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[Guest]

I am trying to get back 'home' can't tell my daughter how serious this is. She said the last of July I could come home to take care of storage unit, get my travel trailer, which personally know I am going to have to live in since I have no money. So I called my ex husband, he said he would help me get my things out of storage, then he had another call....the thing is my things have been in storage for 4 years. My current husband won't talk to me at all, one night hates me, me not drunk, then the next morning gives me a kiss goodbye as he heads out to his woman friend. he told me one whole night I haven't a clue what is happening, keeps telling me I am clueless. OK, I am ready to accept. Today he just leaves me, me begging him tell me what to do, he heard me call my daughter an her tell me not good to come home before end of July, I cannot take it that long. No money, just travel trailer to live in. Current husband will let me stay here if I put up with this other woman thing, ex says he will help me out, but I cannot wait till July. I am so down!!!
OK , ex just called me back, he is so mad at me for putting up with this jerk so long. Of course he also cheated on me for 5 years. He says , and he knows my kids.....current does not want to know them, anyway says he will help me get out of here. I am so afraid...too cold in the north to live in travel trailer, sure ex must have someone living with him,,,,,,,been 7 years. Maybe just wait till he calls back . Don't think he will, he promised me he would. Husband just left, won't talk with me.......I will never be with another man in my life. My ex's have all cheated and lied to me. I am worn out....been through 4 years of hell here,,,,,,,I cannot tell the daughter the truth, don't know if I have the courage to leave. I need someone to talk with! Please

[mama bear]

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Are you there?

[more2life]

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Take anything of value in your house and sell it on Craigslist, or ebay. What's your husband going to do you? Leave you? Hit you? If does, call 911 on his ass. Why in the world would you put up with his crap for this long? Are you working? If not, get a job Walmart, or any place you can earn a paycheck. You don't even have to tell him you're working. You need a plan!!

[mama bear]

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Talk to your daughter and find the courage. You don;t have to be a victim any more....more2life is absolutely right....

[Guest]

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Saving,
How are you? I hope you are ok and safe. we are all here to help you!

[eustacia]

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Dear Saving Grace,

You sound so alone. You need a community of strong women. I'm surprised to find myself suggesting this since I've never been to an AA meeting, but I'm wondering if it might help you to go--even if you are not an alcoholic. You've been abused and abused again by men and you need to be understood by people who have been through similar travails. I wish you courage and luck.

:heart: E

[Guest]

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Just wanted to let everyone know I am OK.

I have a home business that is growing, hope for the future. Just worked until 3:30am to get a big order ready to ship tomorrow, helps build my self confidence.

I really don't think he is sleeping with these women friends, but I'm clueless I know it is not a situation I want long term.

I have goals, taking care of myself and staying sober is #1 on my list to keep working on.

Thanks for caring.

[Guitarista]

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Hi Grace,
Is there a 'Women for sobriety' group near you, and if so, would that be an option? (They also publish some great book's/reading material).
Just a thought.
Best wishes, and take care.

[cuckoosnest83]

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Saving, you sound so much stronger on your second post. Hope you can stay there. Please keep coming back and posting.

[Cinders]

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Saving,

I have been reading your posts from the beginning. Your current husband is cheating on you and brings you booze when he wants you compliant. Yes, I remember. Your ex is your ex.

You are strong enough to post here. You are strong enough to figure out how to get out of your current situation. You can do this.

Like More2 said, "what is your plan?" You need a plan to get out of your current situation.

Oh, and btw, you do not need any of these guys to get you out. You need yourself.

You can do this. I could do this. We are strong, hard working women. Drunk or not drunk.

You can do this. If you can, do it!!!!!! Not sitting here judging. I have been married for 34 years my to husband. He does a lot for me. Truly I understand. But, I supply the money for him and my family. I could do a lot more for me if I did not. Capice?? Understand??

I choose to do for my family. I could choose to do for myself. It won't happen. Neither will you. Do what you can for yourself, do what you can for your kids.

Everything else is fluff, as my husband says.. He is right.

He (hubby) knows the "good the bad and the ugly." He would love to leave me for a younger, more vibrant girl. Why doesn't he?

Not because I make more than him, but because he wants to hold my hand when I am home and know that I am there for him.

He understands, so do I.

I hope I am not rambling. I am just trying to state what is, is. Do not let ex, current, whatever make you feel like you are less than you are.

Do what you must to be sober, that is the most important aspect of your life. Then do what you must to make your life vibrant and filled with goodness.

Oh, gosh. I hope this post makes sense.

I am not a "guys suck" kind of girl. I am just a "we can do this" kind of girl. We can.

You can.

Love,
Cindi

[Cinders]

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Okay, I rambled in my post.

I am just trying to say that you do not need another person in your life to justify what you do and do not do. Ever.

Choose the right path no matter how difficult, and you will free.

Love,
Cindi

[AMELIA]

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As Cindi says above, try to find your way out without relying on the men that have been letting you down. They may try and keep you where you are in your life for their own self fulfilling needs.

Oh, and btw, you do not need any of these guys to get you out. You need yourself.

You can do this. I could do this. We are strong, hard working women. Drunk or not drunk.

Focus on your sobriety, your business and begin to form your get out strategy. You deserve better than having to live with a man that is seeing other woman and ominously calling you 'clueless'.

[Guest]

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I am OK. I have always, since I was a child (11 years old), supported myself.
I am doing that now and will continue too. There has never been a point in my life when I did not support myself.
I will be fine.
I was speaking to other things, but ....I do not look to others to 'take care of me.'
I wish when we just ask one night to speak to a friend......why this ends up going forever. I realize back then I may have insulted some of you on chat. Yes, had been drinking.

I've tried to apologize to those who contacted me by PM's. I am sorry. I have no memory, but to act like I am a wimpy woman who leans on men......not the case ever.
I just wish this could have dropped.

I made a mistake of feeling vulnerable and having a problem, but no way I ever expected, or tried to get a man to support me or take care of me. I just want to clear up that.
I've worked so hard all my life......yes maybe 'love' trapped me a few times, but I've always made it by myself.

Think I am going to lose my post here. thank you all for responding , but as far as looking for a man......no!