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[slowly dying]

I have been drinking for over five years and it is only getting worse. It seems like everything hit at once, menopause (complete hysterectomy), thyroid removed (dependent on meds to keep me sane), empty nest (all but one that has a drug problem), mom and dad in their eighties (problems from day to day)! I can't find a reason to stop drinking!!!
I'm sick of it but it has a hold of me. Can someone give advice? I'm desperate!:thanks:

[RingingCedars]

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Hang in there.

slowly dying;1219812 wrote: I have been drinking for over five years and it is only getting worse. It seems like everything hit at once, menopause (complete hysterectomy), thyroid removed (dependent on meds to keep me sane), empty nest (all but one that has a drug problem), mom and dad in their eighties (problems from day to day)! I can't find a reason to stop drinking!!!
I'm sick of it but it has a hold of me. Can someone give advice? I'm desperate!:thanks:

Hi and welcome, SlowlyRecovering..I cannot say your chosen name. Nope, uh uh. You are going to make it! I've been lied to, lied about, stalked, alienated from my children (not due to al), had several home violations, gone through menopause(no body parts removed) and life still is sucking pretty big for me.

However, the only thing I can control is me and drinking myself into semi coma several nights a week does serve me absolutely nothing and actually made the difficulties MORE difficult.

You are a divine creation and deserve to be healthy. It really is the only thing you can give yourself. And by honouring yourself with health you will be better equipped to deal with all of life's problems much better. It won't make life change, you will change and be more in charge which is very empowering.

I hope that speaks to you as enough reason to take back your control. There is a lot of support and information on this site. Here's a start with the https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

Do keep asking specific questions whenever they arise. Best wishes.:l

[Nelz]

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slowly dying;1219812 wrote: I have been drinking for over five years and it is only getting worse. It seems like everything hit at once, menopause (complete hysterectomy), thyroid removed (dependent on meds to keep me sane), empty nest (all but one that has a drug problem), mom and dad in their eighties (problems from day to day)! I can't find a reason to stop drinking!!!
I'm sick of it but it has a hold of me. Can someone give advice? I'm desperate!:thanks:

It looks to me like you just listed a whole bunch of reasons NOT to drink. Although I did not have the other problems you had, my drinking career spanned daym near 20 years.

I havent had a hysto, but my wife has, so I know a little about that as well. All those things you have listed are all great reasons to put the bottle down, and do your best to deal with them one by one....you know the whole serenity prayer........give me strength to change, and peace to deal with.

You do have a mountain of things to wade through, and the journey of a thousand steps starts with the first one. Agreed that quiting now may seem harder, in reality, its the same. I used to also believe that having a beer or twelve would somehow make the problems go away..........man was I wrong. It only delayed the inevitable and made it worse in the long run, all the while I was damaging my body.

Do a little test, next time you feel the need to drink, redirect your thoughts to something else....cooking, cleaning, coming up with a battle plan to attack your problems. I think you will find two things. One, you in fact did not need the drink to help you cope, and by distracting yourself with other issues, you solved or lessened the problem.

I hope this helps, its not going to be easy, but it WILL be worth it, AND you will soon find you are putting AF(alcohol free) days together, and getting much praise and cheer from all of us. And it will in fact get "easier" to not try and use the crutch the more days you can manage.

Oh almost forgot, you will get a bunch of these...........the more days you get~!

I like to call this, the Nelz seal of approval

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[janka]

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Hi there -- I've basically lived through similar things. It ALWAYS helped to wake up without a hangover and face the day. Just go slowly, be patient with time, let time pass and "surf the urge" it does get better ... just takes time.

[Barbara1234]

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slowly dying;1219812 wrote: I have been drinking for over five years and it is only getting worse. It seems like everything hit at once, menopause (complete hysterectomy), thyroid removed (dependent on meds to keep me sane), empty nest (all but one that has a drug problem), mom and dad in their eighties (problems from day to day)! I can't find a reason to stop drinking!!!
I'm sick of it but it has a hold of me. Can someone give advice? I'm desperate!:thanks:

Slowly dying,

Nelz is right, you have a bunch of reasons to quit the madness cycle of crazy procrastination.
Try L-Glut to take you through the sugar and carbohydrate cravings. About a rounded teaspoon of the powder 2-3 times per day works great. Mix it in water or juice.
Visit the Tool Box and make yourself a plan. Also this is the best place to get support.
Good Luck to you! The other stuff is still going to be there when you sober up, so why not just skip the booze? It doesn't solve anything.

