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[Shambles84]

Iv been af for 7 days now, its worn me down I need a drink more than anything but I kno I need to stay strong. I'm scared I wont have another moments peace unless I give in. I know I'm being crazy but I cant change the way I think atm.

[sunshinedaisies]

I miss al

Well done on the 7 days shambles - I am not sure what others will say to you, but all I can say is that for me I had to change the way I looked at it. I had to say to me, that I wasn't giving anything up - that way it was as if it was something good I was losing - AL is a poison!! It is good that you aren't putting it in your body any more! You should start to be feeling better now.

Basically it is a mindset - you are not losing something that was good - think of why you are now AF? Think of what Al did to you - why did you decide to go AF? Remember the hangovers - remember the NOT remembering!!!! I am sure that others here will be way better at telling you why you are far better off without Al - but I just wanted to say well done for your 7 days - I am proud of you, it is SO hard to actually do those first 7 days. You are a great example now to many here just starting out. Hang in there Shambles...

Sunshine

[Doggygirl]

I miss al

Shambles, you don't NEED a drink. Your addicted brain wants a FIX. That's unfortunately what's going on. You will never get out of the viscious cycle until you find a way not to drink.

Are you following any program? Have you read the My Way Out Book and are you using any of the recommented supplements and other tools? Are you considering any of the medical (prescription drug) options?

IMO, having a good plan is critical. AL is a powerful enemy.

DG

[Guest]

I miss al

As said above no-one ever NEEDS AL it's just your brain convincing you can't get by without it.

I find making things very simple works very well - i.e. lock the front door, make a hot drink, cosy up under a blanket and watch a film, several, fall asleep and when you wake you are onto another AF day.

[Winefree]

I miss al

Good advice already. Follow those suggestions. 7 days is a great start and some of the most difficult ones to get through. It's a sick brain just like was said. AL only makes things worse, it's a liar and a cheat, sneaking up on us when we are weak.
Don't let the poison win.

Winefree

[SweetHereafter]

I miss al

Hi Shambles. I am on Day 6, and I am feeling very similar! I am in a horrible mood, getting disappointing news right and left, 3 things are broken on my car, my boyfriend is being horrible....and all of these things are making me want to DRINK!!!

In fact, today the only reason I am NOT drinking is because I want to make it to Day 7.

Tomorrow, I don't know what is going to keep me from drinking. I'll worry about that then.

[Fibejebe]

I miss al

For me .... I saw alcohol as like a domestic violent relationship. And like the DV cycle when you get out of the relationship you miss the good parts of that relationship and gloss over the bad. But alcohol is a BAD relationship and the bad far outweighs the good for those of us who are alcoholics. If we could have a good relationship with it then I am sure everyone here would. But we can't. And that is why we are here.

Just as one partner often ends up killed in a domestically violent relationship, we can end up dead as a consequence of our relationship with alcohol. Just as sometimes the beaten partner takes many attempts to get out of the relationship alive, sometimes we take more than one attempt to get out of our relationship with alcohol alive. Some do not make it tho Shambles.

I don't know whether you will understand my analogy but it works for me. I hope that all of us on the MWO can get out of our relationship with alcohol alive.

FeeBee.
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[KatieB]

I miss al

Thats a fantastic analogy Fibejebe,
I think I will remember that one for myself.. most of us have found our way to this site because AL was killing us.. either slowly, or by getting into trouble, managing to survive drink driving etc.. all wake up calls to give up AL.. like you, I also hope everyone on this site gets out of the AL relationship alive..
Katie x

[dizilizid]

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Hey. They are all right. I was clean for 5 days and last night i got so drunk i can't remember anything. My life has changed. My problems have trippled. My wife has told me she never wants to see me again. She's taking my son. Don't make the mistake like i just did. Stick to staying sober. Cause from this mornin, i am really goin to stop messing around with it. It's too late to change what i did, but i hav reason now to really stop. I've lost everythin. Don't let the worst happen before you decide to stop. Do it now. Be strong. Alcohol is a devilish, horrible thing that only ruins people.

[Fibejebe]

I miss al

Oh Dizilizid.

That is really sad. But thank goodness you are using the events of last night as a wake up call that you do NEED to quit drinking rather than using it as an excuse to carry on drinking. I hope that after a period of sobriety your wife might give the new you another chance.

FeeBee.
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[K9Lover]

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Dizilizid,
Sorry you are having a hard time. Please pick yourself up and start over. Never forget how horrible you feel right now. Let this experience make you even stronger.
My thoughts are with you.
xoxo
K9