Despair?

[mauritiusdodo]

Please someone tell me is it normal to feel despair whilst going through early recovery, this feeling has just washed over me for no apparent reason, I feel as though I am worthless and my existence is pointless, I am not looking for sympathy just to know if this is part of the AL withdrawal please?
:upset::upset::upset:

[aust_boy]

Despair?

It is definitely normal. Despair is a horrible feeling and one that is hard to shake.

Alcohol dependency creates despair in us all and withdrawal is even worse. Hang in there!

[Rusty]

Despair?

Mauri-

Yes, it's a common feeling because you feel like you've lost your best "friend"....all that time you spent with your buddy, AL, is now gone. It does get better....it really does.

[Gaia]

Despair?

Normal as apple pie. DOn't be surprised if you are VERY tender. I cried buckets of tears.

It WILL pass. Just keep going through it.

[expat3]

Despair?

Gaia;1061216 wrote: Normal as apple pie. DOn't be surprised if you are VERY tender. I cried buckets of tears.

It WILL pass. Just keep going through it.

Yeppers!! I cried buckets after seeing a corny John Denver song someone posted on here!:H I can laugh about it now but I was just a wreck at the time. Hang in there.:l expat xxx

[prancy]

Despair?

Sadness about where you are. Unhappiness about where you've been. Uncertainty about how you will be in the future. Can you survive living with AL. Can you be happy and have fun living without it. Yup, I'd call that despair. I am there with you.

[mauritiusdodo]

Despair?

Thanks everyone, I feel like I am losing the plot today, I have everything to be thankful for quite apart from my current sobriety and yet I feel so tearful and upset and like my world is caving in :upset: I thought it was probably just another unwelcome side effect but just wanted reassurance, been out to the park and trying to be positive, it is just so hard today

[Wagoneer]

Despair?

Sending your strength and hope! It is hard, but it will pass. It's like a death. You don't feel like you can possibly on without that person (in this case Alcohol), but in time, you will go on. Life will be different, and in this case amazingly better. Best of luck to you friend.

[mauritiusdodo]

Despair?

thanks wagoneer

[autumn]

Despair?

Aw hun,

Sending huge hugs and hope. Yep, its norm. A whole rainbow of emotions, good and bad.

Can you talk to DH or best mate? Off loading might help.

You are raw and grieving. But it does get a whole lot better.

:l:h

[KundaliniGirl]

Despair?

Mauri, when you're feeling like this, I suggest reading as much as you have time for. Read everything on this site and also books like Allen Carr's The Easy Way to Stop Drinking. It takes time, but just read all the posts by people whose lives have improved dramatically now that they've stopped drinking. Just hold onto the thought that things will get better. They just don't change overnight. It took a while to get in the pickle, right, so it will take some time to think differently and learn how to ride the craving wave!

Hugs,
KG:l

[mauritiusdodo]

Despair?

I feel better today, guess I have to just ride the rollercoaster eh? Thank you all for your neverending support, I actually want to :upset: at the immense camaraderi (sp?) on here!

[Jolie]

Despair?

Mauri - close enough (the spelling that is). I'm in the middle of reading Allen Carr's book as well - very insightful. Since this post was last week, I know you are doing much better now. Hang in there!

[mauritiusdodo]

Despair?

Thanks Jolie, I tried Allen Carr's book but the whole way through all I could see was his annoying face and all I could hear was his annoying voice (I don't like him LOL) so I couldn't really gain anything from it!

[Jolie]

Despair?

Mauri - lol - his annoying face? I want to try and get through the whole thing just because I read so many good reviews about the book and how it helped so many people. We'll see but thanks for the chuckle. Everyone needs to find their own way here - that's for sure.

How are you doing?