Assistance please!!

[Guest]

Hi

I'm back again asking for some support. I've gotten to a full, calendar 4 months (122 days) AF and of course no other substances too. The physical cravings are long gone but the mental urges pop up every now and then. Right now I'm in a very good place - work, home, relationships are going very well. I've lost 18 lbs and gotten very fit and strong again - to the point I'm thinking of competing again. Everyone says I'm looking fabulous every day and I've just won ?10 on the national lottery. Thing is my little brain is telling me I can relax now, that everything is hunky-dory - go out and celebrate after all that hard work. Go out and show everyone how well you are [materially] doing.

I'm going to get to an AA meeting this evening, but just asking for some words of support from this site as it's done me so well in the past.

By the way I have not bought any AL, do not have any in the house and have not attempted to do so. Just looking for some deep words I think!

[greeneyes]

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That feeling was my big fear for a long time UKblonde. I whittled at it until it was no longer a fear, it was something to consider. Then it became something to try. And I did. It brought me to my knees once again. Squash it now. Don't even reason with it. Just abolish it from your mind. Following your heart has led you to the wonderful space you are in now. Never let go of your heart for a moment. It is a fantastic example you set for people to see how to proactively avoid a mistake. Kudos to you, UK!

[spuddleduck]

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UK, you've got the reward, you're looking and feeling great. dont take the chance of spoiling all that. by all means go out and celebrate and show the world how well you're doing. DONT GO OUT AND SHOW THE WORLD YOU ARE A DRUNK. sorry if that sounds harsh but im sure you know yourself what will happen. its happened before. nothing changes. you are doing so fantastically well.... 4 months is amazing. think of where you were before. your life has changed for the better. if i still had tigger i would bring him to see you and kick your firm toned up arse. focus on the competing. that aint gonna happen if you drift back into your old ways. c'mon girl, youve been a great support to me. IT JUST ISNT WORTH TAKING THE CHANCE.

[Chillgirl]

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UKBlonde - You are a shiney example of everything sobriety has to offer! You look good, feel good, work and relationships are good. AL will just take that all away again. How wonderful is it to wake up in the morning (especially at the weekend) and feel great! Can you remember all these awful hangovers when you wondered how to get through the day? How you hated yourself for getting drunk.

4 months is absolutely fantastic!! And it should be celebrated, why not treat yourself to something new to wear on your new slimline figure or to a nice facial or massage. Get to that AA meeting tonight and if you are still having doubts I will be around here tonight if you want a chat.

[greeneyes]

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Sheri, you da bomb. You really are!

[betty boop]

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UKblonde, I'm just adding to everyone else here, keep busy until that AA meeting, you are an inspiration to many ............. Keep it up hon xxx

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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UK I read a phrase in a book yesterday that stuck with me "no one among us has been able to maintain anything like perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints. The point is that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines" What that says to me in the context of your post is that you are going to have troughs and mountain tops on this journey but you are a long way down this path traveling in the right direction. Next stop another incline, you are doing great.

Thing is my little brain is telling me I can relax now, that everything is hunky-dory - go out and celebrate after all that hard work.

Another thing is, why when we convince ourselves everything is ok again and there isnt really a problem with AL that the first thing we do is go out and drink? Ironically this only proves the point that there was a big problem in the first place.

[Doggygirl]

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UK, I love that you really work your program, which includes being honest and asking for help when you need it! I know that little voice all too well. LIAR!!!! (the voice)

A girl at an AA meeting a couple days ago shared something she picked up in rehab. In addition to a gratitude list, she keeps a consequence list. I think it's similar to the thread Sheri mentioned about "what I hate, loathe, etc." I think the difference is just the approach. "Here is the list of consequences I suffered directly as a result of drinking: 1., 2., 3., etc."

I am starting that list to keep along side my gratitude list. A reality check.

I listened to that voice in 2007 and drank. What a horrible mistake that was. Don't do it.

DG

[OverIt2007]

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Hi U.K. Blonde!!

You have got some amazing advice from some top notch people on here, Thats why I love this site so much. The wonderful people and advice.

Just want to throw in another option for you??? I used Antabuse to help me over the "rough" spots when I found I just could not seem to gain the willpower I needed for some sober time. I was honestly really scared to take it, but once that pill went down my throat, I would never dream of taking a drink. It freed me up really quick to just move on to other things in my life.

Just another option for you to know about, I know you will be successful and find what works for you the best, I know it!!

WIshing you much stength and success,

Lisa

[FallonsMom]

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Sheri thank you for that I'm going to print that out and carry with me.

[SKendall]

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A lot of wisdom in this thread. Thank you.

[rebirth]

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No big words here just that I really look up to you UKBlonde and will be devastated if you reward yourself. Please dont.

[sunshine_gg]

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Sheri, that was awesome. Thank you.

Uk Honey, from experience... we're NOT 'OK'. But you know that.
You've done extremely well, you've worked hard, and your 'reward' may be the competition. AL would NOT be a reward.. it would be a slap in the face.

:l Hang in there.. you are a very strong, inspiring lady. And press the delete button on those 'OK' thoughts, please.

[sunshinedaisies]

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Sheri - as FM said, that list is really good - I too am going to print it out - it has an answer to everything!! Thank you.

hugs, Sunshinedaisies x

[techie]

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UK Blonde I just love your posts. You always hit the target. I feel like you too often. The physical longing is completely gone, but I still fight the psychlogical craving now and then.

Oh btw, darhling you look mahel