I really don't know where to start...
My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months. When she is sober we have the BEST chemistry, the BEST talks, and everything is absolutely amazing!
She enjoys drinking... and I do too, but when she drinks she becomes a DIFFERENT person. She says very hurtful things, and makes no sense!
I am fine with her drinking, but when she gets trashed, I do have a problem with how she acts, and the things she says.
Today, when she was drunk on the phone (she likes to drink alone sometimes), she told me "Everything you are and have is because of me". Keep in mind, this was randomly said, in the midst of all of her tangents that made no sense.
When I asked why she then said, "Your good grammar, I gave that to you."
I had good grammar before I met her!! I replied, "You did not teach me good grammar!" She then said, " Look babe, I'm much older then you, I know what I'm talking about, (fill in with random tangents)"
By this point I was getting agitated, so I told her I had to go.
She calls me over and over again, acting as if nothing happened, asking me where I was, when I told her MANY times already.
Then, after I told her I don't want to talk to her on the phone when she's drunk, she calls back with "Look, if you are cheating on me just tell me!"
I said "Please don't say that to me! Because I am not going to deal with this!" (She has said things like this, much more vulgarly, in the past. I almost broke up with her many times because of her drunken rants.)
I hang up... and she calls me back, again acting like nothing happened! I asked her how much she drank, she becomes very defensive, asking me " Why are you tripping?"
This leads to more RUDE NONSENSE... ending with the finale...
"You don't have a job, you don't go to school, you haven't done shit in your life! You are NOTHING. You are NOTHING, and you think you can make fun of me?"
First of all, I did not make fun of her. Secondly, she doesn't have a job. I had to withdraw from my semester from a terrible illness I just recovered from. I did not provoke her. I was trying my utmost best to remain calm and level-headed, and she comes at me with that? That has to be one of the most fucked up things she's ever said to me! PLUS, she doesn't have a job! WTF
And I know that tomorrow, she is going to call me and act like nothing happened. We've had these talks before, these incidents have occurred before, and she always tells me she's sorry and she won't do it again. She's told me that she enjoys drinking, she doesn't drink every day, but she binge drinks, then gets trashed, I almost always have to carry her to bed, etc.
I just don't know how to feel about this anymore. Am I over reacting? I feel like she has dual personalities, and the insensitive, arrogant personality comes out when she's drinking. I've asked her in the past not to call me when she's drinking at home, and she agreed, yet when she calls me drunk, and I don't want to talk to her, she accuses me of cheating?
I am at my wits end...
Any advice would be very appreciated.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 months. When she is sober we have the BEST chemistry, the BEST talks, and everything is absolutely amazing!
She enjoys drinking... and I do too, but when she drinks she becomes a DIFFERENT person. She says very hurtful things, and makes no sense!
I am fine with her drinking, but when she gets trashed, I do have a problem with how she acts, and the things she says.
Today, when she was drunk on the phone (she likes to drink alone sometimes), she told me "Everything you are and have is because of me". Keep in mind, this was randomly said, in the midst of all of her tangents that made no sense.
When I asked why she then said, "Your good grammar, I gave that to you."
I had good grammar before I met her!! I replied, "You did not teach me good grammar!" She then said, " Look babe, I'm much older then you, I know what I'm talking about, (fill in with random tangents)"
By this point I was getting agitated, so I told her I had to go.
She calls me over and over again, acting as if nothing happened, asking me where I was, when I told her MANY times already.
Then, after I told her I don't want to talk to her on the phone when she's drunk, she calls back with "Look, if you are cheating on me just tell me!"
I said "Please don't say that to me! Because I am not going to deal with this!" (She has said things like this, much more vulgarly, in the past. I almost broke up with her many times because of her drunken rants.)
I hang up... and she calls me back, again acting like nothing happened! I asked her how much she drank, she becomes very defensive, asking me " Why are you tripping?"
This leads to more RUDE NONSENSE... ending with the finale...
"You don't have a job, you don't go to school, you haven't done shit in your life! You are NOTHING. You are NOTHING, and you think you can make fun of me?"
First of all, I did not make fun of her. Secondly, she doesn't have a job. I had to withdraw from my semester from a terrible illness I just recovered from. I did not provoke her. I was trying my utmost best to remain calm and level-headed, and she comes at me with that? That has to be one of the most fucked up things she's ever said to me! PLUS, she doesn't have a job! WTF
And I know that tomorrow, she is going to call me and act like nothing happened. We've had these talks before, these incidents have occurred before, and she always tells me she's sorry and she won't do it again. She's told me that she enjoys drinking, she doesn't drink every day, but she binge drinks, then gets trashed, I almost always have to carry her to bed, etc.
I just don't know how to feel about this anymore. Am I over reacting? I feel like she has dual personalities, and the insensitive, arrogant personality comes out when she's drinking. I've asked her in the past not to call me when she's drinking at home, and she agreed, yet when she calls me drunk, and I don't want to talk to her, she accuses me of cheating?
I am at my wits end...
Any advice would be very appreciated.
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