Tonight is/was the lastnight.

[Jewels83]

You have all been so pacient and good too me. It just gets hard the next day when withdrawals kick in. Usually in the afternoon; the shakes and nausea and it feels like the only way to feel better is another drink. Please help me. So many of you have tried before, but please don't give up on me.

Please share your stories of the early days, the withdrawals, and how you made it to the other side....the sober side.

I need my MWO friends more than ever right now. Please help me!

Love and xoxo to you all.

[mollyka]

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Poor Jewels, you are in the 'dark place'. You simply MUST remember your vow to stop today. Prepare for the w/d's to kick in - prepare in your head what you must do instead of that other drink. Get into bed if needs be, cosy up under the duvet, plenty of water, put on some music or tele to distract you and just get through the day. Don't think about the next day - deal with it tomorrow. Just today.
Jewels, none of us have 'made it to the other side', everyone here has a problem with alcohol - that's why we are here. Everyone of us, you, me, the olbies with years sober between them - we are all ONE DRINK AWAY. Don't lift up that drink, I'll be here for you as will so many others - you know that, but we can't stop you lifting the glass - you have to do that and really really WANT to do that. Thinking of you, sleep well and wake up strong!
Molly

[Jewels83]

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Thanks Molly. I really needed to hear someones voice.

Thank you so much!

[ChickenNumber3]

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So true Molly..well said!
We are only that one drink away....
Jewel....you CAN do this...if I can then anyone can....the first part is almost a leap of faith..just take the step....don't have a drink and ride out the storm....'this too shall pass'.
Good luck
Chook

[Seethepony]

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Jewels, have you tried baclofen? You sound like the kind of drinker I am - wake up determined to avoid the booze at all costs, only to find myself buying a six pack at six pm, anyway... and another one, shortly after that.

I am on a relatively small dose of baclofen (70mg/day) and I find that's enough to keep me off the booze, without worrying about it. I did get drunk maybe 4 times the last month - for strange reasons (and I had to almost force myself to do it) but before that it was usually 28 times a month - pretty much every day, really. So the results from just a small amount of baclofen can be impressive.

I'm not into this "i must do this with willpower alone" approach - cos I have tried and failed so many times, it's like one of those monks flogging himself with a stick. It's ridiculous, self-defeating, and depressing cos (if you're me!) you cannot win! If you feel the same way and would dearly like to do week-long stints without even thinking of alcohol, you ought to give baclofen a try.

[pompeyman]

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:h jewels wds can be dangerous i have breathed in my own vomit before ......... depending on how much you have been drinking be sure to be safe ........ it might be best to have an "emergency" can of AL just in case ........ but you know your own situation best ....... take care ....... just plan on three days in bed ....... no guilt ..... just do it!!!! as others have said ..... chill, sweat, shake be sick ....... try to take in water ....... sugary tea if tum up to it .......... food on day 2 if poss ....... good luck my thoughts are with you ..... take care my best advice is to clear the decks for those 3 days .......... if your coordination is ok go for a walk ........... just think about now forget the past and future at moment they will sort themselves out in time .......... if you have been drinking a lot tho i know everyone would say get medical advice ......... please let us know how you are doing PM x

[Choochie]

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Jewels, I have only made it 8 days (today) but this website and the people on it are what is making the difference for me. Just know that a lot of people are pulling for you and come here as often as you can. I don't have enough experience to give you advice but want to wish you the best.

[pompeyman]

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choochie 8 days is massive dont put yourself down PM x

[mama bear]

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I have made it 8 days with Antabuse ALONE...that's what did it...have you thought about that???

[pompeyman]

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well done mama ....... never tried it myself ......... have psoriasis and many of the creams are AL based so cant take it x all the best PM

[mama bear]

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thought it might work for jewels

[Coco-Nut]

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Hi Jewels - I don't know enough about your situation to offer advice but I did want to show my support. Keep on trying - it is sooooo worth it (YOU are sooooo worth it) - whether you need medical assistance, medication, or you can do it on your own. We are here for you!

xx

[Accountable for Me]

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jewels... it is that nasty roller coaster ride that so many of us have/had been living on! You are not alone.

I use to drink daily... eventually all day long; but when I did start daily, I would pick up that drink after work because I felt so horrible from the night before. IT was like medicine. Only to repeat the pattern, day after day.

It took me approximately 3 days to feel better after coming off the roller coaster. There was a lot of pain and suffering during those days. Mostly physical. Sleeplessness, body aches, dehydration, sweats & chills. HORRIBLE! Although I didn't stop the first or the 5 time of going for days being sober; I finally got 'sick' of always having to nurse myself back to becoming a functioning human being. That was when I was able to get months under my belt. I have slipped time to time; but I just want to be sober so bad, that I throw myself right back on the wagon. We are not all perfect. We just need to get over the hurdles and keep on going..... even if you slip up.

So, the first few days are horrible. That is the honest truth. If you can muster up the courage and fight through them; it is worth it.

Keep on trying!! That is all you can do!!

ps. if you are worried about withdrawals; I would suggest speaking to a health care adviser for a plan to come off. I quit cold turkey a few times and I have to admit my first was absolute Hell. I had terrible hallucinations.... tremors... etc. Luckily I made it through that. So please be cautious.

[Peacefull]

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Lots of great advice here, don't think I can add anything else except support. The first days, I was riddled with anxiety and took a naturopathic remedy to take the edge off. Valerian works as well. I like Sheri read a lot.

Rest, fuel your body with healthy food and constantly remind yourself why you want to quit and keep coming here.

[Doggygirl]

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Hi Jewels. Isn't it wonderful to read all these posts and the variety of different approaches people have taken that have WORKED??!! I hope this gives you hope. If we can do it, I know you can too.

Have you written down a plan? Can you state what is working and what is not? Are you willing to try something different that you haven't tried before? Bac? Antabuse? The complete MWO plan? AA? SMARTRecovery? Rational Recovery? There are a lot of choices. Each one of those programs exists because it works for some of the people. You just have to find what will work for you. You can do it.

DG