Help! ex being abusive yet again..

[hippie37]

Help! ex being abusive yet again..

Sometimes when you win, you really lose, and sometimes when you lose, you really win, and sometimes when you win or lose, you actually tie, and sometimes when you tie, you actually win or lose. Winning or losing is all one organic mechanism, from which one extracts what one needs.

[DiscoBunnie]

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Katie,

Your strength is seen by the fact that you came here for support. Give yourself a great big hug for making it through a very difficult situation. You did it!! Way to Go Katie!!

~db

[Guitarista]

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Hi Katie,
Yep, a family violence worker/service, resource willing, will stand by you. The federal Department of family services also provide/run supervised access centres, where visit's to children are supervised, for these exact sort's of unhealthy and abusive situations. Go to 'women's legal service' (free), representation in court, (free) or legal aid, (free) or your solicitor, and explore this option. Emotional abuse is now recognised as abuse, by the court's in Australia, and it is illegal. This is child abuse. It is not on, and it is now illegal in this country.

If you don't seek out this professional help in real life, the abuse will be slow to change, if at all. You can set the wheel's in motion right now if you haven't already. Lifeline (131114) will give you a couple of women's domestic violence crisis helplines to ring today, sunday, if you need some strategies. 50 cents from a public phone box if you have low/no credit on your mobile phone.

Best wishes, G.

[sunshinedaisies]

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Katie, I can't say anything that all those before haven't already said - but I just wanted to let you know that I do think you are an incredibly strong amazing lady. you have my total support and like all the others, I am here for you too, sending lots of healing powerful waves for you. Hang in there Katie - you can beat him - you are way better than him!!

hugs to you,

luv Sunshinedaisiesxx

[SKendall]

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Katie, it won't take many times of you appearing strong to thwart the husband. Do get a recorder and show it or not show it, although not showing it may not be admissable. The courts do not allow a child to be simply shifted from a biological parent to a girlfriend because your husband is being a bully. This is wrong on so many levels.

You are gaining strength and if you still feel bullied and afraid of him, ALWAY have someone there ( I had to), then when we went to court he tried to bully the prosecutor - wrong move - he was denied access to the kids for 6 weeks!

You are gaining, but you will have to stay strong, this is a lifetime investment. Good Luck sweetie.

[Change]

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Apparently you can also arrange for the exchanges to occur at a police station. I am in Australia and i am pretty sure an ex colleague does that.

Oh yeah, lol @ his threats about the 'other' woman, that is a joke!

[techie]

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Hi Katie - I miss you today. I hope your ok. Was thinking about you so I thought I write a quick post. Change was just here ahead so thats good karma. Be good stay safe....john

[OverIt2007]

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Hi Katie,

Im sorry your sons father is such a piece of shit girl. Just wanted to at least say that there is no way in Hell he has some "other woman" to be your sons mother. He is just using words to torture you, the little piece of shit that he is. I wish I could have been with you when he said these things, I would have kicked him in the nuts for you! Honestly! :H

[KatieB]

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Thank you all so much!
I have been having some "computer issues" so could not come on sooner to reassure and thank you all.. I ended up going on another date last night.. had an amazing time with an amazing man.. I told him all about my ex, and he was wonderfully supportive.. we ended up talking for around 8 hours.. when he left he said he was "smitten" with me! I am much happier today.. I did have a few AL drinks last night but managed to stay in control.. and I will definately remember all your wonderful words of support and encouragement re: dealing with my ex.. when he dropped him off today he actually apologised for being "mean" (a total bastard i wanted to tell him!) to me the last few days (or years more like..) - I think he now realises that nothing will work, and he did actually say that he has been making these threats thinking i would take him back (yeah right...) but he has finally admitted that nothing he says will ever make me want to get back with him.. and he seems to know that now..
I am feeling much better and pleased that i managed to talk myself out of getting depressed yesterday - and with the help of you all, i know i will not slip back into my old ways of self-harming.. but I am going to detox again and steer clear from AL.. one great thing about the guy last night is that he said he hardly drinks.. and i think i am going to admit to him soon about my issues with AL and depression.. i did tell him about my DUI though, and he was so great about that..
Katie xxx

[KatieB]

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oh and Mr G,
Thank you in particular.. I am seeking legal advice at the end of the week and see what I can do about my ex and his abuse/harrassment and threats to me in front of our son,
thanks again all,
Katie xx

[KatieB]

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hippie37;870911 wrote: Sometimes when you win, you really lose, and sometimes when you lose, you really win, and sometimes when you win or lose, you actually tie, and sometimes when you tie, you actually win or lose. Winning or losing is all one organic mechanism, from which one extracts what one needs.

Fantastic quote hippie,
xx

[summer girl]

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Katie: Please document every thing that he says to you even when he says he is sorry. He will be mean and then sorry,it will repeat it self over and over just like the cycle of physical abuse. It is very important for you. You need to show him for who he is.If anyone witness him saying anything to you please get them to document that as well. Another thing you can do is record him with your cell phone. The police need proof so they can help you. When you are in a relationship with an abusive person and leave they get angry because they have lost some of their control. You are doing the right thing comming here for help the people really care. Stay strong,you are making good choices and will attract good things and people. Hugs Summer l:l:

[Lion]

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Katie, Summer is absolutely right.....document everything! It might feel like you will remember everything the day it happens but the next abusive encounter will wipe the one before right out and next thing you know you wont remember exactly what he said, when he said it, etc. The courts and police really appreciate the careful documentation....and dont for one minute fall for his 'sorry about being mean' BS. He might be but that will pass incredibly fast! The best revenge is living well! And you are well on your way! I love what Summer girl said, you are attracting good thngs and people...tis so so true! You go girl! xx

[mama bear]

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Katie...I have been gone over the long weekend..but i am back now and here to support any way I can.
I am glad you met a nice man and maybe over time he can give you some extra strength....
We all love you here and will do anything to support you
All my love
Mama

[Lion]

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mama, i love how u just never give up awesome! u go girl