Husband wants divorce

[greeneyes]

Husband wants divorce

KateH1;735304 wrote:

Just one more thought......how about him moving out? I would pack his stuff and put it in the garage for him!

Wishing you Peace and Light,
Kate

I changed the locks, hired a private eye and an attorney. Enough degradation of the myth of a marriage and my commitment to it was enough. And I packed his clothes up in a kindly manner labeling the boxes and all and dropped them off at the the office.

[keeta]

Husband wants divorce

Grace,
Good morning.
I just wanted you to know I am here, and care. I am sorry for the pain you are suffering.
I know this doesn't really help you, but you are not alone, and feel free to PM me if you just need someone to talk with and I don't respond right away here.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE.:l:l:l

[dancelot]

Husband wants divorce

Grace,

You have my sympathy and support. I went through something similar five years ago.

If you're getting logged off while writing long posts, make sure you always click "remember me" when you log in to prevent this.

Love and hugs to you. Take care. :h

[irish eyes]

Husband wants divorce

Grace, just to say how sorry I am that you are hurting. But you know what, you deserve better, you werent put into this life to accept such unacceptable behaviour. You have an inalienable right to human dignity, please believe that. I am here if you need to PM. :l

[brightlite]

Husband wants divorce

Grace,

I believe from previous posts that this is not the first time and there have been infidelity problems in the past. Enough is enough girl! Please make a plan. We are all here to give you support.

[savon19]

Husband wants divorce

(I read all of the above and see you got some wise words...)

But I thought: Why NOT go see your family, children? (And he said he would pay - so...)

Now's the time to be around those people who love you, even if just for a few days. You'll be able to gather your strength and be able to make good decisions. You may even decide to move - doesn't sound like you like it wherever you are, anyway.

I'm sorry you're going through this, Grace.

[Guest]

Husband wants divorce

Everything, everyone said is so true, I know.
I got some sleep but it was not restful. I'm am pathetic right now.

Thank you all so much. It means so much to me to know you are there and care.
I'm still processing this.

I only have two beers today so that is also good. Just can't take a binge now on top of all else.

I know I need to go through this, just don't want too. I know a few years from now it may seem it was the right thing to do. I go between anger and total despair.

I'm sure I'm crying over what should have been and not what was. All the promises for the future and the friendship I so needed. We had so many reasons to be happy, so many things in common to build on. I'll never understand why.

I'll post again when I find out what is happening.

Thank you all again.

[gyco]

Husband wants divorce

grace never forget your special even if it by yourself, were all here gyco

[Angelcakes]

Husband wants divorce

:l Grace, wouldn't it be nice if you could off load a little of the pain. I'm sorry I can't carry some for you for a bit.
Your husband doesn't sound like a very respectable man.
As Greenie said...maybe it's a new life to begin.

xo

[Guest]

Husband wants divorce

I waited, I have to admit praying, it was another of his 'fits', he'd get over it. He would not eat dinner tonight again. I gave him his 'space'. Then just said. Honey we seemed so happy two days ago, what is going on. He would not answer me. Never talked all evening. I finally just said , Honey I've gone from anger to extreme sadness on this , please tell me what is going on as I am lost.
He said, there are two places I want to be right now, one is a Tittie Bar, the other is a Gay Bar, anywhere other than with you!
We only had sex like a few times in our marriage. We talked years ago about the fact he may be gay.
I said to him. Honey, I'll accept whatever your problem is, please just talk with me. He would not.
He then went to bed. I went and layed next to him, put my arms around him and just begged him to tell me, just even if it's over, talk with me. Nothing. He won't speak.I held him and cried. He ignored me.
So...I need to know.....what is the problem? I know he is playing mind games with me. I said, we can get the divorce, if that is what you want. I just need you to talk with me. He hollered the places he'd rather be again.
SO......I'm still left with no answers.......I begged sweetly, I got mad. Nothing worked. He sat on his computer as he does every moment he is home. He once left it, sat playing his guitar non stop, saying nothing. So just a big nothing .

[Guest]

Husband wants divorce

By the way, I don't believe he is gay......just something he could throw at me to hurt me more.

[mario]

Husband wants divorce

grace you need to get away from this a'#1 hole,he is treating you like a piece of dirt.you are and deserve much better than that.you need to get a grip on yourself he aint worth it and you are just stroking his ego,you have got some good advice here in previous posts,please read them again.

[keeta]

Husband wants divorce

Grace. It sounds like there is not going to be any closure for you from him.
He sounds selfish and cruel.
I would pack him a bag, and tell him he is welcome to go anywhere he sees fit to go.


You can't allow yourself to be emotionally tortured this way. It isn't healthy for you.

[My New Beginning]

Husband wants divorce

Hi Grace. I'm sad for your pain. He is not giving you any respect and you deserve respect. I agree with Mario. You need to get away from him because you are so deserving of a better life. He may have just opened a door for you to walk through into something better.
Big, big hugs to you. I wish I had more advice.

[KateH1]

Husband wants divorce

keeta;735872 wrote: Grace. It sounds like there is not going to be any closure for you from him.
He sounds selfish and cruel.
I would pack him a bag, and tell him he is welcome to go anywhere he sees fit to go.


You can't allow yourself to be emotionally tortured this way. It isn't healthy for you.

Keeta expressed my thoughts exactly!

So many of us, in our generation were raised to believe that we must "earn love". We earn love by looking good, being sweet and ever sacrificing and selfless, being the perfect wife, mother and to be most of all long suffering.......to that....I say bull shite! True love is NOT earned it is Given Freely without Expectation!

Please respect yourself and realize that this guy is selfish and self centered and cruel.......he sounds incapable of love. But it sure soundsl like he enjoys torturing you.

Best Wishes,
Kate