son getting high

[Cinders]

son getting high

Avoidance will not work. Been there done that.

Let him know you know, let his father know. I know some parents can be over bearing but you must show a united front.

Talk to his father in a quiet moment when your son is not around. Get some ground rules in place and a plan in place.

At the end of the day, you both love him and you both want him to be well in life.

Pretending this isn't going on to avoid the confrontation will only make things worse.

I dislike confrontation, too, but have learned to deal with it. It still makes me sweat. But, your son is worth it.

Love,
Cindi

[Stargazerlily]

son getting high

Instead of getting angry, get him assessed by an addiction counselor and GET HIM TREATMENT. So many young people are addicted to marijuana. Can you get addicted to marijuana? Yes, you can. It is 30 to 50% THC in many cases, as they use sophisticated methods to grow it knowadays. Kids will "wake and bake," smoking as much as they can, affecting family relatinships, school, and eventually legal ramifications. Plus, lying is common. Good luck.

[Panno]

son getting high

If this was my daughter (I don't have a son) and I was worried about my husbands reaction I would take the stuff away and put a letter in its place explaining how worried you and that you have spoke NA (which I would) and also leave literature about the affects of drugs. Just my two pennies worth, hope all goes well and you have a good break, take care :l

[greeneyes]

son getting high

Um... it's the glue that really concerns me. Not to discount the pot, by any means, but I'd be checking aerosol cans, etc. and would come up with some plan quickly.

[rubywillow]

son getting high

LF, whether it's common for young people to experiment or not, it's illegal. I know some people I grew up with who still think it's 1970! Some stop, some dabble, and some follow the buzz to worse things. But the biggest issue is the huffing, glue sniffing. I also have friends who have lost their children to this. Watch for signs too of plastic bags, aluminum foil, and as someone mentioned, aerosol cans.
How you handle your husband is your call. But get rid of all the stuff. Burn it, throw it far away, but get rid of it, and call NA. Today! Your other son deserves this trip, so maybe the confrontation can wait till you get home. It's also dangerous for that stuff to be in his room, something your son probably didn't think of.
My heart goes out to you. I do so understand how hard it is to know the right thing, and sometimes even that doesn't work. But do your best, follow your heart, keep loving him.

[mama bear]

son getting high

I found pot in my sons room 2 years ago. He was standing there when I opened the drawer as I was putting away laundry and he almost died. We spoke quietly about it and of course I took it away and threw is out. After a long talk with him, I told him I would have to tell his father...that was the worst punishment possible. I also told him I would start drug testing him if I had to. Dad was very upset, but calm.....I wouldn't let him talk to son until he calmed down.
2 years later he is a great kid with two jobs and about to start college.
But...the glue scares the crap out of me.....and is he drinking the listerine???? That has huge amounts of alcohol...he has got a pretty deadly cocktail going.....can you call your family doctor and get some advice????
I am so sorry you are going through this...

[Rusty]

son getting high

I am with Mama Bear on her assessment. The glue issue and the possibility of your son "huffing" with aerosols is even more dangerous. So he may have multiple issues:: pot, glue, and huffing. Talk to your doctor or NA ASAP.

Since you have planned this vacation to Busch Gardens and do not want to ruin it for your husband and autistic son who have been waiting for this vacation....confront your son when you get back.