[Unwasted]

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SD, you should also think about posting in the Newbie's Nest on the front page - lots of support there. Alcohol just seems at the moment to be helping you, but in truth it's making everything harder. You pay dearly for the short numb-out time. If you can put together some AF days, things will begin to get clearer.

Food is really important - try to eat very healthy stuff especially at the beginning. Drink lots of water with lemon and tea. Read as much as you have time for, and keep posting

Peace and Strength to you.

[slowly dying]

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I can't believe how many of you responded so quickly. I am sooo glad I found this site. Thanks for the support and encouragement. I'm gonna try hard. I'll keep posting, please keep responding.
thank you everyone!

[Supercrew]

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slowly dying;1219812 wrote: I have been drinking for over five years and it is only getting worse. It seems like everything hit at once, menopause (complete hysterectomy), thyroid removed (dependent on meds to keep me sane), empty nest (all but one that has a drug problem), mom and dad in their eighties (problems from day to day)! I can't find a reason to stop drinking!!!
I'm sick of it but it has a hold of me. Can someone give advice? I'm desperate!:thanks:

Hi SD!

It sounds like you have many reasons to stop drinking. And always remember there are no reasons to drink, only excuses.

Your medical issues alone are great reasons to stay sober, plus meds and alcohol don't mix well. It also sounds as if your family needs you. Be an example to your children on how to beat substance abuse, and be in your right mind for your parents who need your clarity and your love during these years.

Sobriety is worth it and so are you!

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[FlyAway]

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Here is a link to the https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html. The Tool Box is a list of suggestions that people here found helpful to them while trying to quit. And I agree with Barbara that L-Glutamine can help with cravings.

[Barbara1234]

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I put the link to the Tool Box in My Favorites so that I can get to it quickly. Thanks FlyAway!

[FlyAway]

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How are you doing SD? I'm thinking of you and hope that you're still reading here.

[Turnagain]

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SD, girl...were we separated at birth?

Let's see...thyroid out - yup. quasi-empty nest. check. Mental pausing...uh huh. Aging parents...sigh.

Oh...and I was slowly dying.

Coming here and posting took a great act of courage AND strength on your part. When we are sucked deep into the dark dank hole of addiction it is nearly impossible to come up for air and light. You've taken a step - a big step - in making it back to the land of the fully living.

Here are a couple of links to some info that has been exceptionally helpful to me. Understanding the mechanics of addiction and the process of healing has

Pleasure Unwoven - YouTube

Identifying & correcting the biochemical disruption of hypoglycemia and alcoholism

Welcome....and I've got some really good news for you. As you look around here, you'll notice there are many who are now free of the addiction to Al. It is truly liberating

[FreeFly]

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SD - I just want to give you a big hug :l and like Ringing Cedars says, I just can't say your name. Lovely words said to you already here - I can only agree. Oh, and do come to the Newbie Nest - lots of great support there :h

[Girl1973]

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same ole' crap - again

I am trying and trying, going to couseling...nothing is helping - I am SO sick of this, a bottle a day is expensive, and I sleep all day and hate work and have no energy. I do not know what to do or where to turn, I need to get serious about this and actually DO something. I took the first step, waiting in the inner city for an assesment so the county would fund me for treatment, but I do not know where it is going, I leave treatment and get a bottle when I leave. I have so much ahead of me, I cannot be like this. At work around 7pm I get such anxiety it is unbearable, I already have it but AL does not help - and I KNOW this but I cannot wait to get home and drink - it is disgusting, I vomit every morning, not food just phlegm and bile I am sure, and this year the G.I issues started, my poor insides.........what to do what to do, I am so unhappy - please help

[FlyAway]

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Girl1973;1227723 wrote: I am trying and trying, going to couseling...nothing is helping - I am SO sick of this, a bottle a day is expensive, and I sleep all day and hate work and have no energy. I do not know what to do or where to turn, I need to get serious about this and actually DO something. I took the first step, waiting in the inner city for an assesment so the county would fund me for treatment, but I do not know where it is going, I leave treatment and get a bottle when I leave. I have so much ahead of me, I cannot be like this. At work around 7pm I get such anxiety it is unbearable, I already have it but AL does not help - and I KNOW this but I cannot wait to get home and drink - it is disgusting, I vomit every morning, not food just phlegm and bile I am sure, and this year the G.I issues started, my poor insides.........what to do what to do, I am so unhappy - please help

So you're going to outpatient treatment? Do they know that you're drinking as soon as you leave? Have you talked to your counselor about that? Can you make it a single day without drinking? Would inpatient treatment be a possibility? So many questions, I know.