to a few that i really like and i have developed some really good friendships there.


Sweet, im so sorry about what's going on with you. I agree with some of the other comments that your husband getting physical is a little scary. Please take care of yourself.

[RoadWarrior]

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Thanks so much, all! You are really helping me!

Popeye, good point, it's all in the attitude, loneliness is solitude, should look at it as peace, not a void.

Yeah, I think I'll go to AA, thanks Cacky and Cat. Gotta keep trying to find anything that helps. When I'm on the road, I have gone to AA meetings and found some great groups. I need to find one at home that I like. Didn't like the ones I went to here at home, but I need to keep trying. Gotta try everything. Some things work, some don't, and everyone is different. I tried the topo in the past, makes me too dopey, unfortunately. But, I find the hypno totally life-changing. I must do it and keep with it.

Cacky, thanks, I feel actually hopeful about achieving the 30 days, thinking that you and others - we- are all in it together. Yeah, aren't airports hard? Especially when you are stuck for hours and the bar looks like the only option. There was a time when I could go to the bar and drink iced tea and enjoy the company. Hopefully can get back to that point someday.

Cat, thanks so much. Yeah, the job doesn't help. I am stuck with it due to this economy, I think, though. I am seeing, though, that when things change, the job should change. It is too hard to live healthily with a job like that. Am sure some can do it, but I need more stability. Thanks for those thoughts.

Sweet, please post more about your hubby. Everyone is worried about you.

Hi Skid! How are you feeling? What kind of symptoms are you experiencing right now?

Grateful Thanks,
RW

[cacky]

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Road where do you live in pennsylvania? i live near Kennett Square and there are some great meetings there.

[Sweetgum]

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hubby hates me, i've been lying in a drunken stupor all week, tomorrow i have to get up at 6.30 a do the school run, i feel ill and know tonight will mean no sleep, sweating and hallucinations

[Cinders]

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Sweet,

My hubby doesn't hate me but we will split up if I don't stop drinking. It is that simple. I hesitate to throw away 34 years of marriage for alcohol.

Cacky and Road Warrior,

I, too, am a road warrior. The airports are tough and then being alone all week in a hotel room... No one there, no accountability. I have gone to work in the morning after having had to have a few shots to stop the shakes and tremors. It is horrible.

I will be traveling soon (I think home again next week, fingers crossed) and I want to be AF going into the trips and AF during the trips. I want to be AF. Period.

My life may not be perfect AF, but if I continue messing up, my life will go to hell. I stand to lose everything dear to me.

Let's go 30 days AF. We can do it.

Love,
Cindi

[cacky]

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Sweet, im sorry that you are going through what you are going through. Can you do the 30 days AF with us maybe that will help.


Cindi, im going to be traveling alot in the next 2 months. i find it hard to be in airports, airplanes and hotels. i spend so much money on alcohol when im traveling. when i tried to stop i started shopping and spent way too much money so now im broke. oh well. so lets do that 30 days.

cathi

[Popeye]

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Try the 30 days Sweetgum.
You'll have a lot of help here and it would show you that you can do it. You'll feel better sooner than you think and then you can start making your life the way that you want it to be.
I've been low and felt useless and I've drank and it's only made it worse. Drinking is OK for lots of people but as a cure for anything it is useless.

[RoadWarrior]

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Cacky, I don't live near you, live out in the boonies in PA, but fly through Philly all the time - it's my anchor airport. And Ciindi, you travel too, thanks for sharing, you help me feel not so alone in this situation. Yeah, 9 dollars a beer at the Jet Rock at the airport. Thanks for being encouraging. Cindi, I too HAVE to go AF. My life has gotten worse and worse and I have too much to lose, can't believe I let it get this far.

Yeah, let's band together! Sweet, please write down how you feel, how you are doing - here, on this forum. It will help. Tomorrow will be better. How are you doing tonight? Popey, congrats on your being sober for so long, good job!

[DriftyAlison0]

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To the 30 days!

*Drinks her juice.*

[Time_To_Stop]

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Today is my first day AF and I am aiming for 30 days too and then will see how I feel.

You can do it, we all can. The first few days sucked but once through it is like the clouds that have been following me for years parted at least for a little while. I am still cranky and moody but I have energy and I don't feel ashamed. It has only been a week since I decided to taper and a day without any alcohol. So it can be done even for someone like me who has been drinking two or more 1.75 liter Costco jugs of vodka a week.

Let's do 30 days!

[RoadWarrior]

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Ok, the day has started, and it's going to be a good day. We can do this!

[Sweetgum]

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dying inside, any help in uk greatly appreciated

[startingover]

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Sweet, whats happening?